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The content of the email doesn't matter to me. Unless it was blatantly inappriorate. Such as rude sexual comments. I would make decision largely based on the profile and photos. I don't mind the "How are you" initial emails. However if the subsequent emails were very generic, brief, poorly written etc and he was unable to carry a conversation. Then I would lose interest. ya a sexual comment is a horrible idea. I don't get why guys would even do that unless they don't know any better. It's very cheap |
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I wanna know what you guys write? Or girls like to read in your inbox that get you to respond? I've tried everything from writing classy lines to funny jokes to poems to plain n simple Hi, how are you? Very rarely you get a reply. I do know girls prolly get tons of messages, especially the cute ones. But you would think they would respond to something. So Girls write your thoughts, what would you like a guy to say to get you to respond. Or if any of you guys know the secret, tell lol. Online chat is very different from real life. And its not so much about knowing what a Girl will respond to, but about starting a conversation. Most guys are decent n have manners. But just coz you haven't said what gets a response you are left guessing. Thanks and keep this post alive ! In my experience, you can pour your heart out in the best letters you could write and only to find it later in the trash can of her. The more women I meet, the less I understand them. For starter, try hey, hello, what's up, hi. If they won't respond, forget about them. there is no trick involved. ya very true dude sometimes girls can be a bit confusing. But I think reading their profile and getting something they mentioned in the message might get their attention. I noticed also if you use their name like Hi Nicole instead of just hi, gets some of them to reply. You must also consider that it's not your fault. It's a big possibility. Or the person behind the profile is completely different than the real person Or they aren't really looking Or they are leading on several men at once and she shuffles men around like playing cards who should be dated. Seen all of them. haha that would be kinda mean but its 1 way to look at it. |
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I think the length of a first contact email would depend on the person. I have had emails that grabbed my attention with only a line or two and others that were a couple of paragraphs it depends on the email. I think the most important thing is to be who you are.. sounds good 
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Just be you...someone will appreciate that.
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Wed 11/25/09 08:19 PM
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I only reply to emails from guys I'm interested in, and the one I'm interested in didn't write me first, I wrote him.
 I don't think there's a "magic formula" to get anyone to notice you. Either people find you interesting/attractive/amusing or whatever or they don't, and it really doesn't matter what you write. Your email could be funny, witty, amazing, dull, boring, stupid or whatever, but if the person on the other end finds something intriguing about you either from your photo, profile, or posts in the forums, they will be interested in you. If I were you, I'd just find a woman I was interested in, give a really good reason why you're interested in her (not just because she's "really cute") and then strike up a conversation. If she replies great, if she doesn't, whatever. Don't take it personally. Like you said, many women get lots of emails, so it's unrealistic to expect them to answer them all. And contrary to what men say of replying to say you're not interested, yeah, that doesn't work, and it defeats the point. Nine times out of ten, if someone replies "not interested" all that does is open up a long line of unwanted dialogue, so it's easier to leave the mail unanswered. Good luck in your search. |
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I wanna know what you guys write? Or girls like to read in your inbox that get you to respond? I've tried everything from writing classy lines to funny jokes to poems to plain n simple Hi, how are you? Very rarely you get a reply. I do know girls prolly get tons of messages, especially the cute ones. But you would think they would respond to something. So Girls write your thoughts, what would you like a guy to say to get you to respond. Or if any of you guys know the secret, tell lol. Online chat is very different from real life. And its not so much about knowing what a Girl will respond to, but about starting a conversation. Most guys are decent n have manners. But just coz you haven't said what gets a response you are left guessing. Thanks and keep this post alive ! How could ANYONE,,,NOT like that in YOU? Talk from a real center of who you are,,and be very firm about who you are in doing it,,,no doubts, no faking, just YOU.. and be sincere,,,,she will READ THAT,,and maybe write back, but most here I would think,,need to have some kind of an idea about you, before they return your email,,,, so explain why your writing them,,if they have never seen your words before..,,,,thats about it,,,,and YOU'll get emails back. |
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I was just reading your profile.Based on what you have listed.Look at profiles that have a few common grounds, with what you like....So when you deside to write someone you can start out by saying...
Hi, was viewing your profile,and it seems we have some common intrests.I noticed you like snowboarding.I don't get out as much as I like,so looking for a new friend to hang with,maybe share a cup of coffee.Read my profile.If you feel there is an intrest,get back with me...And thank you for taking the time reading my note. Sincerely...(your name, or site name) This is only a sugestion. |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Wed 11/25/09 08:40 PM
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I also consider to have a dynamic profile. I have changed what was written in mine many times. (right now it doesn't say much, because i'm hanging in a twilight zone kinda thing) Anyone who would be following it closely can learn a lot about me. And those see it the first time might not like everything you wrote once, but as long as you keep writing the truth about you, but change things in it at certain times, perhaps other get attracted by something else.
Keep it updated to the current status and change your pics sometimes. In my opinion you get more chance if you offer more and the profile is always fresh and up to date. |
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Kick em in da butt!!!!
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