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Topic: I'm in love with you but..........
Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 02/21/10 05:04 PM
It only seems cruel because you didn't want it to end. I don't think people walk out of a relationship or a marriage to be cruel..maybe some. Everyone should have the freedom to be who they are, to do what makes them happy, and not have to be somewhere or with someone out of obligation. I've been on both ends, I'm not making light of it.. 30 years is a long time..and people do change. The only love that stays the same is the love for our children, the rest is all subjective. I wouldn't look at a 30 year marriage ending as a failure...30 years with the same person is a success.

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Sun 02/21/10 05:10 PM
I wouldn't look at a 30 year marriage ending as a failure...30 years with the same person is a success. Well said 30 years is a great achievement. The OP should be proud of this. Celebrating 30 years is the very definition of success, although it's understandable why they feel as they do now.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sun 02/21/10 05:13 PM
It only seems cruel because you didn't want it to end. I don't think people walk out of a relationship or a marriage to be cruel..maybe some. Everyone should have the freedom to be who they are, to do what makes them happy, and not have to be somewhere or with someone out of obligation. I've been on both ends, I'm not making light of it.. 30 years is a long time..and people do change. The only love that stays the same is the love for our children, the rest is all subjective. I wouldn't look at a 30 year marriage ending as a failure...30 years with the same person is a success. Thanks Lori I guess Jess bumped this back up .Underestand though it's the words i do'nt like I did'nt fail I know that .Tere are other parts to the problem that I did'nt express which maybe would have clarified .I just do'nt want to rehash old wounds .I was hopeing someone could clarify useing those words in the middle of kicking someone when they're down already .

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sun 02/21/10 05:16 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!!

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Sun 02/21/10 05:20 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!! Thank you wise one How's life, Jess?

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 02/21/10 05:21 PM
It only seems cruel because you didn't want it to end. I don't think people walk out of a relationship or a marriage to be cruel..maybe some. Everyone should have the freedom to be who they are, to do what makes them happy, and not have to be somewhere or with someone out of obligation. I've been on both ends, I'm not making light of it.. 30 years is a long time..and people do change. The only love that stays the same is the love for our children, the rest is all subjective. I wouldn't look at a 30 year marriage ending as a failure...30 years with the same person is a success. Thanks Lori I guess Jess bumped this back up .Underestand though it's the words i do'nt like I did'nt fail I know that .Tere are other parts to the problem that I did'nt express which maybe would have clarified .I just do'nt want to rehash old wounds .I was hopeing someone could clarify useing those words in the middle of kicking someone when they're down already . Just a not understanding of the words another uses can be painful ..understanding that one with ya. I think what AngelArs said is important to..falling in love really is easy, working on the friendship over the years is the challenge. Many get complacent and assume that they will always be there. Hence the "best friend" connection. It's been joked about..really a fair amount of truth to keeping the ole home fires burning. Sorry you had to be hurt (((Bob)))

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sun 02/21/10 05:22 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!! Thank you wise one How's life, Jess? It's fantastic!....life is a heartbeat.....the highs and the lows... if it ever flatlines......I must have died while I wasn't looking... How's you?

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Sun 02/21/10 05:24 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!! Thank you wise one How's life, Jess? It's fantastic!....life is a heartbeat.....the highs and the lows... if it ever flatlines......I must have died while I wasn't looking... How's you? I'm blessed and life is good. How's the little one doing?

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sun 02/21/10 05:27 PM
Thanks Jess I should yank you over here and spank ya ! Thank you again Lori your absolutely right and I really appreciate your kind words .What I do for a liveing did'nt help matters any and as I stated when those words were brought up in another post it just stirred old wounds .I am long over the loss and have moved on as best I can .I appreciate you good people more than you'll ever know !

Jess642 Joined Sat 03/31/07 Posts: 22732	Sun 02/21/10 05:27 PM Edited by Jess642 on Sun 02/21/10 05:33 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!! Thank you wise one How's life, Jess? It's fantastic!....life is a heartbeat.....the highs and the lows... if it ever flatlines......I must have died while I wasn't looking... How's you? I'm blessed and life is good. How's the little one doing? Rhi started high school about 4weeks ago....no more major migraines.... a few little mini quakes, but no catastrophic ones.... she still gets the 'click' thing...which the pediatric neurologist said was some form of youth epilepsy....but isn't frightening her, or affecting her as much as they were.. thankyou for remembering her...

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 02/21/10 05:29 PM
Thanks Jess I should yank you over here and spank ya ! Thank you again Lori your absolutely right and I really appreciate your kind words .What I do for a liveing did'nt help matters any and as I stated when those words were brought up in another post it just stirred old wounds .I am long over the loss and have moved on as best I can .I appreciate you good people more than you'll ever know ! ahhh..yeah, I didn't even think of that, the driving..yep, makes sense. Nothing but kind words for you

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sun 02/21/10 05:30 PM
I was'nt aware of that Jess.Glad everythings ok with her .And with you have'nt seen you in quite awhile !

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Sun 02/21/10 05:42 PM
Bumped? Nope..... I YANKED it back up!!! Thank you wise one How's life, Jess? It's fantastic!....life is a heartbeat.....the highs and the lows... if it ever flatlines......I must have died while I wasn't looking... How's you? I'm blessed and life is good. How's the little one doing? Rhi started high school about 4weeks ago....no more major migraines.... a few little mini quakes, but no catastrophic ones.... she still gets the 'click' thing...which the pediatric neurologist said was some form of youth epilepsy....but isn't frightening her, or affecting her as much as they were.. thankyou for remembering her... I always remember those that I keep in prayer my friend I'm so happy to hear that she is doing better. Give her a big hug for me

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sun 02/21/10 05:50 PM
What Star needs to do is get a cheap bottle of tequila and an even cheaper hooker and forget the ex. Talk is cheap and just bailing is even easier. as always,...the one who truly valued the relationship is the only one to agonize over it. I know it ain't easy to do but, one of my prime survival mechanisms is to disconnect the dots and walk away. Believe me..the more you do it...the more practical it becomes.

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sun 02/21/10 05:51 PM
How about good tequila Krups ? That would work !

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Sun 02/21/10 06:08 PM
How about good tequila Krups ? That would work ! That will do just fine. Use it to wash down a xanex and all your woes are forgotten till tommorrow....when you are thinkng....why the hell was I sleeping in the yard? Wait a minute! Whose sheets are these???..............been there done that!

STARTRAVELER Joined Thu 02/14/08 Posts: 9691	Sun 02/21/10 06:11 PM
How about good tequila Krups ? That would work ! That will do just fine. Use it to wash down a xanex and all your woes are forgotten till tommorrow....when you are thinkng....why the hell was I sleeping in the yard? Wait a minute! Whose sheets are these???..............been there done that! Gotta love ya man !I'll try that if theres a next time !