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Topic: Can your friends TAP THAT too?
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Mon 06/30/14 07:07 AM
Nobody has better access to our significant others than our friends.

How do you deal with "in your face" flirtations between your partner and your friends?

If "off limit" lines are crossed and your friend taps a piece of a$$ from your partner do you easily forgive them both? Seek revenge? Or move on from them entirely?


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Mon 06/30/14 07:12 AM
when friends of a partner flirt with me I have considered it fairly harmless and it has been. I would just remain alert for those times when harmless turns not so harmless any more, I guess.

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Mon 06/30/14 07:39 AM
I found that demonstrating a few stabbing strokes of a steak knife during dinner with the guilty party quickly remedies the situation. :)

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Mon 06/30/14 07:59 AM
It's only okay if it's a woman friend and I'm invited to join in.smokin

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Mon 06/30/14 08:04 AM

when friends of a partner flirt with me I have considered it fairly harmless and it has been. I would just remain alert for those times when harmless turns not so harmless any more, I guess.


How did your partner react to the flirtatious attention being directed at you in their presence? Or was it more like behind the back flirting so the partner wouldn't notice and possibly get jealous?

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Mon 06/30/14 08:04 AM

I found that demonstrating a few stabbing strokes of a steak knife during dinner with the guilty party quickly remedies the situation. :)


laugh I love this reaction... point well taken... :wink:

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Mon 06/30/14 08:07 AM

It's only okay if it's a woman friend and I'm invited to join in.smokin


Aaahhh, so you admit that your male friends flirting with your woman isn't acceptable? But you won't reveal how it made or would make you feel or react if it did occur... okay... I won't pressure you for an answer... tongue2

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Mon 06/30/14 08:21 AM

Nobody has better access to our significant others than our friends.

How do you deal with "in your face" flirtations between your partner and your friends?

If "off limit" lines are crossed and your friend taps a piece of a$$ from your partner do you easily forgive them both? Seek revenge? Or move on from them entirely?


To answer my own questions...

Hell NO! if I'm really into the relationship I have with my partner that shiiit won't fly!!! To me it's a serious sign of disrespect if my girlfriends flirt with my man in front of my face, but its even more conniving if they try to get away with it behind my back.

Then, if I catch them together in the act, or find out about it after the fact I'm SO DONE with the BOTH of THEM!

I don't seek revenge other than to ultimately cut ties and move on to a better class of individuals I can trust and respect.

I don't even get into guys who claim to love me but then at every opportunity they're talking to other women for nothing more than to get their attention.

Or they're talking to other women about me to get their advice. To me, my man doesn't need to talk to any other woman besides me to figure out where I'm coming from with him.

What I find really ballzzzeee is when women pretend to be my friend just to get information on me to run back and tell my man behind my back. To me a woman that stabs me in the back like this is no friend of mine, and again I cut ties.

There are definitely lines I won't let others cross and I don't cross these same lines either.

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Mon 06/30/14 08:28 AM
My friends wouldn't be my friends if those kinda thoughts crossed their minds. Also if she is flirting with someone else then i must not be the one for her so i'd move on from that relationship.

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Mon 06/30/14 08:30 AM
Some folks get possessive and certain observances will eventually add up.

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Mon 06/30/14 08:44 AM
I need to see how the man responds first to determine if I can trust him , sometimes its harmless fun.
On the other hand I was faced with a situation where I just came out and said"are you two f...ing eachother your acting guilty you cant even look at eachother ...I trust my intuition he's in the past.

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Mon 06/30/14 08:47 AM
Edited by 0ldhag on Mon 06/30/14 08:49 AM
I feel my guy can do what he likes in a relationship with me. He can flirt or do whatever else he wants with whoever , I don't control his life.

But the real question is...Is that something I can accept?

The answer will always be no....and if he's lucky, he'll get a break up at BK.

