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Topic: What's important in a relationship?
SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 04/08/16 10:08 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Fri 04/08/16 10:12 AM

What is important in a relationship?
1. Love
2. Trust & respect
3. Loyalty
4. Honesty and openness
5. Communication (talk not fight) :smile:
6. Understanding
7. Recognition & acceptance of mistakes
8. Apologizing
9. Willingness to Compromise
10.Constant reassurance of love for each other

If you got 1 through 6, there's no need for 10 ...
Someone who needs constant reassurance I still love him, is just incredibly tiring. It is needy, clingy and a sign of dependency. Not what I want in my life at all!

10 should be: always remember it's not the other's job in life to make you happy. That's your own job.

8 don't really agree with that either, I'd rephrase it: take responsibility for your own behaviour, which includes mistakes.

Oh, and sex isn't in there ... no healthy relationship with some good ole sparks of passion flying regularly!
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 04/08/16 10:11 AM

1. Pre-nup.
2. Separate bank accounts.
3. His and her own bathrooms.
4. She needs a big azz walk in closet.
5. Man cave.
6. For her, a monthly mani/pedi at the spa.
7. And this is most important......act like kids from time to time so you don't one day wake up wanting to kill one another.

Sounds like you don't want a partner but more a fun FWB
The only thing I'd want from that list is 7. My 1 - 6 would be different. Although the walk-in closet is danged enticing!

NOBootyHunter's photo
Fri 04/08/16 12:05 PM


Honesty, communication and a chemical compound called "SPANISH FLY"

You ever tried Spanish Fly? If you wanna be sure there's no sex, you gotta take that. laugh


No, but back a few years it was all the rave...laugh :tongue:

samjk's photo
Fri 04/08/16 01:13 PM
trust is play very important role in relationships

no photo
Fri 04/08/16 01:28 PM
Action louder

no1phD's photo
Fri 04/08/16 01:43 PM
What's important in a relationship.?
Knowing exactly where each other's sweet spot is.... for on those days when time is at a premium...yup.... being able to give to your partner without expecting something in return ..wink wink....:tongue: shocked


no1phD's photo
Fri 04/08/16 01:49 PM


A gag reflex?
oh dear .. perhaps I need to pull up my gag reflex thread .. Lmao :-)
..ummm.. pretty sure you had your gag reflex surgically removed..lol..jk....:angel:

peggy122's photo
Fri 04/08/16 02:11 PM
I think the starting point is compatability of life goals, fundamental values and lifestyles.

Unless a couple has that, commonality of direction, its almost like 2 people trying to drive one car on 2 separate roads simultaneously. It s combative and counter productive. .

After that , ofcourse there are the other relationship pillars that are mentioned here ...

1. Open and honest communication
2. Respect for each other's differences
3. Mutual tolerance or patience for each other"s flaws
4. A mutual commitment to fight for the relationship when life and the relationship get tough
5. Passionate sex if it is important to both parties
6. Doing something fun together at least monthly apart from sex. At the very least , they should enjoy talking to each other daily.
7. I think separate individual interests and projects that stimulate the body and soul
8..mutual understanding and appreciation of each other"s love language
9 a mutual realistic expectation of the relationship and each other


Goofball73's photo
Fri 04/08/16 06:26 PM


1. Pre-nup.
2. Separate bank accounts.
3. His and her own bathrooms.
4. She needs a big azz walk in closet.
5. Man cave.
6. For her, a monthly mani/pedi at the spa.
7. And this is most important......act like kids from time to time so you don't one day wake up wanting to kill one another.

Sounds like you don't want a partner but more a fun FWB
The only thing I'd want from that list is 7. My 1 - 6 would be different. Although the walk-in closet is danged enticing!


Actually I want a fun loving partner.....sex included. :tongue: laugh

peggy122's photo
Sat 04/09/16 01:43 PM

I think the starting point is compatability of life goals, fundamental values and lifestyles.

Unless a couple has that, commonality of direction, its almost like 2 people trying to drive one car on 2 separate roads simultaneously. It s combative and counter productive. .

After that , ofcourse there are the other relationship pillars that are mentioned here ...

1. Open and honest communication
2. Respect for each other's differences
3. Mutual tolerance or patience for each other"s flaws
4. A mutual commitment to fight for the relationship when life and the relationship get tough
5. Passionate sex if it is important to both parties
6. Doing something fun together at least monthly apart from sex. At the very least , they should enjoy talking to each other daily.
7. Separate individual interests/ projects and passions
8..mutual understanding and appreciation of each other"s love language
9 a mutual realistic expectation of the relationship and each other
10. trust



Ooops!

And oh yeah..

An efficient financial system...

Nothing kills passion and peace in a relationship like financial stress sad2

no photo
Mon 04/11/16 12:03 PM

What is important in a relationship?
1. Love
2. Trust & respect
3. Loyalty
4. Honesty and openness
5. Communication (talk not fight) :smile:
6. Understanding
7. Recognition & acceptance of mistakes
8. Apologizing
9. Willingness to Compromise
10.Constant reassurance of love for each other



Agree!!:blush:

tusharb's photo
Tue 04/12/16 03:00 AM
trust..loyal understanding

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