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I've noticed that the majority of men who I consider dateable and worth my time aren't even CLOSE to my "local service area" [lol]. I'm in California and I have "met" people from Louisiana and New York to Ohio and back again. I'm frustrated that such great people [men and women alike] are so spread apart. I feel like the geographical constraints are ALMOST a deal breaker. I'm seeking advice on what to do.[I guess] Normally speaking I'm a risk taker...but when it comes to my heart... i'm protective... overly so sometimes... because the pains of loves past are unforgettable in my eyes....I don't want to go through that pain again... What do I do?
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Don't Panic! Well... really there is no such thing as instant gratification. All you can do is roll along as things unfurl. Heck, Texas girls love me and I am in CA myself. Love sucks!
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Join in the forums and make friends post alot there is great people on here, I know the geographical is a bit of a problem however my advice is make friends in the forums and when you least expect it you will find someone have fun and good luck
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Such a tough situation. It sounds like you are still hurting from past loves. I think we all are to be honest. As far as the distance thing, I would just take it one step at a time, and see where it takes you. Guard your heart, but also share it bit by bit to those you feel are worth it. In time, you will get there. Wish I was as young as you! Try starting over at 43...
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eh, ya never know...keep your heart open. Do ya really think your gonna find the love of your life in your own backyard..
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 ... Yep, welcome to Mingle and the new Wild West ... Take a number! Do be careful and open at the same time ... Think tight rope balance ... 
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I've noticed that the majority of men who I consider dateable and worth my time aren't even CLOSE to my "local service area" [lol]. I'm in California and I have "met" people from Louisiana and New York to Ohio and back again. I'm frustrated that such great people [men and women alike] are so spread apart. I feel like the geographical constraints are ALMOST a deal breaker. I'm seeking advice on what to do.[I guess] Normally speaking I'm a risk taker...but when it comes to my heart... i'm protective... overly so sometimes... because the pains of loves past are unforgettable in my eyes....I don't want to go through that pain again... What do I do? Overly protective. Well, r0ck, you can end up hurting yourself for that. You have to put yourself out there again and roll the dice, play the cards. Maybe you'll get hurt again, maybe you won't. But you'll always be alone if you don't risk your heart. So that's what you really need to decide. You can prepare yourself for a rejection, and maybe it will hurt a little less, but you have to know, going in there's always that chance, that it will all go right or it will all go wrong. I've been hurt alot in my life, and I will always risk my heart for another, no matter what it takes, because in the end, I know I did the right thing.
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Yeah...I mean... its hard for me to really be deterred but at the same time easy. [it just doesnt make sense] I feel so cheated... in the sense that all the "good ones" are so far away....
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I've noticed that the majority of men who I consider dateable and worth my time aren't even CLOSE to my "local service area" [lol]. I'm in California and I have "met" people from Louisiana and New York to Ohio and back again. I'm frustrated that such great people [men and women alike] are so spread apart. I feel like the geographical constraints are ALMOST a deal breaker. I'm seeking advice on what to do.[I guess] Normally speaking I'm a risk taker...but when it comes to my heart... i'm protective... overly so sometimes... because the pains of loves past are unforgettable in my eyes....I don't want to go through that pain again... What do I do? If you meet someone that you are attracted to online and would like for it to go further, then one of you must be willing to relocate in order for a serious relationship to develop. If neither of you is willing to do that, then a long distance relationship would be the next best thing. But that would mean only seeing each other every so often. But both of you would have to be up for that. It would not work if only one of you was willing to travel to see the other person. And if neither of the above are options, then guess what? Just remain online friends. Good Luck. 
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You are experiencing "internet myopia." The closer at hand these "great people" are the less great they will seem. You cannot construct a semi-fantasy image when the person is looking you in the eye.
The chances of LDR's succeeding are about the same as local relationships. However, the time invested in one LDR hardly seems equitable with the ability to meet several people a week locally. |
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Oh, I totally agree. I mean, I've been in a long distance relationship before. It obviously was unsuccessful... so thats ultimately my worry.
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