Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok?

I will not lie or rather try not to lie even if it means being brutally honest. An example of it is a girl once asked me "Do I look fat in these jeans?" and I replied "It's not the jeans,but your big fat @ss." she hates me now.

Well, there's a difference in being brutally honest and lacking tact.

Lying can be used for good and not evil.
Everyone I know places on the scale somewhere.
Of what constitutes a good lie and a bad one.
I do not expect to control anyone else's behavior.

I try not to :-)

So am I to assume you are OK with being lied to?

I once dated a chronic liar. He lied because he found it easier to lie than telling the truth. I don't think he could help himself. I accepted it because I liked him and because in the grand scheme of things, they were relatively harmless lies and also because I knew that he wasn't going to be around for the long haul.

I wouldn't be so forgiving if he was lying to cover up cheating..

Just because everyone does it
does not mean anyone likes it.

I once dated a girl who lied to me constantly. The thing is she knew that I knew she was lying, but as long as I couldn't prove it she decided that it was ok to lie. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Without trust there can be no true love. Lies are harmful and can undermine everything you work hard to achieve together. Anything above the smallest of white lies, such as acting surprised and happy to get that new blender for xmas when you have one sitting in the cupboard that you haven't used in years, is only going to hurt you in the long run.

When I lie, I invent such a fictional, outrageous and unbelievable story around it that no one could ever think it was the truth. I still get smacked upside the head but at least I get a laugh out of the situation.

Not saying it's right... but It's my M.O. K?

In my opinion, lying damages trust.

My ex was a habitual liar. He would lie even when it didn't matter what his answer was. So how do you know when to and when not to believe a person who lies. I have no patience for liars.

I can be more forgiving if my heart's not involved and with this particular person, it wasn't. I liked him a hell of a lot but didn't love him because deep down, I knew I couldn't totally trust him.

I believe that honesty is the sole foundation & most important (along with trust & respect) for ANY relationship.

So...no. Lying is never excusable with me.

I totally agree!

I don't do lies, too hard to remember what was said.

So I don't appreciate liars either.

For me, it does depend on the nature of the relationship..at a time when I wasn't lookiing for something more substantial from a relationship, I didn't tend to get too emotionally involved so unless it involved something I was morally opposed to, I wasn't really that fussed.

If a person has no more respect for me than to lie to me, no matter how serious the relationship, that person won't be around.

For me (and I'm not making any judgements..), it's about accepting people warts and all as they have to do with me. As I said, I don't accept lying about things that I am morally opposed to but I can live with some lies.

I'm sorry, I wasn't judging you or anyone. I was just making a statement about my boundaries.

No need for apologies Tammy. I didn't think you were making judgements...I guess I've just gotten into the habit of typing that just in case 'people' think I am making personalised comments.