srsly its my friends problem that she keeps nagging me about.. shes so hopeless to get rid of that ***** out of thier life... i just told her to dump her boyfriend if he doesnt do anything about that his ex obviously flirting him..... she just cried in front of me... that really makes my head aches more than usual..

You should help fix her up with a decent guy.

Throw rocks at him til he goes away.

SMART!!!

Depends on if have kids together or not with the ex. I am friends with my ex's wife. Maybe she should make an effort. If no kids well that's his fault he hasn't cut her out of his life. Sounds to me like there is more to it than you are letting on.

That's not really the question, is it?

I mean

The question seems to be "how to deal with your friend who's boyfriend is having problems with her boyfriend?"

And that's pretty easy.

What exactly does your friend want?

Does she just want you to listen to her problem? Listen to her cry? Validate her drama, pat her back, and say "there there, it's okay, everything will be all right. You're good enough, smart enough, and doggone it people like you?"

Is she asking you for advice?
Is she asking you to do something for her?
If she's asking you for advice or help, then what exactly is the problem?
Is it just the ex that keeps flirting with him when she's not around?
When she is around?
The ex flirting with him and he flirts back?
What are the other insecurities in the relationship?
And a million other questions.
IOW what is the whole story and everything that is actually going on?


Not to mention

that implies she consistently makes your head ache (causes pain to you, causes problems), and this makes it ache worse.
...Why would you continue being friends with someone who just gives you headaches?

Uuugghhh.... been there.

Women, NEVER want to be told the TRUTH about a guy that they THINK is their's.

1- They refuse to believe it.
2- Think you want him.
3- Or they want to shoot the messenger, because they feel stupid.

So, you can't tell her the truth, which is,
..  She is the next ex, & will be following him around.

(Look who she is blaming... the ex... NOT him..., in her mind, the 'other woman', is the problem... not him.)

All you can do, is tell her, to "make a decision about this guy soon, because you are tired of hearing it". Or say nothing and be there for her when she really has something to cry about.

Good luck

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WANT'' SET LIMITS AND STICK TO IT, AND CONSEQUENCES IF YOU DO NOT GET WHAT

WANT...WOMEN I HAVE FOUND ARE NOT REALLY GOOD AT DOING THIS... ''WE TEACH PEOPLE

HOW TO TREAT US'' AND ITS BASED ON OUR BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES AND

OTHERS....EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS ABOUT OUR OWN BELIEF SYSTEM....''SO IT STARTS

AND ENDS WITH US''......

Nice!!

After much thought I have decided to admit I was wrong before.

This is actually how you should deal with your BFs Ex

I didn't have any problem at all with my boyfriend's ex, in fact we are friends.

Why make her life miserable, life would be simpler if she just talk to her boyfriend and ask him if he really loves her. If there's a will , there's a way. A man could avoid her ex who's flirting with him, but if he still entertains her ex or making an excuse for his actions, well I must say there's an underlying reason to it. If that man truly loves your friend, he will choose her and stay with her and not give her reasons to doubt his love......if not, then it's good riddance bye-bye love. Accept reality, if he doesn't love you anymore let go, don't force yourself on him.

hope i have one..