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I don't think this philosophy is uncommon especially towards middle age
and if you have already been married and are now divorced many of us know friends or family that ran right out and jumped into another relationship only to end up divorced again so this idea of being in a relationship that does not involve walking down the aisle has some appeal to it |
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I don't think this philosophy is uncommon especially towards middle age and if you have already been married and are now divorced many of us know friends or family that ran right out and jumped into another relationship only to end up divorced again so this idea of being in a relationship that does not involve walking down the aisle has some appeal to it I do agree with this 100% when my divorce is final I will never get married again. I would still need to know though that it is about more then just sex and an occasional text only when he was in the mood wouldn't work for me. Everyone is different though |
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I know what I'm about to lay down here may seem weird..lol.. Especially when most people are trying to find someone.. either to get remarried to or settle down with.. or have them in their life full time..... but for myself.. I don't want any of the above... what I would like is someone to go for dinner with from time to time.. catch a movie... enjoy a nice stroll in the park.. And of course have crazy monkey sex with.... what I don't want is clingy needy.. have to text you every morning afternoon and evening.. Spend the whole weekend with you including the evenings....((no)).lol.. But I find most women want.. Someone full time.. sure some of them say I want what you want.. I say okay but I warn you do not fall in love with me..no! no!... they say no problem..lol.. but sure enough a month later they start demanding to spend more time together... thay even try to clear out a drawer in the dresser drawer just for me...awww..  ... which I have to then say.. but but baby.. I thought we are just going to keep things casual..?. And they say yes but I just want more of you full time... so I'm just wondering... why is it so hard to keep things casual. .. for any length of time.. longer than let's say!! two weeks..lol.. ...  Try dating women out of your league, maybe a few notches higher then I guarantee this won't happen.  Oh and Jennifer if you're reading this love you in a casual way of course.. 
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Ok.. I tried the slowing it down thing.. I'm usually not the one speeding things up ... I even say to them okay I understand you may want more full time.. so perhaps that's what you should be looking for.wink wink... Because I can't really do that! but I like what we have going on right now.. it's comfortable casual and nice... To which they usually say..ohh.. yes baby it is nice don't get me wrong I really enjoy everything we have going on..it's just that I really like you... and I would like us to start looking towards the future...... to which I say..but but.... baby I thought we were happy living in the moment.. I thought you liked the way things were.. you know I'm really busy and I give you as much time as I can possibly give you... and you know I care deeply for you.... its just I don't want to fold my life into someone elses right now ... . Now usually after this^^ happens..lol. It doesn't take long for things to start to fall apart... and for the life of me I can't figure out why..lmao.. just so hard to keep casual casual  . And with a well-timed slap on my behind .. I can do a giddy up to.... Yahoo
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I don't think this philosophy is uncommon especially towards middle age and if you have already been married and are now divorced many of us know friends or family that ran right out and jumped into another relationship only to end up divorced again so this idea of being in a relationship that does not involve walking down the aisle has some appeal to it I do agree with this 100% when my divorce is final I will never get married again. I would still need to know though that it is about more then just sex and an occasional text only when he was in the mood wouldn't work for me. Everyone is different though .. again just saying if it was with me
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I don't think this philosophy is uncommon especially towards middle age and if you have already been married and are now divorced many of us know friends or family that ran right out and jumped into another relationship only to end up divorced again so this idea of being in a relationship that does not involve walking down the aisle has some appeal to it I do agree with this 100% when my divorce is final I will never get married again. I would still need to know though that it is about more then just sex and an occasional text only when he was in the mood wouldn't work for me. Everyone is different though .. again just saying if it was with me  Pretty sure of yourself there no1 Maybe you should try dating someone a couple hours away. Meet her half way on occasion. Hard to be clingy when they are nowhere around. Oh and in between you can always impress her with sexchat 
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This has turned into be quite the interesting topic..
