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| Topic: How good does it feel to finally quit cryin over that ex! | |
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We are human and one of our greatest assets is our capacity of emotion. If we aren't feeling, we are cut off from a large part of ourselves. If we can't allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we can't truly allow anyone to love us ... and by default doubt we can fully love others. My motto is feel the pain ... deep and hard ... process the emotion and then move on from a place of gratitude. It is when we try to stuff it or pretend it isn't there that we just prolong the healing. Yeah I used to believe what you were saying until my heart not only got ripped out but stomped on. You get to a point in your life that you no longer allow anyone in as its personally not worth putting yourself through anymore pain. I hear you and am sorry that happened to you. I've been betrayed, ripped apart, stomped on, financially ruined and taken advantage of too. I still believe what I wrote ... it is truth for me. We each live our own. Don't get me wrong as I think what you say makes sense. I am glad that you believe in what you wrote and would never tell you not to. Maybe because of my age I am cynical and I kept up that hope for years. I am tired of it all personally but I do wish you well and that you find the true happiness that you deserve.  We all walk in different shoes so what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. Never any judgment from me. Just awe at the human spirit. May the love and happiness we seek reside within us. Wishing you the beauty you deserve. 
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I never really cry but I did beat the chit out of the bird bath with a baseball bat. I believe it was a Louisville Slugger........
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I never really cry but I did beat the chit out of the bird bath with a baseball bat. I believe it was a Louisville Slugger........ So you're the reason why hundreds of chickadees and sparrows are filthy!   I make light ... but I felt that ...
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Just taking it day by day.....
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I wish I could stop crying but I am now six months prenant with twins and abandoned, how do you stop crying when you have no control over your hormones. I am so depressed and I csn not do anythign to take the edge off. I have visited friends, gone out, read books, watched movies, spent time with my kids, cried, and it still hurts just as bad. The worst thing isI can't just never see him again and work on getting over him, we are having babies together and he wants to be there for them. So the hurt starts over every day we talk or see each other. It has only been a week and he already has a new girlfriend and a whole new life. He says it is for my own good because he is no good for me and just screws up my life, but how can being alone, pregnant, and depressed be good for me???
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Well now that the crying is done, it is time to work on getting over them.
Crying is just the hurt stage. You have to learn what lessons had to be learned because each person in our lives has at least one to teach us. After learning the lessons then it is time to forgive both parties, yourself and them so that you can let go of the anger that is going to eat you up from the inside out. Then you can wish them well sincerely and hope that they have a wonderful life. That is how you know you are over someone, when you can sincerely from the bottom of your heart, hope that they have an amazing life and find love. |
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Sometimes we are not meant to be with someone even if we love them. So to truly love them means to let them go.
Unlike the saying though, you are not letting them go to see if they come back you are letting them go to find love and happiness with who they are supposed to be with instead of holding on to them in selfishness. |
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I never cried, didn't need to. It was the right choice to separate. But for some reason it irritates me that she has moved on so quickly. Prolly cuz she was movin on while we were still together. Lol. But to me it just seems like a long lonely road ahead of me. A least at the worst times.
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It took me a long, long time ... we had three kids together and he was my best friend. When the smoke cleared, we each realized on our own that we missed each others friendship. We were both smart enough to see it, brave enough to tell each other, kind enough to forgive. Now everyone, especially the kids, are happy. He and his 23 yo daughter, whom I'm still close to, are coming to visit us in October. Feels great. That's awesome!! I would hope for the same. But not sure I'll ever get there |
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I wish I could stop crying but I am now six months prenant with twins and abandoned, how do you stop crying when you have no control over your hormones. I am so depressed and I csn not do anythign to take the edge off. I have visited friends, gone out, read books, watched movies, spent time with my kids, cried, and it still hurts just as bad. The worst thing isI can't just never see him again and work on getting over him, we are having babies together and he wants to be there for them. So the hurt starts over every day we talk or see each other. It has only been a week and he already has a new girlfriend and a whole new life. He says it is for my own good because he is no good for me and just screws up my life, but how can being alone, pregnant, and depressed be good for me??? Omg sweetheart, that's a rough situation. All I can say is I hope you find strength and pride in yourself. I hope you find peace. |
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yeah it a very terrible feeling i thought my ex was gone to rehab, i thought she really loved me! she's was my first i was missing her so badly not hearing from her, for months come to find out i happend to see her page on the facebook site she was in bed with another man! she was all over her she even made comments bragging on him calling him her boo! i didn't even know we were broke up it was going on behind my back i treated her so good to!!! she didn't know i saw her page till the nexd day then she blocked me out from her page from seeing anything!! whe i tried to talk to her about it and how could she do me like that she told me to leave her alone!! and that she loves him and how he understands her and how good looking he is plus she never sais sorry i never felt pain like that before in my life
 and still trying to heal this is the last time i ever go to germany to be with a german woman.
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ha i got over my ex long ago and i am so glad i deserved better from the start, so sad i wasted 5 years of my life on him.
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