Topic: how far would you go..
no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:07 AM
Thats good news pink.:thumbsup: flowerforyou .. Burger King it is then..lol..jk

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Thu 06/25/15 12:09 AM
Woohoo.....look at me stepping up in the world......Burger King now.......tomorrow........A&W!......loltongue2

keegan1965's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:13 AM


....I say take the 20 you were going to pay the U-haul for miss I don't want you to really know who I am or what I look like.....and do dinner and a movie ....just my opinion lol.

no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:22 AM
Son of a peeep... just received a text from her... says thanks but no thanks.. her roommate is taking the day off.. to help her.... and she also felt really weird about asking me.. to do so much for her...


Wtf... wow now don't I feel like .. a arsehole...hmm....... I guess it just goes to show you... you really never know who you are dealing with online.... sorry everyone....

. but I guess the question is still valid..lol

no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:25 AM
I hate helping people move...lmao... they never have their s*** together..slaphead

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Thu 06/25/15 12:26 AM
Guess now you don't have to worry.......lol

keegan1965's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:32 AM


...well at least your Saturday is free now....lol

no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:35 AM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 06/25/15 12:36 AM
yeah I guess ..hmm.... now I feel even more like a shmock.... I was going to text her tomorrow.. And tell her I wasn't really comfortable.. with the whole situation.... but I would be happy to help her.. move her stuff into the new place...wow..hmm... funny how the tables can turn. sometimes..... this is like something out of the twilight zone...wtf.. now I have to reevaluate my whole... Boy Scout code..lol

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Thu 06/25/15 12:38 AM
You're still a good guy, you offered your services, you had second thoughts, she had second thoughts......it's all good now. Like Keegan said your Saturday is free now, maybe you can take her out to dinner after she's done moving, I'm sure she'll appreciate that.

no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:40 AM
Hmm.. not until I get a full body shot.. picture.. and after all of this.. she better have her clothes off in it..lmao..
..omgfrustrated

keegan1965's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:42 AM


Your not a shmock...you were going to do a nice thing in a really odd situation....

Most men would have just said no....and not even had a 2nd thought about it...so that makes you a good guy.

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Thu 06/25/15 12:42 AM
slaphead

keegan1965's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:43 AM

Hmm.. not until I get a full body shot.. picture.. and after all of this.. she better have her clothes off in it..lmao..
..omgfrustrated


Oh lord...thats too funny

Goofball73's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:47 AM

it's U-haul....not I-haul....:angel:


That sums up my five page dissertation on this subject. :thumbsup:

no1phD's photo
Thu 06/25/15 12:52 AM
thanks everyone.. sorry for the trouble.... I guess it all comes down to this.. if you want someone to help you.... you have to make it seem.. that you are doing everything to help yourself.... but just need a little help to get you all the way.. there..

... her mistake was making me feel...
. like I was doing more than I should really be doing...yes... if she would have said... I am picking up a UHaul trailer on Saturday... do you think you can come help me load the big stuff...
... because it's a two person job..
..... and I will take you out for pizza and beer afterwards.....

.... I probably would not have had this conversation with everybody.... Then ..thanks again.... everybody.. now I think I o her pizza and a beer...lol

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MelMaxx's photo
Thu 06/25/15 10:05 AM
You are a good man to have wanted to help AND even for the 2nd guessing and asking peeps for advice.flowerforyou

Sounds like you kinda dodged a bullet tho. :smile: drinker

TMommy's photo
Thu 06/25/15 10:17 AM
Uh...heeeeeeeellllll no!:angry:

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Thu 06/25/15 10:26 AM

"you have messaged each other and talk on the phone.. for one week.. "


I stopped reading at the ' one week '
Whatever is, NO. smokin

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Thu 06/25/15 10:58 AM
how far would you go..to help somebody you just met?

Not very far.

But it depends on what kind of help they need.

the scenario.. you just met someone online...for one week... they want you to bring a u-haul van to where they live.. help load it up..
drive it back to your city.. help unload it.. and then return the van back to u haul


I'd ask myself "would I do this for a dude stranger I met online? If not, then I'm doing this on the pretext or under the ulterior motive of getting laid."


I just feel like.. she is a lady in distress

That's a rationalization.

A lady in distress says "Help! OMG! I'm going to die or suffer severe harm if you don't help me! I'm being beaten or raped by my ex or some stranger or I'm having a heart attack or stuck on the roof of my house in a flood! Please, come right now to help me!"

That's distress.

"Hi, could you sometime next week rent a uhaul, drive it up here, get all my stuff, drive it back down, and move it into a new place because I just feel like moving to your city," is not a "lady in distress."

You're just setting up a scenario in your own mind where she will owe you something.

IMO the only qualm you really have is how likely she is going to give you what you think she owes you, or if she's just going to get the free labor and blow you off.

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Thu 06/25/15 11:11 AM
Edited by Leigh2154 on Thu 06/25/15 11:11 AM
D !!!...You're acting like you're 5' 4" and wearing nail polish and lip gloss...If you want to help the woman, help her...It shouldn't matter what she looks like butt wipewhoa ...If you're scared, take a brother with you...If you don't want to help her, tell her you'll pass...Here's a lollipop, take your thumb out of your mouth....