I was wondering why there are so many fake or superficial uses here they clam to be single and the post there profile and what they look for in there future partner and then you find someone who match with what you look for and they come up with a fake excuse. i think far too many ppl use dating sides to cheat and play around which brings a bad light to the honest and sincere once on here.

Because this is the cyber world and all that you mentioned is possible with keeping the anonymity of the "players, scammers and in general some weirdos". Myself, I already came to the conclusion that this is not going to work out as I thought it would. So for now, I enjoy the entertainment value of this site and may end up with at least some friends from far away, as my home state seems to be deserted and any possible interests/matches have moved to Timbuktu.

well thats a way to see it too, what bothers me is the ppl are so careless and superficial and lie, what has become of morals?

An alleged "match" on Mingle2 isn't necessarily a real match. The fact that an alleged "match" has turned you down doesn't necessarily mean that the alleged "match" is playing games.

As I said, a lot are scammers. I was really uneducated about this whole internet dating when I joined this site....So within the first week I crashed and burned. As you I believe in honesty. Our mistake is that we automatically assume the other person/interest has that very same value, but a lot of profiles are simply a smoke screen. So, my advice is; take it all with a grain of salt!
I wish you Good Luck in your search!!

Some folks look good on paper. Doesn't necessarily mean they are good matches for you in real life. Not everyone you are interested in will be interested back. That's life. And if you come across someone you think is 'fake,' move on. There's plenty of other potential 'matches' for you. Why waste time dwelling on the so-called 'fakes?'

I concur

I used to feel exactly the same way as you.

I would so totally match the woman's "laundry" list of what she wants in a man. I write to her a long, insightful letter, and the reply comes, "sorry, i don't think we are a match. I hope you find love and happiness in a new partner soon."

So I gave myself to thinking, and realized the ladies (and the guys too, for all I know, which is i don't know), write down what they want, and what they don't want, but there are a lot of other things they do want and don't want, and those they don't state necessarily.

Because they could make them sound callous or shallow, whereas they are totally normal and harmless personal preferences.

For instance, a woman would say "i want a dark-haired man who is smart and funny. He is not into motorcycles or watching football on the couch," but they don't say he also needs to have a normal life, a normal job, and some normal existence, which I don't and the girls don't say that the guy can't be short or insane, because they feel for short and insane guys, but they won't want them necessarily for themselves.

This is the paradoxical paradigm of female caring in healing professions with the insane: Showing care, but trying to show that she does not want the insane inmate or patient sexually. This is really hard a concept to make patients grasp.

But you are not insane, so I digressed. I am saying that yes, you are what she says she wants, but you are also somebody she does not want. She does not say in the ad first up what she does not want, what you have. But she can tell, and she makes a decision on that.

This is how she operates, and good for her. It makes a lot of guys bruise their nose skin, so to speak, when she rebuffs them, but she is here for herself, too, just like all of us.

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What advice to give? Lower your standards slowly, in the girls' qualities whom you approach, and when you got low enough below which you can't go, OR if a girl is responsive way before you got to the too low point for your own liking, then you can stop writing to women and join us on the forums for some marryment and fun.

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Edit: out of interst, are you a devout Christian? Not at all related to the topic, I'm just curious. (I am not a Christian, so please don't answer unless you want to. This is nothing but a question that came to me. Don't attribute anything to the question, any motivation on my part.)

There are plenty of serious people out there, of the hundreds that are on date sites, it is just hard to meet them. Sites that really match you up, Most of them Cost.

We allowed the media to define them through "inclusion" Then we voted them into public office.

True. I refuse to "pay to play". I'll save my money to spend on my lady rather than spend it in an effort to find her.