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im trying to live a better life, i made vows when i became single to not have sex until im married this time. however it has now been three years and lets just say the human side of me is taking over my brain!!. i have dreams and thoughts and it feels like everywhere i turn its sex,sex,sex!. i am a very passionate and touchy person the way it is and to go three years without any physical contact with a man is starting to drive me crazy!. all my friends, even some christian ones, tell me i should just give it up because there is no man out there waiting for me as far as thats concerned. they keep telling me that any man i meet will not have stopped having sex just because he is single and the ones that havent yet are probably way to young for me.
so i keep praying and hoping this will pass but in the meantime i wonder if they are right?. why should i keep waiting for my wedding day when most likely my future husband is not waiting for it?. how much longer should i wait? i mean i am not meeting people and i have no one interested in me so should i really wait 5 years?, 10 years?, what if this is it and i never meet someone? then i just went my whole life without being intimate with anyone ever again!!. that can not happen. so im asking for advice, are any of you waiting?. do you think i should or should i just give this crazy idea up? i just dont know what to do i just know i miss being touched by a man and feeeling loved!. GOD bless, annie |
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Edited by
RainbowTrout
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Mon 11/28/11 12:28 PM
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Paul said it was better to marry than to burn. That he would others could be like him. But is that being realistic? We make these vows then try to live up to them. God said that it is not good that man should be alone. Maybe God had prior experience. Experience is a good teacher. God was alone with just the void for company before he created creation. Does the void even need to be created? It is the absence of something. The Romans had no zero. It must have been hard of them to even conceive of the nothingness. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum. But how can that be if there is a thing called the Black Hole? But God can even keep the Black Hole in check. Jesus said that God is a spirit. God spent time with Adam but still he said that it is not good that man should be alone. God gave man a choice of all the animals. But God made man is in his image. God has the duality but man is single like woman is single. If God needed someone like him the Son of the Morning wouldn't have to be cast down. But the Son of the Morning is a poor excuse for God. If you can conceive that the Highlander's saying that there can be only one then it isn't so hard to accept the first commandment. God didn't say, "Be fruitful just to be fruitful" God made trees, too. We are supposed to be wise as serpent not be serpents. God doesn't want man to be a snake. God already made snakes. I think Adam made a good choice in picking Eve.
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im trying to live a better life, i made vows when i became single to not have sex until im married this time. however it has now been three years and lets just say the human side of me is taking over my brain!!. i have dreams and thoughts and it feels like everywhere i turn its sex,sex,sex!. i am a very passionate and touchy person the way it is and to go three years without any physical contact with a man is starting to drive me crazy!. all my friends, even some christian ones, tell me i should just give it up because there is no man out there waiting for me as far as thats concerned. they keep telling me that any man i meet will not have stopped having sex just because he is single and the ones that havent yet are probably way to young for me. so i keep praying and hoping this will pass but in the meantime i wonder if they are right?. why should i keep waiting for my wedding day when most likely my future husband is not waiting for it?. how much longer should i wait? i mean i am not meeting people and i have no one interested in me so should i really wait 5 years?, 10 years?, what if this is it and i never meet someone? then i just went my whole life without being intimate with anyone ever again!!. that can not happen. so im asking for advice, are any of you waiting?. do you think i should or should i just give this crazy idea up? i just dont know what to do i just know i miss being touched by a man and feeeling loved!. GOD bless, annie Do you wish for this to be special between you and the one you love? How can it be "special" when you have done this exact thing with multiple other men? That's why it is special, because you know this is only shared between the two of you. And that this person makes you feel greater then any other man ever has. Sex isn't about the "physical" pleasure alone. It is a sharing of passion for one another and much more. Stay strong and have patience, it'll pay out trust me :). |
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annie1973, You may need to avoid certain situations that influence you and people who try to talk you out of your plans to live a godly life.. Read and meditate on God's Word! I hope that you continue waiting for the right one.  |
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annie1973, You may need to avoid certain situations that influence you and people who try to talk you out of your plans to live a godly life.. Read and meditate on God's Word! I hope that you continue waiting for the right one. If you will fix your eyes on the Lord and wait on Him and His promises your chances for success will hit the roof. He knows perfectly how to bless you. You will not be disappointed. |
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Edited by
MorningSong
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Tue 11/29/11 03:29 PM
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Fixing our eyes on Jesus...meditating on His Word
day and nite.......guarding our eye gate and ear gate....walking in the spirit at all times...... when we do this,we do not fulfil the lust of the flesh..that is how we overcome..keeping the spirit man strong and the fleshly man weak...crucifying the flesh to where the fleshly desires die...only to be awakened at the appropiate time..when God brings that right mate for us....and not until then.... ps......surround yourself with spirit filled Godly men and women ...who will uplift you and encourage you and strengthen you...and not tempt you away from God. They are out there...many many many Godly men and women... who are totally sold out and on fire for God.  |
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Amen, MorningSong! Nice to see you here this evening!
