Some people didn't change some people didn't accept the mistake and some people didn't give a chance a person willing to change

It depends. On the precise mistake, and on your own sensibilities.

I second what Igor says

people make mistakes, and we are to forgive as we would wish to be forgiven

however, forgiveness, doesn't mean forgetfulness or unreasonableness


for instance, if I know someone stole 20 out of my purse once and took jewelry another time,, I can forgive them right away,, but that doesn't mean I should leave valuables about when they are around,,lol


similarly, I have forgiven infidelity, but that didn't mean I was going to stick around risking something may be brought home to me or some child would show up on our doorstep,,,


I think people put too many expectations on forgiveness...at least for me, it means that I harbor no ill will toward you,, but I don't invite it toward myself either,,,

I am really stunned how ridiculous question is this - Forgive him and give a chance" whatever just ask yourself is this the question you will get a suitable answer for you. People will only answer you based on their outlooks ..derived generalisations...experience and so on. I don't think even a single one of them knows what happened to you or what happened and what's best for you. Be rational and decide on your own. Pen down your feelings on some paper and then again think what you should do and believe me that's the most appropriate and rational decision you can make for most of us create our own realities based upon our experiences and that affect our decisions. Believe in yourself and go ahead .

No one deserves a second chance because if you stop letting these abusive people think that it's okay maybe you could find someone worth keeping.

Is good to forgive, whether you going to give a second chance or not.

Recognise that mistake, forgive that mistake, allow them to change without risking yourself. Don't hold tightly to expectation they will change

Recognise they have no incentive to change until they recognise their mistake.

Its an individual assessment as to the likelihood of change
Its an individual assessment as to how much one is willing to risk the consequence of giving another chance

If you are asked to give a second chance it is up to you to assess
If your asking for a second chance its up to you to be trust worthy, but recognise the choice to grant it is not yours

You are correct some ppl don't change they see no reason to, and they may not see their actions as a mistake.
Sometimes the "mistake" is such that even if forgiven still doesn't mean ppl want to be around them.

I personally will always forgive not for them, I do it for me and only me.
Even when I forgive doesn't mean I forget or put myself back in a toxic situation.

"Mistakes" and forgiveness are often more complicated than the words and their basic meanings allow for. ESPECIALLY in the realms of human romantic relationships.

The "mistake" can be an actual misunderstanding, or a true "stumble," but it is most often debated and discussed when it was a purposeful act, that had consequences that the person making the "mistake" later regrets.

I've seen many situations where it was really difficult to be sure what the "mistake" actually was. Often, there is a sort of "trigger" event, such as being caught pursuing someone outside the official relationship in an unacceptable way, but the actual MISTAKE, was that the person who was cheating (or almost cheating) didn't realize that it was wrong. If all that is addressed is the "trigger event," then the actual core mistake, will result in repeat events.

Forgiving is complex too. I always WANT to forgive, as Rains says, for my own sake, as well as for the general sake of making the world a happier place.

But there are times when it is not possible for me to forgive. As in, that the person did something that was so pervasively destructive of me, that I can't even think of them without pain, and can't even conceive of a world where what they did could be acceptable.

In short, forgiveness of truly important transgressions, is an organic thing, and not an intellectual choice.