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Topic: Need advice
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Sun 04/28/13 04:36 AM


hey,

i got a girl frnd n we are so close. i asked her for a kiss n she said no. she asked me to promise her that never remember that incident. i dont understand why she's like that even though we discuss almost everything including her personal life.

any suggestions are welcome?


She may be a girl and she may pretend to be a friend but she is not your girlfriend. You are a silent doormat to this girl who can tell you things in the guise of of being intimate but she does not care for you or she would not have asked you to pretend that you do Not have attraction to her when you do. That is selfish and degradeing to you as a normal male.

The suggestion I would make immediately distance yourself from this person who is useing you as and emotional dump site and invest in someone that genuinely cares about how her actions make you feel and is willing to reciprocate your feelings.

As far as "stealing a kiss" I would not recommend it unless you really want to get punched by her or one of her real friends or charged with assault since she has made it clear that the first advance was NOT WELCOME. NO MEANS NO.


I've been in that position a few time's as a teenager, and the basis of our union was a friendship.
This one was always dumping on me she was seeing a guy that had a girlfriend, so she was the "dirty little
secret " we would hang out daily, we actually were realy close . In both of these situations I started
Having feeling for my friends, but they did nothing wrong, if there your friends you except then and invite
them to grow with you, having no ulterior motivates in mind. This was my problem, not there's.
I was like a dog in heat around them & felt guilty for violating the friendships. AWKWARD!

I we were there emotional garbage dump, well it happened because we were trying to manipulating them
Into liking us in a diferent way.

Woman eh! if they like us and we didn't like then at least we would have the common decency to sleep
with them!

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Sun 04/28/13 04:57 AM
Dude, you asked her for a kiss, she said no. End of story, really. You can't force her. It sounds like you're trying to force her into it any way that you can. No means no. You can't change the fact. Just move on.

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Sun 04/28/13 03:27 PM

Woman eh! if they like us and we didn't like then at least we would have the common decency to sleep
with them!


You're a kind man. rofl

ridewytepony's photo
Sun 04/28/13 04:31 PM

I've got a realy realy big heart, that what i'm willing to do for them!

RainbowTrout's photo
Sun 04/28/13 04:35 PM

It's better to be alone and keep your dignity than to be in arelationship where you always sacrifice your self respect.


Amen. :smile: That is so true.

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Sun 04/28/13 04:47 PM


I've got a realy realy big heart, that what i'm willing to do for them!


No doubt brother, You've got my vote. drinks

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Fri 05/03/13 01:22 AM
Agree

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Fri 05/03/13 01:23 AM

It's better to be alone and keep your dignity than to be in arelationship where you always sacrifice your self respect.


Agree

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