I understand the point you’re making but in my mind, it’s not the same thing. Theft is against the law in most countries, adultery isn’t (in some countries) although I do agree that both parties are/would be equally responsible.

I’m not accepting of nor do I condone adultery but if a married man chooses to pursue a single woman, in my mind he is ultimately in the wrong. It’s not up to the single woman to remind him of his marital status. She hasn’t made a commitment to his wife, he has and it’s up to him to honour it. However, if a single woman chooses to pursue a married man, then she is in the wrong. It’s about who makes the approach.

IMO, you can’t force someone to uphold what is essentially a moral obligation. If two people share the same moral compass, then all well and good but if they don’t then....

The only people that I can legitimately impose my moral beliefs on are my children and only up until they reach certain age.

Nope. I would call HIM names but not you.

The onus is totally on HIM to stick to the vows he committed himself to and if he wasn’t cheating with her with you he’d be cheating on her with someone else.

Dating again after a LTR ends is a minefield of (on the whole) a series of continual eye-openers – some good, some not so good. I didn’t realise how much the ‘goal posts’ had changed when I started dating again.

My advice, if the breakup was amicable, get the ball rolling via dating/social networking sites. If it wasn’t, take some time out until you’re ready.

The difference is one face you want to see when you wake up in the morning, the other is that you wish they had left before you woke up

Nearly all women (and men) have had similar experiences to you.

What I realised is that I needed to stay true to myself because doing anything else would be trying to be a player myself.

You haven't got a 'problem', they have!

No as the "honest" answer should always be 'no baby, you always look good in whatever you wear'

Also nerves can sometimes have a large part to play on a first date - well at least they sometimes do with me – that makes a second date necessarily on some occasions.

According to some conspiracy theorists, most of the human populace will be killed off by the deliberate introduction of GM foods, the devil (whatever that is) and the reptile people.

After sitting through 12 hours of a David Icke indoctrination...sorry, I mean to type 'lecture'...my own personal doomsday should happened on the 1 November

It does depend on the people involved and also on the length of the cohabitation.

If I believed in marriage, I would definitely want to live with him before I married him.

I'm not always instantly attracted to someone from the get-go but there does need to be something to build on...to evolve. If there's nothing or just the basis of a good friendship, then I probably wouldn't see him again.

^^ This.

A romantic gesture is more genuine if it is based on your partner's knowledge of you and your likes and dislikes.

Buying your other half red roses isn't romantic if you've told him that roses are your least favourite flowers and he buys them anyway.

Everyone has a breaking point and love isn't always enough to make someone stay...

No such thing as a "perfect partner" unless he's perfectly imperfect

Blast from the past...thought about you today Capeman. Hope alls well with you.

Happy Diwali to you Prashant01

Here's my take on it..

Sometimes you can have an instant attract for someone and all your normal rules go out of the windows or sometimes it’s just alcohol induced lust.

If it feels like the right thing to do and has nothing to do with them getting more and more attractive after your 2nd or third glass of wine, then go for it. You only live once...If you have to use alcohol, think about it or talk yourself into it then it’s probably a good idea to wait until the time is right...or you move on.

Twice...in case he didn't get the message first time round

Almost typed you an explanation before I came to my senses and realised that I don’t need to explain myself or my actions to you.

'I'm not lying. I am single' usually works for me

I’m sorry that you feel that way....We had one date..I gave you my number, you haven't used it..a few IM’s every couple of months isn’t enough to make me change my mind.

It's not like I didn't tell you that I was kinda seeing someone...

Live long and prosper

He needs to have both.

I'm not looking for an Adonis but he does need to be hansome-even if I'm the only one that thinks so.