Is it just me or are people on mingle hard to talk to?

Its not just you. Lots of people different countries make a language barrier. Then u got the insulters n haters some that haven't matured :)

In my best Robert De Niro voice.. are you talking to me.. no really are you talking to me... from the movie taxi..

Lol.. or was that Al Pacino I get those two mixed up all the time..WI k

We can get..groupy, and protective like friends do.
But we were all new like you, at one time.
You get what you give here.

Chatter away, I am sure there are some who
will out-chat you :-)

Its just that people are really hard to talk to.. If you text them, they are either going to totally ignore you or answer too straight forward.. Am about to give up

Texting is not talking.

That tells you they're not the right person for you.

More like a telegraph, me thinks.


Oh, look! Shiny!

Never give up!

I have been on several sites and it seems they are all fairly the same whether it is a free site or a pay site. The free ones you have to sort through more fakes and scammers. I still believe there are real people out there just hoping like you are to find a genuine and honest person.

Getting off my soap box now...good luck and hang in there!!

You are never talking to or really interacting with people on mingle, or online.
You are only reacting to them.

If you want to understand the difference then take one day to ride the bus.
Turn to the person sitting next to you and ask "Is it just me or are people on this bus hard to talk to?"

Then ignore them for several minutes or an hour.

After ignoring them, then ask for their opinion. Don't ask for any clarification, don't interact with them in any other way whatsoever.
No smiling, shrugging, don't offer any additional information.

Just take the opinion they offer. Preferably, have them write them down.

Then ignore them again for 10 minutes, an hour, whatever, and come up with what you want to say, then say it to them.

Then ignore them again and in several minutes or hours or days or weeks ask them how they'd respond.

Keep doing that until you're both annoyed.

Does that feel like you're interacting with them, or really talking to them?

Only the west end population of the intelligence bell curve believe they are building relationships or truly interacting with people online.

Online is a useful tool to set up dates to interact and talk with people in person.

Otherwise people are using it to sublimate their lack of meaningful relationships.

No different than people eating McDonald's every day and saying "it's got onions and protein so it's healthy!"
People that say "I have lots of friends online" are saying "I only eat from the salads and good stuff from fast food restaurants so I'm getting healthy!"

What's the point of that screed?
People are hard to talk to on mingle, or online dating sites, or the internet, because you aren't really talking to them, you have to give them something to stimulate a desire to react to you and keep on reacting to you positively.
That's why they're here and wanting to talk on an intellectual level, or resting state neutral level.
Not to interact, but to be positively stimulated, to feel good.

If you make them feel good without it seeming disingenuous, or asking for anything in return for making them feel good, anyone will talk to you online however you want them to talk to you in order to get more of it.