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men deserve it!!!™ you sent my blood pressure over 160!!
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Most of the time I see someone try to "shotgun" into a relationship it is because they have a history of being dumped. Usually because they are immature, lazy, selfish, can't manage money, or career, are in financial crisis, have a distorted idea of what a real relationship is about, and they know they have a limited time before the new partner will figure them out. Many come from highly dysfunctional chaotic backgrounds, have drug, alcohol, or sex addiction/disfunction histories or current barely hidden. Some are mentally ill usually manic depressive or sometimes spousal abuse histories they want to get you moved in, married, or dependent because you have up ended your support system one way or another running off with them in a romantic romp and can't leave. If they can they will get or keep their partner pregnant, unemployable, and isolated until they are so fed up they will run away, any way they can manage; even if it is with another "mate" and they are the "victim" who was cheated on. They will tell you if their siblings or adult children are not their life or arms length it is because they are the dysfunctional ones but often they are normal and assisting in one way or another. Usually they are helping and ex-partner or raising their younger siblings. These types rarely have friends or happy family relationships, often have one or more dysfunctional parents, semi dependent children with problems and sometimes pretend to be the family care giver but really it is and excuse to take advantage. Usually these types owe the IRS or back child support, or have been bankrupted at least once. If they have a car it may have expired tags or insurance. If they belong to a religious group they are often trying to be quasi leaders but if you look closely they are often dipping into the collection plate one way or another. Sometimes they will have pets that they are obsessive about one way but neglectful another. that's A really good picture typical men now do a woman what should men look for? Well if you read it closely I think I kept it unisex; least I tried. Granted men can not be physically pregnant but at least decent ones will try to stick around if the spouse is pregnant or sporting a newborn if for no other reason than social pressure and not knowing parentage or sympathy for the child. A very good excuse for permanent birth control once you have the children you can support. And for men to change laws that snag them into supporting children that are not theirs. Since I give most men enough intelligence not to be swayed by easy sex I did not think that had to be pointed out but if you are foolish enough to be blinded by constant kitty cat well then you kind of deserve the misery that goes along with it. men deserve it??? some women need to be fully documented. then men need laws to put them on a marriage offender list. same some men That is NOT what she said. Reread her post |
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Is like ...they do not give the relationship a time to develop, is it insecurity or what? I believe this isn't just men, this is personality type that either was born that way or evolved. A million reasons, gunshy, insecure, looking for the next greener pasture.. The reasons can be endless.. Instead of trying to figure out the why's if it was me, I would instead be starting to shop around. Life is way to short to be with someone that is that gunshy, I can work with someone that wants the relationship if they are willing to meet me half way but if I am the one putting all the effort into it. Then I am spinning my wheels and I am not going to do that. In saying that I don't believe people should be pushing a relationship along at top speed. I actually enjoy savouring the moments as they come. |
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Edited by
Deekthefreak
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Fri 09/04/15 04:24 PM
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Quick to blame us when yall treat us oneway to get us interested, then totally opposite once we commit.
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Am I the only one that noticed the title said SOME men.....not all men?
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indeed quick to generalize all men do this_____
and all women do this______ 
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Is like ...they do not give the relationship a time to develop, is it insecurity or what? The above post belongs in the "Say Something Vague" thread in the chit-chat forum.
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Edited by
TMommy
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Fri 09/04/15 04:36 PM
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hahahaha it's a fill in the blank
 these kind of threads are unanswerable why? because we do have access to the OP's personality, behavior while dating or in a relationship or the behavior or personalities of the men that she dates..so it's complete speculation it might be fear it might be she is too clingy or needy it might be helluva lot of things |
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sorry i just couldn't commit to reading this entire thread...
