right to express ourselves? hmm,,, my belief is in personal space

I believe people should 'express' themselves however they wish in their 'personal space' but when their space overlaps mine,, or when mine overlaps theirs,,,, there is much more to consider then the self or the self desire for 'expression'



nudists with other nudists should be no ones business, but nudists also should not make demands or have expectations that others must observe or accept nudity in their presence,,,


as to spreading the word, vs gossiping,, someone else kind of touched on it,, I consider 'gossip' to be spreading second hand in formation that may or may not be true,,,

If I knew something about a specific person that I thought would be helpful to others who were in or considered being in a relationship with them, Id have no qualms with sharing,,,, If I had an experience with someone that I thought others could relate to or learn from, Id have no qualms sharing that either

You don't paint everybody with the same brush (all men or all woman) and yes some people just may not be suited for us and can drive us crazy bringing out the worst in us but it doesn't mean they can't find happiness with another.I have had some terrible relationships and there's was terrible things that they did but there was equally great things about them,that's the reason we often stay together to long as its hard to let go of the good.

Hate is like an acid;
It damages the vessels in which bit is stored and destroys the vessels on which it is poured.
-Ann Landers

One of the nicer things a person can do for themselves is forgive
a person that has treated them badly and knowing this, I would not
give someone the stage to display hatred,even in the advice threads,
there is another side somewhere.
As it goes;
There are three sides to 'every' story.
His side,her side and the truth.

Who cares if myself or people randomly drop something about
an unpleasant experience,for the most part it doesn't make the
person bitter or revengeful. In my case I don't even know is they
are alive today,this is the only place I've spoke on the internet.
I think you are talking about bullying mainly and I have been on
the bad end of that...am I aloud o say that

Hi Tawt, it's nice to read from you again.

The example about gossip that you proffer for comparison though leaves me just as confused as you might be by what I'm expressing. Although if it were true I might ask for more details just out of curiosity.

What I do understand and wholeheartedly agree with you about is that there are people who are open and sharing, and there are others taking pot shots while they hide behind their superior attitudes.

And there are lots of repetitive threads where we do sometimes repeat ourselves because new people come on board and ask the same questions, are seeking similar advice, or are experiencing the same frustrations being pestered by scammers/players that are old news to us, but is a completely unknown experience to the newbies who may be shocked and want to voice their opinions about things too.

For whatever reasons we all interact, I doubt very seriously if any of us truly believes that anyone is going to be so smitten that we will be swept off our feet to get married.

Though the idea does have the makings of a good fantasy.

Kic, there is no problem, this is just another conversation in the midst of many more conversations. Maybe with a slightly different twist.

Hi msharmony, it's good to see you again.

And I hope you don't mind my taking a different view on your willingness to share what you know.

First of all, when two strangers meet and become attracted to each other the chemistry that bonds them isn't the same as it is between them and the others they've been with already or those yet to come.

Every relationship is different.

When a couple breaks up and one partner tells their friends both sides while making themselves look like a victim or a misunderstood hero they are leveling the playing field in their favor.

And possibly even prejudicing the hearers of their version so as to deliberately ostracize the partner who prefers to keep their business private.

You said it yourself, that you are motivated to spill the beans because you think you're being helpful to another person who gets interested in the person being talked about.

But... is it positive reinforcement to encourage unity, or negative news (gossip) that's meant to keep people apart?

No two people experience each other the same way others experience them. Because if we're smart we learn from our mistakes and try to improve ourselves so we stand a better chance of a connection lasting the next time.

If we go around telling each new interested party what we know then we are in fact interfering with the personal experience of the two trying to get to know each other.

Personally, I think the only time anyone should divulge knowledge of a private nature is if it will protect another person from serious danger. Not just from a person's quirks, sexual preferences, idiosyncrasies, etc...

Hi pony... no, I don't paint everybody the same. We, men and women, are all individuals and as such we each have our own unique qualities and perspectives.

And I like how you describe the passion that brings us together and often times keeps us lingering in the heat far too long because it's comfortable to stay with what we know.

As for randomly sharing our experiences that are meant to enlighten or entertain when there's no personal agenda that's meant to hurt someone we're referring too if they happen to be around, that's a horse of a different color. And perfectly acceptable.

Although I've experienced serious bullying in the distant past as part of my initiation I presume, I'm not referring to bullying now.

Only the dignity and respect that I personally believe we should treat each other with regardless to our differences. And if we don't have something nice to say then we shouldn't say anything at all.

For sure ;) The only time I forbade that sort of activity, is if there's children around. I wouldn't want to scar them for life. lol. It may mean me having to take trips to adult-only holiday resorts/clubs.




I don't believe in gossiping. Friendly banter about our inner circle of friends, I don't mind at all, but if it starts to get slightly malicious, I normally tend to back away, as we're not in high school anymore. So if you have a problem with anyone, you should sort it out with them, otherwise words can become poisonous.

I very much like your attitude and words of wisdom.

It's nice to meet you, Shy_Emo_chick.

I very much like your attitude and words of wisdom.

It's nice to meet you, Shy_Emo_chick.


P.S. I don't have a problem with anyone, this is just a sensitive subject to discuss.

How nice. You too

the second question is easy. All intimate matters between a couple are completely and absolutely private. period. any divergent path from that is grounds for immediate break up. Others may be more tolerant or choose, together, to share some information with mutual friends. that is different than spreading gossip. I can't imagine anyone with any sense of maturity, dignity, respect or self respect violating a partner's privacy.

When expressing ourselves about matters that are sexual in nature it is wise to consider your audience. Not everyone may be comfortable watching you renact your latest porn scenes (not you personally - whomever). If that happened at a party, I would leave (as I have done in the past).

There are particular places like nude beaches and other nude clubs for those who are comfortable with that. No, you would not find me there. I think those who are into that should confine themselves to places where it is permitted. As far as the site. The rules specify PG-13 and I don;t think we should give the Mods a difficult time by challenging that.

I really do not think you are veering. The whole idea of "warning" others is a good point. It definitely should be done privately. I would only do that in the most extreme circumstances. If a woman here tried to "warn" me about a man on here based on her experience, I would definitely want to hear his side of things. Unless he was an axe murderer or maybe lying about being married, I doubt her "warnings" would have much impact. I make up my own mind.

I am open to almost any thing but I also have to think long and hard about other stuff so I would be mounting the fence on this topic

Hi sweetestgirl, it's nice to see you.

I couldn't imagine anyone violating personal privacy either until it happened to me. And the not so much of a gentleman (and not online) actually bragged about things.

It was MORTIFYING! But taught me a hard lesson.

Since then I'm very particular about guys with loose lips and can spot them from a mile a way.

It's not that I'm doing anything embarrassing or wrong and that I fear it might be made public, because I'm pretty open minded, it's the respect factor.

A man, or a woman, that doesn't know how to respect themselves and those they're with by revealing personal information either to make themselves look good or their partner look bad is a permanent turn off to me.

Once burned, twice shy I guess...

I like and agree with your open minded approach.

When other people meddle it only makes me more curious to see for myself what all the hoopla is about because I might just like it.

Different strokes... as they say...

Hi longboardernew, it's nice to meet you.

"Mounting the fence"? Hmmm

The picture this paints looks kinda painful...

IMO:
If someones lifestyle or habits affect others negatively w/o their knowledge yes there's a reason to be a whistle blower.

Personally, I think the question is a 'round-robin' ; but I am often caught thinking too hard on matters.

Hi Whozurdaddy, cool nicname... but scary look in the eyes.

Yes, I agree, it appears that your take is spinning the topic into a different vein altogether. But thanks for stopping by to read and contribute.