How long did the grieving process go on for you after you were separated from your spouse or partner? If you grieved at all that is?

Yes you do go through a grieving process and every one deals with it differently.

Mine was locking myself in my house and not going out. It took me a year to realize we were safe to go outside and do things away from the house.

It's taken 7 years to even think of having another man in my life. Only because my kids and schooling were more important.

During that time was a growth time for me to get rid of unwanted garbage.

Hmm.. my previous ex was a very good friend and we ended up together. Eventually he has another woman in his life while still having a relationship with me.

The initial grieving took me 3 months to get over; crying, sleepless nights, anger, questions in your mind. Although it's a short period but the impact of trusting someone eats into me so much until now.

For the past 7 years, I've not been seeing anyone.. sigh...

It helps if you can find someone else to take your mind off of it. She didn't want the divorce as much as I did, but I couldn't be in a sexless roommate relationship anymore and continue to put up with all the drama. For me, I would say at least a year, unless you meet someone that takes your mind off the subject.

ooooooh...I was a big ole hot mess for awhile
insomnia worrying are we gonna be ok
did I make the biggest mistake of my life
are my kids gonna hate me for this
I would go from bawling to anger
pacing back and forth making endless to do lists
of all the crap I had to figure out and accomplish
before the **** storm calmed down
I was the one who filed
and I was the one it just about killed..walking away from my vows

I understand, probably harder when you relied on the other one for support. But wasn't an issue with me, in fact, I'm better off without her and her lazy son on my payroll. I covered all the bills, her money was spent on herself or she gave a lot of it to her son. I can cook for myself, wash my own clothes and clean my own house. I just wanted a loving partner that I could be intimate with on occasions. I didn't think I asked for much in the relationship, again just a loving partner.

Griev? ell, I threw a party.

Took me about 4 years.
During that time I do not think I even could differentiate between
males and females, they were all the same to me. Blah.

Then one day in the grocery store, from clear across a room,I saw
this guy stocking shelves. I thought, wow he is looking good, I
thought he was a teenager.

Turned out he was my age and well..the drought was over :-)

It is no good getting involved before you make the pass
into the next realm.

its usually as long as the relationship was.

as don Williams sings "some broken hearts never mend"

Are we talking about normal life or normal sex life or normal sizes?

the normal or average time to get over a broken relationship

the normal or average time to get over a broken relationship