A times I wonder if this Four Lettered Word as a meaning. Maybe I should Here from people if its Real. For Those with Experiences especially on this World of Romance.

Can it be ever Mutual? or one as to bear with what comes By?

Yes it is real & can hapoen more than once.
And each love is different.

Never.... settle for " what comes by "

You deserve more.. & you know it.

Love changes over time and it is often replaced by caring.

Find and stick with a good provider that's nice to you.

I will agree love does change and deepen to something even better...

Finding someone that is a good provider ?? Why? This is a new age we can support ourselves thank you very much.

Dang sticking with someone because they are a great provider would be so empty and lonely..IMHO

Not everybody CAN support themselves to a comfortable level. Hence, the question from the op. Just look how many people are on minimum wage with several kids.

I don't think we have any control of it either.

True but u Carnt help how u fall in love with LOVE is a very strong thing

Attention:

The OP is a beautiful statuesque woman, in Nairobi.

Will someone, with a job, IQ, personality. & no criminal record .... please, pick her up & marry her?


Sincerely,

SassyEuro2.

You are correct in that.. I guess to me it just seems cold somehow picking someone based on income.

And I guess I "do" remember way way back working 2 jobs raising 4 little ones and getting my degree because I wanted something better in life than min. wage.

So I guess I will always advocate education and bettering oneself. Because what happens if something happens to that great provider?? And he turns out not to have taken care of those pesky details like life insurance investments etc... The person that chose a great provider and did nothing is stuck making their way later in life. To me it would be easier to do it now instead of later.

Absolutely! In every situation a person finds themselves.

Fine! I'll see you all when I get black. I mean back. Damn keyboard!

I have some paperwork for you to fill out.
I will have have my people call your people for a DNA sample & sperm count.

Thank you for your cooperation
& for shopping Mingle2.

Sincerely,

SassyEuro2

I have found that Love is very much like Faith.

With both of these desirous elements of life, the more people try to quantify, calculate, and artificially cultivate them, the less they seem to occur, or even be possible.

They must be intrinsic to a person's most essential being, in order to be real in their lives.

Some are lucky to find real love and some are not. Love can only be mutual when both share the same feelings. Don't just grab every opportunity that comes your way coz not all opportunities are good. You may take your chance with what comes by but be sure to face the reality of it all for not all endings are happy endings. Don't settle for less, we are all entitled to find true happiness. Some people are too fast in grabbing a chance for love and regret when everything fails. What comes by usually goes by , like a ship passing in the night. Patience is a virtue , wait for the right love at the right time.

Many people are living in fantasy land.



If they are waiting for true love they better get prepared to wait forever.

Magic happens with true loves first kiss. Sure.

Rainbows and unicorns run free over the 100% organically grown non-gmo food crops that are plentiful world wide too.

Love has a wide range from a tiny bit to dying for another.

Love has various stages. Many people equate "true love" to the initial romance stage.

When problems occur that magical true love disappears. Nope! It was never there to begin with.

The only way you'll know is when you are in the last stages of life with your true love and the other person will do anything for you at their own peril. Not just because they don't want to be left alone in this world but because they don't want you to suffer at all. The odds of this is happening is very small.

I have been a round many people just before their last stages of life and into their final stages of life, not just family members, and it is amazing how selfish they become.

The first few weeks or months of a relationship have been called the "honeymoon" phase for a good reason. You are smitten with that person and so happy you have found them and you are filled with hormones and endorphin's and convinced that you have never felt this way before...and then you wake up one morning and realize that your partner is not perfect and that they are after all human beings. They make mistakes, say stupid things that can hurt, apologize for the stupid things they say...etc. I guess it just depends on you definition of true love. Maybe true love is simply accepting your partner as the imperfect human being that they are and loving them anyway. JMHO

Rainbows and unicorns

Apparently I am not the only pne who says that

Only jaded people don't believe in the existence of true love....it is definitely not living in fantasy land because I have witnessed the love of my parents. Every relationships have there ups and downs, fights, arguments , all challenges are simply a test of love. True love is a sacrifice not just for your own happiness but for the family that you both have created, you are willing to go through thick and thin to make your family intact and build a HOME not a house but a shelter of love.

Not true. Saying ONLY jaded people don't believe is an easy cop out. I'm not jaded. I'm just a realist basing things on what I've witnessed and experienced. I tend NOT to so easily accept what others have written especially when their intent was to entertain not publish scientific research papers.

People stay together and go through thick and thin for many reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with True Love. It all depends on their motivations. Love may have given birth to a family but sometimes fear in many forms keep families together not True Love.

Maybe our definitions of True Love are different. IMO, You can not base a decision whether a couple is in True Love or not by their actions. You need to be able to understand why they made those actions occur. Intent is extremely important.

True love IMO, is if you are wanting and willing to do anything for another person without regard for ones own selfishness and follow through to the best of your abilities to make it happen almost all of the time.

Sorry, I didn't mean to offend you in anyway when I said JADED. I was making a general statement not particularly directed at you. There are people who have lost their belief in true love because of their past experiences or observations with their surroundings. I believe you are a realist and I am too based on my experience and what I've witnessed. I agree people have different motivations or intentions in life and for SOME PEOPLE love is their motivation. What keeps people together is love, their willingness to sacrifice their own happiness. For the act of true love is sacrifice and being unselfish , giving up oneself for the good of all. I agree we may have different understanding of what true love is..... but I must say you nailed it on your last statement and I totally agree......"True love IMO, is if you are wanting and willing to do anything for another person without regard for ones own selfishness and follow through to the best of your abilities to make it happen almost all of the time." And this can happen to some people who are fortunate enough to find true love.