I did this before and it was fun. So, I'm offering my advice again on mixing, mingling and flirting.

I won't answer any questions about relationships because there are others doing that. This from saying hello to the starting of a sexual relationship. It's about making a good first impression and creating comfort, trust and connection.

So, ask away.

OK TS.... I had a great date the other day with an Aquarius,(which is one of my compatible signs) He was a doll, a sweetheart and obviously interested in seeing me again. We talked later that night and again today. He has made it very clear he wants to see me again..talking of a valentine's date.
I understand they are unpredictable at times, I'm ok with that. I like that or I get bored...should I let him make the next move or make my interest more known..?

Dear Scoundrel:

I met a guy here on Mingle.
Now he doesn't want me to mingle any more.
I think this is unreasonable.
So I contribute under another's profile.
Is this wrong?

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You may not need to make the next move, but it's never the wrong thing to do. So many men today are simply confused. Unless you have given him a very clear single he may not understand. He wants you, but he's afraid of doing something wrong an pushing you away.

If you want him to lead, tell him that. If you're ok with leading, just touch his penis through his jeans and let him know what you're thinking.

This is a relationship question. And a stupid one. You want to know if it's alright to lie to your SO? NO!

Work it out or break up.

He knows I'm interested...He is not confused..no way!. You know how you Aquarius's are...lol And I took him a little birthday gift.
Do you really think it's acceptable to touch his crotch on a second meeting?

Of course he does. He prefers so on the first.

I know that for many years I wouldn't believe any woman could be interested in me and that the only reason she'd come on to me was because she wanted something else. You wouldn't believe how shy I was.

Touch his penis only if it feels right to you. This is all about being yourself. But, he will love it!

Yeah but I'm not talking bout Scoundrel..I'm referring to another Aquarius..

Well, he is not shy..and yes, I'm sure he would love it if I touched his penis..will that make me a slut?

Yikes.
No humor.
Pass.

Mine is simple. Apparently I need to find someone that is a Cancer and then I could live happily ever after. How do I find such a creature?

I have a somewhat different view about what makes someone a slut. How many, how often and what kind of sex has nothing to do with it. If a woman or man loves sex and likes having sex with lots of different partners that doesn't make them a slut IMHO. Having sex for reason other than enjoyment does. A slut has sex for validation or to fit in with the group.

So, if you rub his penis because you like the way it feels in your hand and because you want to give him pleasure, no it doesn't make you a slut. It makes you a confident, sexual woman and that is very attractive.

Get out of the house and talk to anyone that seems the least bit interesting. See if you have a connection with someone.

Ok..fair enough.

He has said he is weird about calling because he doesn't want to call while I'm in the shower, busy with the kids, bother me..whatever..but said he will answer and would love for me to call and would love to talk with me. To me that sounded and felt sincere..so should I call?

So, he is shy. He needs you to make that first move of calling. If you want him of course you should call. If he doesn't answer, call again later.

I have made the 2 calls..he does answer and we have had great conversations...so just keep doing what I'm doing and maybe touch his penis when I see him next..? How about a light brush up and not a full on grab?

Yes, just sort of an open and rub, like rubbing his thigh. Or sort of cup him and a little squeeze. Look into his eyes and smile. You'll enjoy his expression.

ok...I'll be seeing him this weekend and I will take all your advise into consideration. If this guys runs when I "touch" him..your gonna hear about it!

Fair enough. But, I also want to hear about it if it goes great.