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Mon 06/30/14 08:51 AM

My friends wouldn't be my friends if those kinda thoughts crossed their minds. Also if she is flirting with someone else then i must not be the one for her so i'd move on from that relationship.


:thumbsup:

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Mon 06/30/14 08:52 AM

Some folks get possessive and certain observances will eventually add up.


The way I look at it what's mine is MINE until it isn't. And whoever chooses to be with me is gonna want to be possessed by me. pitchfork :angel: tongue2

And I 100% agree that once we add up all the little things the bigger picture eventually shows us what's really going on... :thumbsup:

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Mon 06/30/14 09:02 AM

I need to see how the man responds first to determine if I can trust him , sometimes its harmless fun.
On the other hand I was faced with a situation where I just came out and said"are you two f...ing eachother your acting guilty you cant even look at eachother ...I trust my intuition he's in the past.


So you're saying that its cool if your trusted galpal flirts a little just so you can see if your man will bite... winking and once you deduce he's a keeper then... :thumbsup:

Yeah, I hate that scenario when you're all together and the two of them go to great and obvious lengths to ignore each other, when just two weeks earlier they were good friends too. It's like WTF PEOPLE are you serious!!! Get on outta here with that two timin' crap... smokin

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Mon 06/30/14 09:03 AM
Edited by AthenaRose2 on Mon 06/30/14 09:46 AM

I feel my guy can do what he likes in a relationship with me. He can flirt or do whatever else he wants with whoever , I don't control his life.

But the real question is...Is that something I can accept?

The answer will always be no....and if he's lucky, he'll get a break up at BK.


Gotta love them whoppers... :thumbsup:

The men I always seem to gravitate toward have the same expectations to possess me, so I say turn about is fair play. :tongue:

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Mon 06/30/14 09:29 AM
If my friend is tapin my girl, thin there no friend of mine,

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Mon 06/30/14 09:34 AM


Nobody has better access to our significant others than our friends.

How do you deal with "in your face" flirtations between your partner and your friends?

If "off limit" lines are crossed and your friend taps a piece of a$$ from your partner do you easily forgive them both? Seek revenge? Or move on from them entirely?


To answer my own questions...

Hell NO! if I'm really into the relationship I have with my partner that shiiit won't fly!!! To me it's a serious sign of disrespect if my girlfriends flirt with my man in front of my face, but its even more conniving if they try to get away with it behind my back.

Then, if I catch them together in the act, or find out about it after the fact I'm SO DONE with the BOTH of THEM!

I don't seek revenge other than to ultimately cut ties and move on to a better class of individuals I can trust and respect.

I don't even get into guys who claim to love me but then at every opportunity they're talking to other women for nothing more than to get their attention.

Or they're talking to other women about me to get their advice. To me, my man doesn't need to talk to any other woman besides me to figure out where I'm coming from with him.

What I find really ballzzzeee is when women pretend to be my friend just to get information on me to run back and tell my man behind my back. To me a woman that stabs me in the back like this is no friend of mine, and again I cut ties.

There are definitely lines I won't let others cross and I don't cross these same lines either.

There.
You gave my answer.

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Mon 06/30/14 09:39 AM


I need to see how the man responds first to determine if I can trust him , sometimes its harmless fun.
On the other hand I was faced with a situation where I just came out and said"are you two f...ing eachother your acting guilty you cant even look at eachother ...I trust my intuition he's in the past.


So you're saying that its cool if your trusted galpal flirts a little just so you can see if your man will bite... winking and once you deduce he's a keeper then... :thumbsup:

Yeah, I hate that scenario when you're all together and the two of them go to great and obvious lengths to ignore each other, when just two weeks earlier they were good friends too. It's like WTF PEOPLE are you serious!!! Get on outta here with that two timin' crap... smokin


No its not cool not even really a test.just observing the situation .

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Mon 06/30/14 09:44 AM

If my friend is tapin my girl, thin there no friend of mine,


exactly... :thumbsup:

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