Topic: hard to fill emptyness
littlepreggers's photo
Tue 09/04/07 11:15 PM
I didnt think that trying to fill the emptyness would be so hard... trying to find mr right, raising my son and growing a healthy baby inside me. i would have thought that my son and soon to be daughter would have filled that spot.. but i guess its waiting to be filled by something i havent thought about.... have you ever woke up one day and thought to your self, what can i do to make it go away.. its not depression but that longing for something you dont know or have yet in your life... i tried the whole changing my life style from bad to good.. to doing the things i normaly do that makes me happy.. yet the emptyness is still there.. its not dragging me down its just a constent reminder that i could be full... giggles i know its weird but i hope i'm not the only one who has felt that..
DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE MY CHILDREN AND THEY MAKE ME VARY HAPPY...:heart:

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Wed 09/05/07 12:55 AM
Im normally too busy to think about things......if I slowed down enough though I would start thinking.....and then things could get really ugly!!!noway noway laugh laugh

Greyhound's photo
Wed 09/05/07 01:35 AM
Gypsy... I won't worry,nothing can be as ugly as the pic you have on here.


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GG2's photo
Wed 09/05/07 05:33 AM
If you have a baby "growing inside you" the last thing you need to worry about is a man except for that child's father and making sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

Puffins1958's photo
Wed 09/05/07 05:36 AM
Do you feel as if you NEED someone to "complete" you??

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Wed 09/05/07 07:41 AM
Hi, Littlepreggers,

You are not the only one who feels like that !!! The core of ego is a feeling of deficiency, of poverty, of emptiness, of saying things like, “I am no good, I am worthless, I am empty. Give me, give me, more, more, more, more.” In this state of deficiency you won’t love yourself, you won’t accept yourself. You will reject yourself. You want to run away, distract yourself; maybe go to a movie, see a friend, have sex, eat, fill yourself with knowledge, or pretend that you are O.K. You will always want to fill this emptiness, always rejecting it, always afraid of it.

In fact, we are all terrified by it. Most of the time people don’t know that this emptiness, this deficiency is what is driving most of their actions. It’s such a desperation, such a race to fill this bottomless pit.

But how sweet it is to say “yes” to this emptiness. How courageous it is to say: “I feel empty, I feel deficient, and I won’t attempt to fill it. I want to see the truth. I want to experience the reality of me. I refuse to manipulate. I want to wake up regardless of how painful it is.” Only the hero will take this attitude, for it is a heroic act to see your deficiency, your neediness, your emptiness, and yet not try to manipulate your life to fill it. We are so compulsive, so driven to manipulate, to avoid feeling this basic deficiency of our personal ego.

I don't know you, but......, you can start by "Loving YourSelf" and "Forgiving YourSelf" for your pass choices. Wake up saying "Positive Things", and look at your children as the "ONLY" reason to travel into the future.

Benz............smokin

nurjoyce's photo
Wed 09/05/07 08:36 AM
some people have someone and still have that emptiness inside


MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Wed 09/05/07 09:19 AM
Its normal too be lonely for adult companionship...

You are deffinately note alone on that!

Hope you feel better soon, we are here for you if you need us!

flowerforyou

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Wed 09/05/07 10:09 AM
GG2 hit it right on the nail

MorganSunday's photo
Wed 09/05/07 11:10 AM
LP,To some degree I feel everyone has a bit of emptiness and its sometimes hard to fill.You have a baby on the way,dont sweat the small things and Girl, you dont need a man in your life to fill full! I know..Congrats on your new baby!

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Wed 09/05/07 11:15 AM
LP..I know exactly how you fill! No matter how much I love my beautiful little girls, their is a certain roll in my life that they can not play....A void they can not fill! I would never put anyone above them! But it sure would be nice to have one more person in our house who loved them and me!

HillFolk's photo
Wed 09/05/07 11:31 AM
Yeah. We aren't half people we are whole people. Imagine being married and someone asking you how the better half is referring to your mate. If your mate is the better half than what does that make you? A whole universe is not enough to fill the emptiness and that is my theory for why there is a black hole in outer space.

nu2topcat's photo
Wed 09/05/07 11:52 AM
lp, we by nature are not solitary animals, our wholle life we have been surrounded by many people. it takes time to overcome the feelings of lonelyness. but as time passes so do those empty feelings. faster for some, slower for others. do not dwell on things out of our control. in time all things will right themselves, and don't be in a hurry life passes too fast as it is. enjoy what you have, while you have it. things will definitly get betterflowerforyou flowerforyou

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Wed 09/05/07 03:41 PM
my son is great company but i too am lonely sometimes and would like a man's touch though i can do without the bullcrap..laugh

littlepreggers's photo
Wed 09/05/07 05:39 PM
flowerforyou THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ADVICE... and its not just needing a man in my life its almost like i have missed something but cant turn back to find out what it was that i missed.. but if i could have turned back i probaly wouldnt have my son and my duaghter..smooched

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Wed 09/05/07 05:45 PM
YOu can be married and still feel empty....so be happy that you aint in that situation.....laugh

littlepreggers's photo
Wed 09/05/07 05:53 PM
true.... just the other day he was like if we get back together we ARE going to get married... i asked why and he said because of our children... and i said wrong answer... you would want to marry me because you loved me and wanted us to work?

ShagnaC's photo
Wed 09/05/07 05:55 PM
I think you need to find inner peace within yourself as NO ONE can fill that void you have, it comes from within.