I´m looking for it, and i can´t find it

sorry not interested but im sure you will find that one .

You can chat with an individual when you click their name and then click instant messaging.

yes chat advertised is one to one chat only not live chat .

dont stop an invite

HOW DO I IM?
First, you must have YOUR 'Instant Messaging'
turned ON:
http://mingle2.com/user/enable_im
(Or >>My Account>>Settings>>Turn ON IM)

Then you would go to the profile of the person
with whom you wish to chat.

Under their picture there is an orange button
'Instant Message' which you would click on and
the request to Instant Message is sent.

If there is no orange button labeled 'Instant
Message' it could mean one of two things.

The person does NOT have 'Instant Messaging'
turned ON.
(In which case you could email them and request
they turn it ON.)

Or, the person is in 'Stealth Mode.'
http://mingle2.com/user/toggle_stealth_mode
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Otherwise we just use the 'forum' system here, welcome :-)