... dating isn't always as straightforward as one might think..... lord knows.. when I first entered the dating world.. after my long term relationship ended.. I thought purely of my own selfish needs.... I thought this will be awesome.. go out on lots of dates have a lot of fun.. nothing too serious or heavy.... what I did not factor into all of this.. is the emotional side of dating... the feelings that you yourself or the person you are casually dating may develop for each other..... for some reason when I started dating I did not even think of that aspect... But I soon realized emotional feeling the need to fall in love.. the need to really matter to someone.. on a day to day basis... to know that there is a happily ever after again... is very very important to a lot of people... to feel constantly connected to someone on some level.... you are for them they are for you..... yes casual is good but keeping it casual means keeping your emotions in check.. and being honest and open and realistic with each other.. .. and don't forget always giving each other mind-blowing monkey sex...
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I don't think this philosophy is uncommon especially towards middle age and if you have already been married and are now divorced many of us know friends or family that ran right out and jumped into another relationship only to end up divorced again so this idea of being in a relationship that does not involve walking down the aisle has some appeal to it I do agree with this 100% when my divorce is final I will never get married again. I would still need to know though that it is about more then just sex and an occasional text only when he was in the mood wouldn't work for me. Everyone is different though .. again just saying if it was with me Pretty sure of yourself there no1 Maybe you should try dating someone a couple hours away. Meet her half way on occasion. Hard to be clingy when they are nowhere around. Oh and in between you can always impress her with sexchat
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For Me I actually enjoyed the taking our time and enjoying the moments as they come and I actually enjoyed the freedom of not being strangled by a relationship that had to be everyday til Pancho came around.
I think you just need to be upfront and honest look I am not into the heavy relationship of keeping track of each other daily. I also have a friend that had an awesome FWB relationship, they were friends that hung around with each other and had sex when the mood hit them they carried on this relationship for about 5 years, til she met someone that she really connected with. That is when it got interesting, he got all upset and angry thinking there was an "exclusive relationship " instead of the Friends with Benefit that is actually was. He made life a bit difficult for her when she moved on. So as I said be upfront and honest with yourself and them, sooner or later you will find the right one. |
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I know what I'm about to lay down here may seem weird..lol.. Especially when most people are trying to find someone.. either to get remarried to or settle down with.. or have them in their life full time..... but for myself.. I don't want any of the above... what I would like is someone to go for dinner with from time to time.. catch a movie... enjoy a nice stroll in the park.. And of course have crazy monkey sex with.... what I don't want is clingy needy.. have to text you every morning afternoon and evening.. Spend the whole weekend with you including the evenings....((no)).lol.. But I find most women want.. Someone full time.. sure some of them say I want what you want.. I say okay but I warn you do not fall in love with me..no! no!... they say no problem..lol.. but sure enough a month later they start demanding to spend more time together... thay even try to clear out a drawer in the dresser drawer just for me...awww.. ... which I have to then say.. but but baby.. I thought we are just going to keep things casual..?. And they say yes but I just want more of you full time... so I'm just wondering... why is it so hard to keep things casual. .. for any length of time.. longer than let's say!! two weeks..lol.. ... First thing to say here is that you start of by listing what you want. That's it, is it? That's the deal? You've not left any room there for other things that she might like to do. Why don't you just hire an escort girl, you cheap bastard? How's this deal with them not being clingy going to work? Don't call me; I'll call you? Treating her like a call girl again. Who pays for dinner and all the rest of it John? Now switch it and let's say that I'm on a date with a woman that says that she just wants a friend with benefits. Well hey, it would be absolutely super if they just like to do the same sorts of things that you do when you're entertaining a lady but wait a minute mister. This isn't the little lady or GF that's there to laugh at your lame jokes and go to your favorite restaurant with once a month. As a matter of fact, she doesn't want to marry a man like you and you're just deluded if you think that you're going to find a woman that's going to find your terms satisfactory and not start to get pissed off with you acting like you're Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate. |
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