Hi this seems pretty desperate, I have been trying to find a friend ( mate) its taking for what seems forever.I'm really getting the feeling that I'm not attractive or I'm doing something wrong.:( please can you tell me what I'm missing,thanks peeps

You've been here for less than 2 weeks....

Nothing wrong with your profile - honest, upfront and upbeat. Shame you're in Canada . Not sure why there's a picture of your dinner, looks great though. You can't beat a juicy steak and mash (hope it's cooked very rare)! Good luck

Lucky,
I can be hard core with you, jump down your throat, for what really seems like a guy who just doesn't get that a woman is not something you jump up and say "You are the new toy and I want it now." but I am not going to do that.

You are asking why and I am going to tell you what instinct tells me might be the problem. It is an opinion but you are asking for opinions so here goes.

I think you work hard. I see your profession and what I know it is you work VERY hard. It is a high stress, competitive, high risk, and volatile job if you piss only one customer off. You have to be aggressive, intense, and charming and push everyone who works with you to the limit. You probably make good money in bursts but it's only as good as the last contract.

I think you have taken that right into your off job time and trying to keep the same elements punching just as hard. The things you say you like are reflecting all off the same elements right down to what you eat.

My guess is the only element that is in your life that is not as frenetic is a dog that is probably cooped up so much and super charged that even he is feeding off your ramped up pace.

What is crystal clear is you are racing toward a wall that you know even if you bust through is into an empty room. Sucks huh?

Would slowing down and thinking about who you are and what you would really be able to offer a woman make sense? If it is scaring them is it working?

Is it possible that woman see you as an adrenalin junkie?

That is what your profile suggests and is probably why you are just having women stand and look in shock and not move toward you. You are not a kid. You are a grown man an grown women see you as a risk not worth the even short term value of entertainment. Loving you would, if I am right, be misery with a capital "M". A flash in the sky light lightening then only destruction. Why wouldn't they run?

Occasionaly you will get one that wants to party and let you throw down some money over them but you are going to keep coming up lonely if you don't get a handle on this.

I hope this helps. Welcome to Mingle. Believe it or not if you hang around you might find some introspection to help you work this out. You would not be the only one who breezed in her in a panic and had to find themself. Good Luck.