What age group are you looking at? What about men and all there baby momma's??

What age group are you looking at? What about men and all there baby momma's??

Plenty of them. They can be overwhelming at times.

so you don't like what you have?

hey while you were using your charm and good looks to play the field some of us were actually taking a chance on LOVE. Now you get all our sloppy seconds. Not that you would mind because you were used to playing the field anyways, LOL, generally speaking.

hey while you were using your charm and good looks to play the field some of us were actually taking a chance on LOVE. Now you get all our sloppy seconds. Not that you would mind because you were used to playing the field anyways, LOL, generally speaking.

The girlfriend (?) I had before for 6 months, she didn't tell me that she has an unsettled marriage, her husband is somewhere on this planet . . .

That aint love tho. Lots of folks decide its not love they want so much as a social arrangement.

I'm getting married this fall. Oh no! LOL, just kidding. I read some of the comments on here, some are interesting and some are funny. My recommendation for the guys: Wait. I'm 39 now and I decided it was time to settle down. My fiance is 25, and she is smoking hot. I could've never had her when I was in my twenties. I spent the last 15 years building up my consulting business and now that I'm successful, and lost 15 lbs and got myself in shape I was able to date so many more suitable women for me. Sometimes at the gym some of the older ladies in there will ask me out and I just laugh... I don't take them too seriously. And all the comments about dating foreign women, nah, I don't recommend it. What would you possibly have in common? Besides, it seems like the younger and upcoming generation of girls have a better attitude, I don't know what it is, maybe the whole feminism/unreal expectations thing has lost momentum. Before I met my fiance, I dating a few ladies that were 30+.... I don't recommend that either. They were just too busy, too closed off to pursue a serious relationship. I know everyone has a different life experience, but I suspect this is not an uncommon phenomenon. Even without the typical baggage, ie. exe's, children, etc. there is that underlying emotional baggage. It just doesn't work. There are plenty of girls in their twenties who are still in good shape, and they're not jaded, and if you keep yourself up and are reasonably responsible and successful, you should be able to land one. It's just better. I know this might come across as a "double-standard", or "unfair", but that's just silly. That's like saying the sky is blue, I want it to be red, or the grass is green, I want it to be purple, etc. It's just part of life, relax and go with it.

Here is the problem. American men are not good enough for American women. American women need to mate with another species from outer space, or perhaps our genetic scientists can breed a new, improved gender that will meet up to their expectations.

Women want a home, children, a family life, a network of friends, a social life, and romantic intimacy with a male partner who wants the same things she does. There are three denominations of Romance popular among American women right now.

1. The Princess is in search of her knight in shining armor, her Lancelot, her Prince Charming, who is THE ONE. THE ONE is the man that fate, destiny, God, or Fortuna has designed just for her. He loves what she loves. He wants to spend time with her, listen to her, and tend to her needs. He can also fulfill his mission as sire of her brood and will be an attentive and loving father.

2. The Cosmo Girl wants it all: education, house, marriage, career, travel, fun, lots of friends, a social life, dancing, tea with the girlfriends, exercise, vacations, kids, popularity, lovely clothes, deep emotional discussions with everyone she knows, the approval of all, success, and the Cosmo Guy who adores her and who will love every one of the "Eighteen Ways To Please Your Man In Bed."

3. The Nester wants a home and kids and a family. A husband is necessary for all that to happen. He has to bring home the paycheck, impregnate her the right number of times, and function as her assistant at home: mowing, trimming, painting, vacuuming, barbecuing, washing the car, and picking up dog poop. His personality is not that important as long as he does his job.

The problem is that American men simply do not fall into any of those categories. As I read them back to myself, I felt repelled by each of them. I can see the benefit to women in hooking up with one of those three characters, but I don't want to be one. I have thought about becoming gay, but hell I don't like men either.

I have a lesbian niece who "came out" to the family when she was a teenager. She sent me email asking me how I felt about it. I wrote back that I preferred women myself, so I could certainly understand her feelings. The last time she was in town, she and I went to a strip club. We discovered that we have the same taste in women.

This topic is expired, derailed and non-issue.

When you add so many parameters to 'what you want'
all I can think of is, doh.
Personally, I have no clue what love will look like.
So I don't demand they be this or they be that.
I allow for uniqueness and autonomy.

But when you start crossing people off your lists,
soon there is no one left.
Being smug about that crosses you off their lists.
And here you are.
Posting about lacka love.

I had a very specific parameter on my list. Thank god I was able to look past it and find love.

Ruthie

You could always go after the old bitter empty-nesters.
Just throw 'em some vicodin and hormones.