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The last relationship I was in, my girlfriend promised her depressed mother 3x at dinner that we'd stop by her place the next night and hang out with her. Next day, I come home from work and pick up my truck from the shop and call her. She was with some girls from work drinking and I asked her if we're still going up her moms. She says she forgot and wanted me to call and tell her mom we can't make it because she's tired from work and just wants to sleep.
Now, I was friends with her mom before we got into a relationship... her son from a different father is one of my best friends. Soooo.... what should I have done? Cuz I'd say how I reacted was the reason we ended the relationship. I'll post later what I did... but asking for input on what I "should" have done. Thanx in advance. |
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why couldn't she call and lie herself? That's what I would have said to her.
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go visit her mom without her
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Call her mother and tell her her drunk azz daughter don't feel like visiting.
Also tell her her drunk azz daughter can pick up her clothes and chit on the front lawn. |
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Your girlfriend SHOULD NOT have put in that position, it was just wrong!
 She should have been "woman enough" to speak to her Mother herself! Lying to a family member for your partner is just NOT cool, and it was a selfish thing for her to do! What a WEAK woman!!! 
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Wow, that was rotten.
I would have visited the mom without her. And I wouldn't have lied for her. That would just open up for more lies. Bad Karma. |
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Your girlfriend SHOULD NOT have put in that position, it was just wrong! She should have been "woman enough" to speak to her Mother herself! Lying to a family member for your partner is just NOT cool, and it was a selfish thing for her to do! What a WEAK woman!!!  I also agree with Ese...I'd still go without her. |
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i also agree with ese
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I would have just went to her moms by myself and who knows maybe could of got lucky
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The last relationship I was in, my girlfriend promised her depressed mother 3x at dinner that we'd stop by her place the next night and hang out with her. Next day, I come home from work and pick up my truck from the shop and call her. She was with some girls from work drinking and I asked her if we're still going up her moms. She says she forgot and wanted me to call and tell her mom we can't make it because she's tired from work and just wants to sleep. Now, I was friends with her mom before we got into a relationship... her son from a different father is one of my best friends. Soooo.... what should I have done? Cuz I'd say how I reacted was the reason we ended the relationship. I'll post later what I did... but asking for input on what I "should" have done. Thanx in advance. what you do is what you feel is the right thing, and I hope that is what you did. There was nothing to lie about. Her daughter prolly needed to call mom herself, but if u were going to mom's anyway - nothing wrong with showing up alone & explaining that Princess was hanging wiht some friends (and also nothing wrong with suggesting to Miss Barstool of the month to maybe stop by mom's when she left the bar) .... I don;t see why this had to become a conflict I guess that's where I am stumped 
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I agree with Ese, too.
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Oh - or take mom out on a date
that'd fix her wagon  
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Oh - or take mom out on a date that'd fix her wagon or take the mom to the bar the daughter is at
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Oh - or take mom out on a date that'd fix her wagon or take the mom to the bar the daughter is at  ooooooooooooooooh boy - not sure I'd wanna be there
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Here's a hint for the future.
People under the influence can get irresponsible. The best of intentions go awry. Hardly seems like relationship ending material though. |
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... i'm still waiting to hear what you did...
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Wow... that was some quick feedback, and it's quite a relief to read the responses. I was afraid people would say I acted out of anger in what I did, but I took some breathing time at home and calmed down before I made my decision.
