Can you always determine a possible mate, with just a quick meet and greet?

I can recall a few relationships with coworkers that I was not initially attracted to, but after repeated contact over weeks and months, they became desirable...sometimes intensely.

I would say no. You can learn weather or not you get along with that person or have anything in common with them but I think it takes much more time to determine weather or not that person would be a suitable mate. I have had a few very good relationships with men where we got to know each other as friends first and it became something more as we spent more time together.

Years ago, I have seen a few people meet, get married the next day, and be faithful through a war, come back, and live out the rest of their lives with great communication, intense love, and integrity. This happened, because THEY WANTED IT TO, more than anything. It's very very rare, but it happens... and I wouldn't rely on it by any means. Times certainly were different then... It could be done today, but far more unlikely.

Yes. A "possible mate" leaves the door wide open. That's why people partake in speed dates. Basically, you are just eliminating the "hell to the no" ones.

No. Especially since you typed "always."

But you can determine if you want to spend more time with someone pretty quickly.


There are other things at work with that.

When you know you have to be with someone (your boss/work situation says so), you compromise, even though you may not realize what you're doing.

Not to mention, your employer is paying you to get along.
If you ultimately don't get along you threaten loss of income.

If you are an older child then chances are when your mom got pregnant with another kid you really didn't want that kid around, especially as it got all the attention.

But they're not going anywhere.

You were forced to develop a relationship.
Mom made you, life made you. You may have turned to owning that kid and taking care of it, and love your sibling.

But if some random stranger walked up to you on the street today and said "Hi! You are now my big brother/sister!" I doubt you'd stick around very long. And if they showed up to your house, or work, or followed you around and tried to force you to be their big brother, acting like a stereotypical little sibling, you'd probably get a restraining order since mom/daddy/boss wasn't there to tell you to expect different behavior.

New group forming is very different than established group norming or renorming.

I cannot imagine this.
It would make it all superficial.

On the other hand, we meet and greet people every day
and make those determinations based on less.

... well apparently all the women I have went to meet and greet..
Have..lol

You need to spend more time with them to get to know them before you decide.

Not usually; you need to know what you're going to like or even hate about that person before determining whether you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person or not.

Well possible mate for the night yes..but for life it depends. If you got connected in the first meet then people normally work on to build a relationship else bye bye

Same here.
Just payed up front, and boom.

That would be interesting....like Speed Dating..... except, you get 60 seconds to make someone hate you....Speed Hating, coming to a VH1 time slot soon

How hateful

That's easy.
I can have someone wanting to shoot me in under 20.

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True nuff

True Panch, I've seen your work

Maybe not always, but I think it can be a real time saver in finding great dates and a possible mate. The thing is though that you do have to ask the right questions. Questions that give you a lot of info on that person. And not just questions, but also stuff to 'test' their sense of humour.

It's like asking this question can give you a lot of info "If we could go on holiday for 3 days, all expenses paid for, where would we go and what would we do?"
Someone with a brain would immediately work out that in 3 days you cannot travel very far, so he wouldn't say he'd take you to the other side of the world. That's why you stick to 3 days to see if they work that out or not.
A real knucklehead would say "A sex hotel", a boring fart would take you to a museum for 3 days, a player might take you to pubs and discos for sex drugs and rock and roll and so on.

With the right questions you can come a long way with speed dating, I've considered it and would've done it if it wasn't for the fact that they don't usually have groups for 45+

Why Yes... Yes... you can...



Actually No.. Meet and greets to me are nothing more than to see if the Who I have been chatting with is the same in person.

Now after a few dates or time spent together Maybe

For myself no.

man I would be soooooo good at that