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I am bye far not a godly man and yes a sinner i am because i refuse to surrender to him because to me surrendering is not only to belive in salvation but to also have good works cuz one most grow in love also to clean the cup from the inside out.
so i say this comfort dont come from being with another person nor does it come from wordly things just like love is not lust or desire a.k.a the want to be with another human it isnt of fear or hate or it doesnt hurt to love and love does not betray or decieve to have real love is to heav real comfort and strenght to dwell in good thought a.k.a to be positive for real love is strong,kind,hopefull,faithfull,joyfull,beautifull,humble.righteous,forgiving/full of mercy and grace and yet all knowing and wise for true love is god and god is the king of comfort for comfort he left with us for dwelling in good thoughts is the key to these things this how one can really find love bye cleaning the cup from the inside out so its to love yourself and love god for god is love then can you truly love a man so having sex outside marriage isnt the answer for it brings guilt and shame :) |
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Annie, i feel u.. I am goin thru a similar process, neva easy but possible.. Ur stayin witout sex is 4 d man u meet eventually.. No, u r doin yourself a favor in your relationsp wit God, its about you.. So kip it up & i pray it will be a woethy sacrifice dat God wil repay kindly.. Meanwhile, i cud suggest dat u position yourself right & tink positive, he will find u eventually, just relax & dont 2nd gues any man dat comes your way.. Just b your good self, he wil notic you (Guys r gud @ dat) and he wil com for you. best wishes
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Annie, I've been dealing with the same thing. An ex of mine, who wanted to get back with me through those same words in my face. "Good luck, because no man is going to wait for marriage these days." I told him that, YES, a REAL Man of God will.
I too struggle with loneliness, and doubt, but these posters are right. Just keep reading the Word of God and when those thoughts and feelings come up, just get them out of your brain and recall scripture, or imagine the future God has planned for your and your new family. God has it all planned out, we just can't see it yet: My Life is but a weaving between my Lord and me; I cannot choose the colors He worketh steadily. Oft times He weaveth sorrow And I, in foolish pride, Forget He sees the upper, And I the under side. Not til the loom is silent And the shuttles cease to fly, Shall God unroll the canvas And explain the reason why. The dark threads are as needful In the Weaver's skillful hand, As the threads of gold and silver In the pattern He has planned. He knows, He loves, He cares, Nothing this truth can dim. He gives His very best to those Who leave the choice with Him. |
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Edited by
CeriseRose
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Thu 12/15/11 08:06 PM
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I am bye far not a godly man and yes a sinner i am because i refuse to surrender to him because to me surrendering is not only to belive in salvation but to also have good works cuz one most grow in love also to clean the cup from the inside out. so i say this comfort dont come from being with another person nor does it come from wordly things just like love is not lust or desire a.k.a the want to be with another human it isnt of fear or hate or it doesnt hurt to love and love does not betray or decieve to have real love is to heav real comfort and strenght to dwell in good thought a.k.a to be positive for real love is strong,kind,hopefull,faithfull,joyfull,beautifull,humble.righteous,forgiving/full of mercy and grace and yet all knowing and wise for true love is god and god is the king of comfort for comfort he left with us for dwelling in good thoughts is the key to these things this how one can really find love bye cleaning the cup from the inside out so its to love yourself and love god for god is love then can you truly love a man so having sex outside marriage isnt the answer for it brings guilt and shame :) the_one_wizzo, It appears that you have read God's Word at some point. These are very wise words you are expressing to annie1973. You understand the matters of the heart... Few men do. And yet... God knows the condition of YOUR heart even better than you do. Scripture says... "For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things." 1John 3:20 Trust the Lord ...give your heart to Him He can give you a new heart. You can ask from your heart, "Lord be merciful to me, a sinner" just as the sinner man did in contrast to the the self-righteous Publican in Luke 18:13. He will hear you! God loves you!   |
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Paul said it was better to marry than to burn. That he would others could be like him. But is that being realistic? We make these vows then try to live up to them. God said that it is not good that man should be alone. Maybe God had prior experience. Experience is a good teacher. God was alone with just the void for company before he created creation. Does the void even need to be created? It is the absence of something. The Romans had no zero. It must have been hard of them to even conceive of the nothingness. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum. But how can that be if there is a thing called the Black Hole? But God can even keep the Black Hole in check. Jesus said that God is a spirit. God spent time with Adam but still he said that it is not good that man should be alone. God gave man a choice of all the animals. But God made man is in his image. God has the duality but man is single like woman is single. If God needed someone like him the Son of the Morning wouldn't have to be cast down. But the Son of the Morning is a poor excuse for God. If you can conceive that the Highlander's saying that there can be only one then it isn't so hard to accept the first commandment. God didn't say, "Be fruitful just to be fruitful" God made trees, too. We are supposed to be wise as serpent not be serpents. God doesn't want man to be a snake. God already made snakes. I think Adam made a good choice in picking Eve. Wow, what an interesting view. I really like the last line: "I think Adam made a Good choice in picking Eve." Very insightful. I'm going to meditate on that.. |
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