I did follow through on driving up to her mom's and playing cards and chatting with her. Her mom asked where her daughter was and I did not lie. I told her she was drinking with girls from work. The next night, my girlfriend and I drove up her mom's so she could try to make up for the night before. Thing is, she didn't ask what I did the night before when we were supposed to go up there and I didn't tell. So, she straight up lied to her mom and got caught in a lie. So, yea... shortly after we broke up. She was in a tailspin at that time and I hope what I said to her got through. I hear from my friend (her half-brother) that they've really patched thing up in their relationship. No matter how beautiful she was... lies disgust me to no end. Thanx again for the awesome responses. |
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The last relationship I was in, my girlfriend promised her depressed mother 3x at dinner that we'd stop by her place the next night and hang out with her. Next day, I come home from work and pick up my truck from the shop and call her. She was with some girls from work drinking and I asked her if we're still going up her moms. She says she forgot and wanted me to call and tell her mom we can't make it because she's tired from work and just wants to sleep. Now, I was friends with her mom before we got into a relationship... her son from a different father is one of my best friends. Soooo.... what should I have done? Cuz I'd say how I reacted was the reason we ended the relationship. I'll post later what I did... but asking for input on what I "should" have done. Thanx in advance. what you do is what you feel is the right thing, and I hope that is what you did. There was nothing to lie about. Her daughter prolly needed to call mom herself, but if u were going to mom's anyway - nothing wrong with showing up alone & explaining that Princess was hanging wiht some friends (and also nothing wrong with suggesting to Miss Barstool of the month to maybe stop by mom's when she left the bar) .... I don;t see why this had to become a conflict I guess that's where I am stumped the zen approach..I like it..but I am thinking/wondering if going to see Mom isn't exactly the most fun thing to do, maybe this situation has been going on for some time and unfortunately has become something to deal with, a stresser...and he knows what the mom really wants is time with her daughter. |
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The last relationship I was in, my girlfriend promised her depressed mother 3x at dinner that we'd stop by her place the next night and hang out with her. Next day, I come home from work and pick up my truck from the shop and call her. She was with some girls from work drinking and I asked her if we're still going up her moms. She says she forgot and wanted me to call and tell her mom we can't make it because she's tired from work and just wants to sleep. Now, I was friends with her mom before we got into a relationship... her son from a different father is one of my best friends. Soooo.... what should I have done? Cuz I'd say how I reacted was the reason we ended the relationship. I'll post later what I did... but asking for input on what I "should" have done. Thanx in advance. what you do is what you feel is the right thing, and I hope that is what you did. There was nothing to lie about. Her daughter prolly needed to call mom herself, but if u were going to mom's anyway - nothing wrong with showing up alone & explaining that Princess was hanging wiht some friends (and also nothing wrong with suggesting to Miss Barstool of the month to maybe stop by mom's when she left the bar) .... I don;t see why this had to become a conflict I guess that's where I am stumped the zen approach..I like it..but I am thinking/wondering if going to see Mom isn't exactly the most fun thing to do, maybe this situation has been going on for some time and unfortunately has become something to deal with, a stresser...and he knows what the mom really wants is time with her daughter. |
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The last relationship I was in, my girlfriend promised her depressed mother 3x at dinner that we'd stop by her place the next night and hang out with her. Next day, I come home from work and pick up my truck from the shop and call her. She was with some girls from work drinking and I asked her if we're still going up her moms. She says she forgot and wanted me to call and tell her mom we can't make it because she's tired from work and just wants to sleep. Now, I was friends with her mom before we got into a relationship... her son from a different father is one of my best friends. Soooo.... what should I have done? Cuz I'd say how I reacted was the reason we ended the relationship. I'll post later what I did... but asking for input on what I "should" have done. Thanx in advance. what you do is what you feel is the right thing, and I hope that is what you did. There was nothing to lie about. Her daughter prolly needed to call mom herself, but if u were going to mom's anyway - nothing wrong with showing up alone & explaining that Princess was hanging wiht some friends (and also nothing wrong with suggesting to Miss Barstool of the month to maybe stop by mom's when she left the bar) .... I don;t see why this had to become a conflict I guess that's where I am stumped the zen approach..I like it..but I am thinking/wondering if going to see Mom isn't exactly the most fun thing to do, maybe this situation has been going on for some time and unfortunately has become something to deal with, a stresser...and he knows what the mom really wants is time with her daughter....maybe this is not the first broken promise and was the straw. |
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