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Topic: The missing element
ProPhotographer's photo
Sat 08/28/10 08:54 PM
Edited by ProPhotographer on Sat 08/28/10 08:55 PM
What, for you, is the most common reason that you don't pursue a relationship?

For me, it's chemistry. That 'physical spark'. It doesn't matter whether you share common interests, goals, or whatever. If that spark's not there, it's just not going to happen!

It's frustrating when you meet people you like but that spark is just missing.


I think the first meeting just has too much build-up and then when the other person can't deliver on the hype...it's done?

Spark Schmark


Redsoxfan1's photo
Sat 08/28/10 09:02 PM
Interesting how no-one here has defined what "chemistry" is or what it means, or to someone else. Until you can identify what the chemistry is, then you are lying to yourself. What are your expectations? And what are you willing to tolerate?

Goofball73's photo
Sat 08/28/10 09:05 PM

Interesting how no-one here has defined what "chemistry" is or what it means, or to someone else. Until you can identify what the chemistry is, then you are lying to yourself. What are your expectations? And what are you willing to tolerate?


She better give good head. S'all I'm saying.:angel:

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 08/28/10 09:05 PM

Interesting how no-one here has defined what "chemistry" is or what it means, or to someone else. Until you can identify what the chemistry is, then you are lying to yourself. What are your expectations? And what are you willing to tolerate?


I think when you've met that one that gives you butterflies and makes your stomach swoon, it's easier to identify that chemistry and what you're willing to tolerate... Not being there makes it more difficult...

ProPhotographer's photo
Sat 08/28/10 09:28 PM

Interesting how no-one here has defined what "chemistry" is or what it means, or to someone else. Until you can identify what the chemistry is, then you are lying to yourself. What are your expectations? And what are you willing to tolerate?


The chemistry is the fluidity of your interactions to the point where you know how the other will respond in any given situation.
To expect instant chemistry...or SPARK isn't realistic for the first meeting.
Some people are okay with physical attraction and others are okay with gratuitous sexual favours to quantify their chemical attraction.
I agree they are not being honest with themselves if the other person doesn't present themselves as a Clooney Clone or doing a Lady Gagh Gagh on you in the restaurant.

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