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indeed quick to generalize all men do this_____ and all women do this______ I was just thinking this. |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Fri 09/04/15 10:31 PM
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I'm sure its no secrete that if a woman wants to manipulate a man into providing for her, then giving him great and frequent sex is a tool in her arsenal. Especially, if she knows the guys last relationship turned sexless or such. Only if the man is too lazy, stupid, or cowardly and allows a sexless relationship when divorce is always and option. Or allows any female to use sex as part of her arsenal. Nothing shuts that kind of BS down like telling a female she over rates her arse and you can do with out or find it elsewhere. If men don't teach women to act like prostitutes by rewarding sex with gifts and so forth then it can't be a weapon. |
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Most of the time I see someone try to "shotgun" into a relationship it is because they have a history of being dumped. Usually because they are immature, lazy, selfish, can't manage money, or career, are in financial crisis, have a distorted idea of what a real relationship is about, and they know they have a limited time before the new partner will figure them out. Many come from highly dysfunctional chaotic backgrounds, have drug, alcohol, or sex addiction/disfunction histories or current barely hidden. Some are mentally ill usually manic depressive or sometimes spousal abuse histories they want to get you moved in, married, or dependent because you have up ended your support system one way or another running off with them in a romantic romp and can't leave. If they can they will get or keep their partner pregnant, unemployable, and isolated until they are so fed up they will run away, any way they can manage; even if it is with another "mate" and they are the "victim" who was cheated on. They will tell you if their siblings or adult children are not their life or arms length it is because they are the dysfunctional ones but often they are normal and assisting in one way or another. Usually they are helping and ex-partner or raising their younger siblings. These types rarely have friends or happy family relationships, often have one or more dysfunctional parents, semi dependent children with problems and sometimes pretend to be the family care giver but really it is and excuse to take advantage. Usually these types owe the IRS or back child support, or have been bankrupted at least once. If they have a car it may have expired tags or insurance. If they belong to a religious group they are often trying to be quasi leaders but if you look closely they are often dipping into the collection plate one way or another. Sometimes they will have pets that they are obsessive about one way but neglectful another. that's A really good picture typical men now do a woman what should men look for? Well if you read it closely I think I kept it unisex; least I tried. Granted men can not be physically pregnant but at least decent ones will try to stick around if the spouse is pregnant or sporting a newborn if for no other reason than social pressure and not knowing parentage or sympathy for the child. A very good excuse for permanent birth control once you have the children you can support. And for men to change laws that snag them into supporting children that are not theirs. Since I give most men enough intelligence not to be swayed by easy sex I did not think that had to be pointed out but if you are foolish enough to be blinded by constant kitty cat well then you kind of deserve the misery that goes along with it. men deserve it??? some women need to be fully documented. then men need laws to put them on a marriage offender list. same some men LOL That is what a "Reputation" is about. If as a dater or potential partner you don't check out a person's background and get some history documented by checking out "references" you kind of pick your own poison. |
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Most of the time I see someone try to "shotgun" into a relationship it is because they have a history of being dumped. Usually because they are immature, lazy, selfish, can't manage money, or career, are in financial crisis, have a distorted idea of what a real relationship is about, and they know they have a limited time before the new partner will figure them out. Many come from highly dysfunctional chaotic backgrounds, have drug, alcohol, or sex addiction/disfunction histories or current barely hidden. Some are mentally ill usually manic depressive or sometimes spousal abuse histories they want to get you moved in, married, or dependent because you have up ended your support system one way or another running off with them in a romantic romp and can't leave. If they can they will get or keep their partner pregnant, unemployable, and isolated until they are so fed up they will run away, any way they can manage; even if it is with another "mate" and they are the "victim" who was cheated on. They will tell you if their siblings or adult children are not their life or arms length it is because they are the dysfunctional ones but often they are normal and assisting in one way or another. Usually they are helping and ex-partner or raising their younger siblings. These types rarely have friends or happy family relationships, often have one or more dysfunctional parents, semi dependent children with problems and sometimes pretend to be the family care giver but really it is and excuse to take advantage. Usually these types owe the IRS or back child support, or have been bankrupted at least once. If they have a car it may have expired tags or insurance. If they belong to a religious group they are often trying to be quasi leaders but if you look closely they are often dipping into the collection plate one way or another. Sometimes they will have pets that they are obsessive about one way but neglectful another. that's A really good picture typical men now do a woman what should men look for? Well if you read it closely I think I kept it unisex; least I tried. Granted men can not be physically pregnant but at least decent ones will try to stick around if the spouse is pregnant or sporting a newborn if for no other reason than social pressure and not knowing parentage or sympathy for the child. A very good excuse for permanent birth control once you have the children you can support. And for men to change laws that snag them into supporting children that are not theirs. Since I give most men enough intelligence not to be swayed by easy sex I did not think that had to be pointed out but if you are foolish enough to be blinded by constant kitty cat well then you kind of deserve the misery that goes along with it. men deserve it??? some women need to be fully documented. then men need laws to put them on a marriage offender list. same some men LOL That is what a "Reputation" is about. If as a dater or potential partner you don't check out a person's background and get some history documented by checking out "references" you kind of pick your own poison. lol 5% of women are sciocopaths. very difficult to know till u live with them they can come from the best of families |
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Am I the only one that noticed the title said SOME men.....not all men? |
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Am I the only one that noticed the title said SOME men.....not all men? you said it right you have the right to ask about men. you never know what may spark a debate that everyone may learn something. |
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I'm sure its no secrete that if a woman wants to manipulate a man into providing for her, then giving him great and frequent sex is a tool in her arsenal. Especially, if she knows the guys last relationship turned sexless or such. Only if the man is too lazy, stupid, or cowardly and allows a sexless relationship when divorce is always and option. Or allows any female to use sex as part of her arsenal. Nothing shuts that kind of BS down like telling a female she over rates her arse and you can do with out or find it elsewhere. If men don't teach women to act like prostitutes by rewarding sex with gifts and so forth then it can't be a weapon. !!! every birthday n Christmas gift I give I write on card happy birthday thanks for the wonderful sex. lol how in the world did come up with that. how do men teach women to charge for sex???? I think it was just a barter system started a very very long time ago. I'm going to feel really stupid when you explain I taught women to charge me for sex. so ur telling me if I didn't teach them I could have gotten it for free???? lol have a nice day. |
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Am I the only one that noticed the title said SOME men.....not all men? you said it right you have the right to ask about men. you never know what may spark a debate that everyone may learn something. |
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