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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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holymorals.
QUOTE: QUOTE: Nope. I would call HIM names but not you. The onus is totally on HIM to stick to the vows he committed himself to and if he wasn’t cheating with her with you he’d be cheating on her with someone else. IM curious though, because I logically understand this pov that it is only ONE persons obligation to be honest in their commitment if you had a business partner, who came in and robbed the business one day with an accomplice would the same values still hold,,? That only the actual PARTNER had any obligation to you and the business? or wouldnt the other robber be equally 'guilty' of wrong doing,,,, even though they had no agreement with you? not a judgment, just a thought when you KNOWINGLY assist someone in cheating,,,you hold equal responsibility in my eyes,,, I understand the point you’re making but in my mind, it’s not the same thing. Theft is against the law in most countries, adultery isn’t (in some countries) although I do agree that both parties are/would be equally responsible. I’m not accepting of nor do I condone adultery but if a married man chooses to pursue a single woman, in my mind he is ultimately in the wrong. It’s not up to the single woman to remind him of his marital status. She hasn’t made a commitment to his wife, he has and it’s up to him to honour it. However, if a single woman chooses to pursue a married man, then she is in the wrong. It’s about who makes the approach. IMO, you can’t force someone to uphold what is essentially a moral obligation. If two people share the same moral compass, then all well and good but if they don’t then.... The only people that I can legitimately impose my moral beliefs on are my children and only up until they reach certain age.
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 12/08/12 04:51 PM
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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holymorals.
Nope. I would call HIM names but not you.
The onus is totally on HIM to stick to the vows he committed himself to and if he wasn’t cheating with her with you he’d be cheating on her with someone else. |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
Dating again after a LTR ends is a minefield of (on the whole) a series of continual eye-openers – some good, some not so good. I didn’t realise how much the ‘goal posts’ had changed when I started dating again.
My advice, if the breakup was amicable, get the ball rolling via dating/social networking sites. If it wasn’t, take some time out until you’re ready. |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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diff btwn love & sex
The difference is one face you want to see when you wake up in the morning, the other is that you wish they had left before you woke up
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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I think I talk too much
Nearly all women (and men) have had similar experiences to you.
What I realised is that I needed to stay true to myself because doing anything else would be trying to be a player myself. You haven't got a 'problem', they have! |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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A sense of humor or honesty
QUOTE: Just a discussion point. Should there be humor or honesty when a guy is asked: "Does this outfit make me look fat?" No as the "honest" answer should always be 'no baby, you always look good in whatever you wear'
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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INSTANT ATTRACTION
Also nerves can sometimes have a large part to play on a first date - well at least they sometimes do with me – that makes a second date necessarily on some occasions.
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
According to some conspiracy theorists, most of the human populace will be killed off by the deliberate introduction of GM foods, the devil (whatever that is) and the reptile people.
After sitting through 12 hours of a David Icke indoctrination...sorry, I mean to type 'lecture'...my own personal doomsday should happened on the 1 November
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
It does depend on the people involved and also on the length of the cohabitation.
If I believed in marriage, I would definitely want to live with him before I married him. |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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INSTANT ATTRACTION
QUOTE: I've noticed that the great majority of women I date seem to think that if there are no sparks right off the bat,Well, No use for a second date. Most I've dated seem to be opposite of what this article says we should be. http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=11356&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1370696 I'm not always instantly attracted to someone from the get-go but there does need to be something to build on...to evolve. If there's nothing or just the basis of a good friendship, then I probably wouldn't see him again. |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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romantic, not caring?
QUOTE: QUOTE: could someone be romantic yet no caring and vice versa? someone can pretend to be romantic, sure but genuine romance only comes from some level of caring,,, ^^ This. A romantic gesture is more genuine if it is based on your partner's knowledge of you and your likes and dislikes. Buying your other half red roses isn't romantic if you've told him that roses are your least favourite flowers and he buys them anyway.
Edited by 42BlackBBW on Wed 11/14/12 02:00 PM
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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Your Partner
Everyone has a breaking point and love isn't always enough to make someone stay...
No such thing as a "perfect partner" unless he's perfectly imperfect
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
Blast from the past...thought about you today Capeman. Hope alls well with you.
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
QUOTE: Happy diwali to all. May this festival of lights enlighten your life for ever. Happy Diwali to you Prashant01 |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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1st Date
Here's my take on it..
Sometimes you can have an instant attract for someone and all your normal rules go out of the windows or sometimes it’s just alcohol induced lust. If it feels like the right thing to do and has nothing to do with them getting more and more attractive after your 2nd or third glass of wine, then go for it. You only live once...If you have to use alcohol, think about it or talk yourself into it then it’s probably a good idea to wait until the time is right...or you move on. |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
QUOTE: punch him in the throat. Twice...in case he didn't get the message first time round
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
Almost typed you an explanation before I came to my senses and realised that I don’t need to explain myself or my actions to you.
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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stranger... :)
'I'm not lying. I am single' usually works for me
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
I’m sorry that you feel that way....We had one date..I gave you my number, you haven't used it..a few IM’s every couple of months isn’t enough to make me change my mind.
It's not like I didn't tell you that I was kinda seeing someone... Live long and prosper |
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42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3142 |
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Looks vrs personailty
He needs to have both.
I'm not looking for an Adonis but he does need to be hansome-even if I'm the only one that thinks so. |