I never brought up anything about marriage on a first date!!! That's the thing! The only clue he had was on my profile; stating I'm looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage. He told me in our text convos prior to meeting that he himself wanted marriage. Then a week after the date with no texts other than a few back and forth "hi"s, I asked if he'd be interested in meeting up again. He sent me a paragraph long text saying no thank you, sorry but he's really looking to get married, so he has to be picky and just doesn't see himself marrying me. HE talked about marriage not me!

And the reason I'm mad about this site is because the guy who stood me up, and the guy who didn't want date #2, and countless other game-playing jerks were guys I got in contact through all from THIS SITE!

Yeah, this site made me like bacon sandwiches too.

bacon!!!!!

hi red!!

It's a conspiracy!

Hello, Moe! :)

O-em-gee!

.. this is the inherent. problem with online dating.. too much information.. if I met you in real life.. I wouldn't bring up marriage right off the bat.. we would establish. a physical connection... then ease into each other... online. excuse this next part....... its like verbal diarrhea... empty yourself out into some text... you wouldn't do that in real life would you..??.. that's it for now... oh yes ps... if you tell the person your desires here... what are you going to talk about on the date... but not only that... they know more than they should before they even meet you....hmm.. the date is over before it begins.... okay that's it...phD..

I agree Moe! Most of her posts from her other..."woe is me" thread have been deleted by the mods.

Ok I don't know how many times I need to say it -- I dont go on and on like this with the guys I talk to, this is just me having a major meltdown around people who either live far away, dont know me, or have already rejected me (so im not trying to impress anyone here). And I didn't bring up marriage at all on that date...he did, saying it was his goal. Then later he cited wanting marriage as why he wouldn't see me again since although he knows I have the same goal, he cant see himself marrying me. Yes all that after only one awkward date. And he only knew I wanted marriage because my profile here says "looking for a relationship with eventual marriage" not because I harped on it. Oh and I learned from dating gurus rori raye and patti stanger to never talk about exes on the 1st date yet he asked about my kids dad several times, before and during the date, and later told me he found it a red flag that I kept avoiding any talk about my ex.

.. princess.. go for a walk clear your head... you're placing way too much importance.. on strangers.. you either connect or you don't... no connection move on... life's too short.... and rant away.... get it out of your system... better here... then blowing up in real life.. on those who love you.... sincerely PhD....

lol, some of that was me, i was asking her if she was crazy...(not that i needed to ask)

huh, that was this thread... she started calling someone names in the other thread...

Well, the real reason I don't have any good to come out of talking about that ex ie. because, quite frankly, it ended badly for me due to no real fault of my own other than perhaps being too loyal and too accommodating to the point that I was a doormat. Yeah that might be a major "flaw" in terms of how a dating guru like Rori Raye would perceive my ability to play the dating "game," and I realize now that being too available and too accommodating to a guy will lose his interest, but on the same token, being too loyal isn't something that's a "sin" nor does it show that I'd mistreat a guy. If anything, it shows that I am a nice girl with a big heart...too big of a heart sometimes.

The only other thing I did wrong was to develop nasty scars and stretch marks as a result of having a really bad kidney condition (look up nephritis, and the effects that a treatment med called prednisone has on skin). My ex never had sex with me after my kidney condition got out of hand and left me scarred. Even though I later got a lot better and lost the 50lbs of swelling--thus rereturning to my normally svelte figure--he never sexually touched me again. I believe this is because of the extreme scarring that the nephritis and prednisone left me with. So yeah it was a sexless relationship. I went through a huge period of involuntary celibacy--both while "dating" him and also after him--while he sl.utted around with other girls. If I admit this sh.it to guys, they will see me as a loser and a doormat that they will think they can cheat on or mistreat. The nice guys won't want to cheat on me, nah they'll just choose to go for a girl who doesn't have such self-disrespectful past dating experiences.

Admit it, my scenario involving my ex is really, really embarrassing.

Another reason my ex stopped sexing me is likely because he has a Madonna wh0re complex. Look it up on Wikipedia if you don't know what that is.

Other than that, my ex brought a lot of bad--both in the relationship and in general--onto himself. He chose to act in a destructive way, become a deadbeat, do a complete 180 from who his friends and I knew him to be, etc. None of his actions were my fault...it's even questionable to say that my scars causing him to "sexile" me were my "fault," since it's not like I was able to help having an incurable kidney condition (aside from a possible transplant that is). So yeah that "relationship" was a huge scam due to no real fault of my own yet it's still shameful to talk about because it makes me look like a doormat and an idiotic for "sure knowin how to pick em".

hi hun pleases don't give up i've seen your profile pic an ur beautiful the guy who catches your heart will be one lucky guy. don't rush into it. i find if you rush a relationship the fasters it ENDS . keep your head up blond beauty..

Thank you :) right now I haven't even looked at rushing into a relationship, I first need to be able to actually meet guys in person after only texting for weeks and months. I do want to get married though...even my LITTLE sister is engaged (nobody told me, because my whole family pities me and my lonely single mom situation, I found out about my sister's engagement 6mos after the fact via Facebook, how mortifying).

After I posted this stuff, I had another guy (one ive known since high school) cancel on me for a questionable reason. My best friend said I should be furious.

And the reason I took my pics down is because I divulged a boat load of super personal, super embarrassing info on this forum today so the last thing I need is people who know me in real life identifying me after reading my posts. I realize that not having a pic will hinder me from meeting guys on this site, but I dont care anymore because my experiences on this site and with the guys from the site have all been awful.

hun who cares what people think about... to tell you the truth there is nothing wrong with your post if people can't handle what you say then why carry on reading i say...
lol or i say jump the fence hahaha have a bit of fun tht way hahaha
just saying hahaha sorry

an you been a single mom hun is awesome i don't see pitie i see strength a women who can stand on her own an raise her babys are awesome

At least you're getting to meet people. Every profile where I live is either inactive or a robot. I've been on here since September. And I haven't met anyone yet, and I'm a handsome man.