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Topic: a little one sided
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Fri 10/02/15 06:35 AM
If you really care about the girl, and you don't want to hurt her in the long run, you have to be honest with her. It would be unfair if you continue the relationship knowing that you don't love her. Have a heart to heart talk and let her know your feelings towards her, if it's ok with her to continue after knowing the truth, then it's her choice and she has to face the consequences not blaming you later if she becomes unhappy with a one sided relationship. And also face your own self, face your fear if there is, know what you want coz u might not be aware that you are having a problem within you that you need to face the truth. What do you really want in a girl and for yourself? What is it you are looking for in a relationship? Why are you in a relationship with her anyway? Is your feeling just lust or love? Are you willing to lose her? Weigh your feelings first before making a decision coz u might regret later after losing her. :smile: :wink:

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Fri 10/02/15 07:35 AM
Ohh hmmm the pitfalls of casual dating.. they fall in love too quickly.. are they just use you for sex.. are they are clingy and needy.. and let's not forget they can be crazy.. are they rip you off...... so hard to find normal..laugh .
But then again what is normal?:wink: ..

I'm beginning to think.. that the old way of finding a match.. you know! when the universe put that special someone in front of you.. is better than all this online stuff.... too many people coming out of the woodwork at you that normally would not have access to you.... but then again.. with online it's a new adventure every day..laugh laugh ...... and yes if you are looking for love.. and are not feeling it in your current relationship..
Best to be upfront about it....

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Fri 10/02/15 04:11 PM
I have a bit of different take maybe on this.
You have been dating 2 months that isn't a lot of time.
Did either one of your make statements of anything but casual dating and yes I know for you that includes sex?

I know for me that is a bit fast to consider that I am falling love with someone. At this stage I most likely have gotten to the I really like you. And if I think I could develop more the it is time to sit down and talk.

Always be honest, and if you have no clue if you are going to feel more at a later date then say so.
If you can see maybe then say so.

I have had those awkward moments when someone says I love you and all of the sudden you feel like a deer in the headlights. Time to suck it up and be honest with yourself and them.

I have said to buy a little time I love being you also. I know a bit of cop out but hey that is the best I have come up with,all the while knowing that I am going to have to do some serious soul searching and address it at a later date.
Good luck


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Fri 10/02/15 04:52 PM
Edited by no1phD on Fri 10/02/15 04:54 PM
People people people.. most topics I post are not generally about me or my going ons. .lol.. its just a question in general.... I have no problem figuring things out on my own..lmao.... well sometimes I have an issue with.. which end of the battery goes up.. but don't we all..lol

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Fri 10/02/15 04:55 PM

People people people.. most topics I post are not generally about me or my going ons. .lol.. its just a question in general.... I have no problem figuring things out on my own..lmao.... well sometimes I have an issue with.. which end of the battery goes up.. but don't we all..lol


Most of the time when a forum user uses the word "You" it is meant metaphorically nothing moreflowerforyou

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Fri 10/02/15 05:06 PM


People people people.. most topics I post are not generally about me or my going ons. .lol.. its just a question in general.... I have no problem figuring things out on my own..lmao.... well sometimes I have an issue with.. which end of the battery goes up.. but don't we all..lol


Most of the time when a forum user uses the word "You" it is meant metaphorically nothing moreflowerforyou
..ohh. so like if I say you are so funny.. lol..wink wink..

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