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Topic: Who gets the jewelry?
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Thu 06/26/14 02:44 AM

heirlooms should'nt be given lightly anyway, so if i have given an heirloom and i end things its my tuff luck but if she end things then its get it back with or without the finger haha


I agree... laugh

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Thu 06/26/14 03:29 AM
Edited by 0ldhag on Thu 06/26/14 03:38 AM
When my dad and his ex broke up he kept the wedding ring he bought for her...then gave it to my mom.

My mom never forgave him for that. She wore the ring 10 years, before she bought herself a new one.

They ended up divorcing eventually needless to say.

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Thu 06/26/14 03:34 AM
^^^ Oh my... I know how your mother felt... sad2

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Thu 06/26/14 03:51 AM

Why cherish something that no longer has meaning ... I would offer anything that represents what we shared back to him


I Offered It Back..
Then Flushed It when He Didnt Want It Back..
Hope I Never See Another Ring
In This Lifetime

Thomas27's photo
Thu 06/26/14 04:36 AM


Why cherish something that no longer has meaning ... I would offer anything that represents what we shared back to him


I Offered It Back..
Then Flushed It when He Didnt Want It Back..
Hope I Never See Another Ring
In This Lifetime


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Thu 06/26/14 04:49 AM
Edited by AthenaRose2 on Thu 06/26/14 04:51 AM

Why cherish something that no longer has meaning ... I would offer anything that represents what we shared back to him


Why just offer something that has no meaning... when giving it back outright would make a bigger statement...

I agree... by the time the giving back or taking back of the jewelry phase has reached its peak in the relationship, the love (time to cherish) can been so totally depleted even the symbol of that union is meaningless history too.

:thumbsup:

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Thu 06/26/14 05:59 AM
Rings are evil I'm tellin ya! scared


I don't want anything back... they can keep the zirconia laugh smokin

Seriously... I take nothing back, I hope she'd pawn or give em away instead of wearing them tho.

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Thu 06/26/14 09:10 AM




I'd let him do what he wants with his. As it was his in the first place. I'd probably keep mine, as we were once in a special relationship together, and I want to stay true to my feelings, by keeping the jewellery as a symbol of our memories of times spent together. I seriously don't think I could give such a sentimental thing away. I may sound soft saying that, but I love deep.


It doesn't mean you didn't value the object or love deeply. What it does mean is if that sentiment was lost along the way, would you willingly release it to find something or someone who would never ask you to return it! Therein lies the key.


I'd mainly just keep it, for the sake of the memories. I think I'd almost feel like we never happened, if I didn't have some sort of keepsake left from our relationship. I just always feel like I need something physical infront of me, to prove to myself, that we were together, because as the years go by, it can feel like it was all a dream. I know that may be hard to understand, though. I'm the same way whenever anyone I know dies.

I understand relating it to someone who dies...ending a relationship can seem like a "death" of sorts, so I understand what you are saying, totally. However, in my mind, I don't need something physical to convince me I had something emotional, spiritual, or of real value at a given point in my life. My mind holds it all, without the physical representation of that relationship...therefore, I need no physical object to remind me of it...and in the end, if it's gone, it won't be any closer with a physical object to represent it.



I think it's because I can be really overly-sentimental in a relationship. I'm one of those people that thinks they really might die tomorrow. I don't really know how to describe it.

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