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Topic: Just Friends??
ValerieK's photo
Fri 09/03/10 03:25 PM


He has never said he just want to be friends, he has said that he is very shy.


Umm, you realize that 'shy' is another way for people to disguise being self-centered, right ... ? Surprise him one day by grabbing his crotch and saying 'I want you right here right now!' and see what happens. I don't think 'subtle' is gonna work in a case like this. 'Direct action' will give you the answer you're looking for ... Worst that can happen is that he finally admits he just doesn't think of you 'that way' ... find out early. If he just wants 'friends' and you want more, it's time to look elsewhere.
I'm not grab him like that, I think that is tacky!!!!

oldsage's photo
Fri 09/03/10 03:29 PM
Good for you, I can't agree with that approach either.

Why not just sit down & have a direct conversation?
Seems you are both adults & asking a few questions,would clear the air.

irishkiki's photo
Mon 09/06/10 06:13 AM
its always hard to know when your friends with a guy , wheter your just friends or they might be more ! i think you should send signs that you like him and see what happens ~! hope it works out x

ValerieK's photo
Mon 09/06/10 01:52 PM
thank you for your response. think i have been waiting on him long enough. Im not getting any younger.

you_dont_know_me's photo
Wed 09/08/10 12:44 PM
wonder why it seems so hard for people to just comunicate

ValerieK's photo
Wed 09/08/10 03:19 PM

wonder why it seems so hard for people to just comunicate
I guess sometimes, its just better not to say anything and we hope the other person may bring up the subject or maybe we are just scared to say anything. I dont know thats all I could come up with...lol

no photo
Fri 09/10/10 05:29 AM
There are a lot of nice and beautifull things seperate us from other people in life.And all of them reflect our sincerely with our friendly.Sometimes a greting,sometimes hand shake,so much sometimes embrace withfull miss... But nicely and friendly feeling share is like no other.And nothing look like it in life.There fore somebody is nice conversationalist.Their words are warming in you about to their conversation.Then you never leave them your near and then you can see everything about his friendly and is he taking time.
people can ask many question but this question is the best ones people ask theirself first about to their oclations.

no photo
Mon 09/13/10 04:58 AM
Just Ask him, IF in case he wishes to get married again and he finds a list of people to marry and you are among the same list.

What will his reaction be?

ValerieK's photo
Tue 09/14/10 04:55 AM

Just Ask him, IF in case he wishes to get married again and he finds a list of people to marry and you are among the same list.

What will his reaction be? If he finds a LIST of people to marry I dont want to be on it. I wouldnt want to have a list of people I wanted to marry. He is not this list making type anyway.

Loy822's photo
Tue 09/14/10 06:40 AM
Well . . . I'm not that patient and would have trouble moving on until I knew what this was - I would have to ask and hope that worse case scenario we could maintain a friendship, but if not - oh well.

ValerieK's photo
Tue 09/14/10 07:36 AM
Again I have come to the conclusion that he just wants a friendship for now. If he wants more he is going to have to let me know and I'm not sitting around waiting on his answer.

Shasta1's photo
Wed 09/15/10 01:32 AM
Am just wondering, with you talking about how he feels, you've never really mentioned how you feel. Some people can be as dense as logs.
Really tho, it is time for you to just say what you've said here. If you are just friends, he won't be hurt and will totally understand your logic. If he wants more, give him the opportuntiy to talk.
Communication is the biggest part of a relationship that people seem to forget or put last on the list. I used to be terrible at thinking another could read my mind by my actions, well...some can and some can't.
If you think you'd like to have a relationship with him, after you ask him, I'd ask him to bring things up alot quicker that are on his mind now that he's found out you don't bite.
Friendships are the best way to start out relationships, you get to really know the person and decide if they are what you want, works for me.

Freddybaba09's photo
Wed 09/15/10 04:48 AM
It not matter of been able to communicate it bcos there is no connectivity btw d two.

ValerieK's photo
Wed 09/15/10 06:06 AM
Yes friendships are the best way to start out a relationships.

ValerieK's photo
Wed 09/15/10 06:08 AM

It not matter of been able to communicate it bcos there is no connectivity btw d two.
Dont know what your are really trying to say, but if there is not connectivity between the two of us then why do we keep being friends. You might want to go back and read all my post.

no photo
Wed 09/15/10 06:33 AM
Edited by Mikey117 on Wed 09/15/10 06:34 AM
Well I for one think he must be crazy because U are one beautiful classy lady!!! Id just keep my options open!!

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