Love

Well I didn't really understand the logic behind that statement but to put it in a much simpler manner what you mean to say is to quantise the emotion "love" or something like that. No its not about love more or less because if you think of an ideal couple which are emotionally connected between them there is no such love quantisation stuff I.e. who loves more or less . They simply believe and trust and stand by each other's side and so love is balanced and perfect .

uh ................no

In my best Percy Sledge voice

'When a ma-a-n loves a wom-a-a-n.

Only when the "Hitachi" breaks.

Only if one can quantify the feeling that comes from a bond shared in common experiences, knowing that each person relates to social bonds differently and being aware that relating and comparing someone's deepest feelings simply amounts to a futile exercise.

"It's better to give than to receive."
" The more you give, the more you receive."

It's like measuring the depths of ones soul. It's impossible. Love is from two people or two halves of one soul come together in life. Each gives and each takes. To love another means to put aside selfishness and put another before you.

Is that what you believe?

Why do you believe that?

Is it because the discrepancy creates an insecurity, which kinda forces the person that feels it more to get enough feedback to know there is love there? Believing that some kind of equivalency means taking it for granted or cancelling out effect?

Or is there a fatalistic underlying belief that it's going to fail, and as long as the woman loves him more then when it ends that makes her the bigger victim, having lost more, possibly validating the belief that women do feel more?

Is there an underlying belief that love bonds inhibit rational or logical necessary action? Like sometimes men have to make decisions that go against the family, e.g. focusing on career and money for security?
Or that men need the emotional support that stems from love more than they need something to love and express it to?

If it's good to love a man more than the man loves you, does that mean it's bad if the man loves you more? Something wrong with the man?
A relationship guaranteed to fail?

If a man loves you more, does that mean there is something wrong with you?

What happens if in the beginning you love a man more than the man loves you, the man learns to love you more because of your love for him, then begins to love you more than him, but you both love each other, what happens after that shift?

How do you measure love being more one way than the other?
Can't it easily be misunderstood communication?
People communicate their love differently, they're more comfortable with different expressions than others.
Can you tell the difference between loving a man more and incompatible communication of love?



"It's good to love a man more than the man love you"
just brings up too many questions...

It's simply downright pretentious and doesn't surprise me the least bit coming from the opposite and opposing gender.

Never measure love , regardless if it's less or more , the important thing is two people in love have a symbiotic relationship where they both give and take, depend on each other and harmoniously work things out together.

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