Topic: chemistry and attraction
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Mon 09/19/16 07:26 PM
Do you honestly believe you can tell this with nothing but a picture and a few words in a profile? And maybe some messages between you?

BreakingGood's photo
Mon 09/19/16 08:11 PM

Do you honestly believe you can tell this with nothing but a picture and a few words in a profile?

No.


And maybe some messages between you?

Yes. Depending on your definition of some. You can get a good idea of someone's thought process by asking non-typical questions. A few people can fool you but normally you can get a good idea.

SitkaRains's photo
Mon 09/19/16 08:22 PM

Do you honestly believe you can tell this with nothing but a picture and a few words in a profile?


Absolutely Not!!!


And maybe some messages between you?

How many messages what type of messages?

I think you can get a fee for someone yes through email exchange...
Depends on the emails etc..

Better to meet sooner than later though at least do video


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Mon 09/19/16 08:46 PM
I've been wondering about this. I can't. I have to meet that person first. It amazes me how many people seem to think they know someone on these dating sites. Just by what they say in their profile, picture and in their messages. Anybody can say anything at any time. And make you believe it's true.

Last week and the week before, a man and a woman, different weeks, came close to losing their lives and a lot of money simply because they believed what they were being told in the other person's profile. And the messages that were being passed back and forth between each couple.

That's really all I know at the moment. But me personally, I take words in profiles and pictures in profiles with a grain of salt. Even in the messages back and forth between us. Because anyone can say or be whatever they want on the Internet. And some are very good at making their mark believe what they say. Right up to the point your either dead or your money is gone. Or worse, Both.

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Mon 09/19/16 09:03 PM
Depends on the pictures and the words....wink.wink...lol

sparkyae5's photo
Wed 09/21/16 07:05 AM

CHEMISTRY IS NOTHING MORE THAN EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION.....LOT OF DREAMERS OUT

THERE...

Wendermilliken's photo
Wed 09/21/16 07:32 AM

Depends on the pictures and the words....wink.wink...lol


I agree with you... not everyone can be a scammer! The world will be lost when nobody trusts anybody anymore!

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Wed 09/21/16 02:01 PM


Depends on the pictures and the words....wink.wink...lol


I agree with you... not everyone can be a scammer! The world will be lost when nobody trusts anybody anymore!


I don't think this has anything to do with trust more about attraction...



SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/21/16 02:11 PM
Not real attraction and chemistry. Not with just a few messages.
Best is to at least get on the phone, so you hear each other's voice. That can tell a lot.
Plus, then you also find out if you can keep a convo going together when you're talking to one another.
Very important step! I forgot about it once, and boy, did I come to regret it!

But if you want to know for sure if there's something there, you really have to meet in the flesh.

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Wed 09/21/16 02:24 PM
Humm a picture can catch my Attention as well as what they write..

But the chemistry for me I have no clue till I meet them face to face.. some have gotten my Attention and when I met them the Chemistry was not there....

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Wed 09/21/16 02:43 PM

Do you honestly believe you can tell this with nothing but a picture and a few words in a profile? And maybe some messages between you?


What people call "chemistry" isn't a single thing, and in particular, it doesn't come to us in a single set quantity.

Look. No one, even the silliest amongst us, who talk about looking for chemistry, are nearly as simplistic and decisive about it as the opening question presumes. Even the most boastful of us who claim to know at a glance, that things will or wont work with someone, don't really deal with people in our lives that way.

But down to the details of JUST the profiles, and JUST a short conversation: it's a STAGE. We develop all relationships in stages, or by degrees. Only the nuttiest or least self-observant people, think they really "fall in love at first sight."

What people actually do is, they build up a set of expectations and associations. People who think they fall in love at first sight, for example, are actually falling in love with a construct of the perfect mate, that they have (often unconsciously) assembled over time. NOT with the actual person.

And when someone REJECTS someone early on, or just by looking at the profile and having short conversations, they are ALSO doing so by comparing what they experience of the other person, with the collective assemblage of data they have built up by that time, only this time, they find what many call "red flags."

So maybe they say "chemistry is wrong or absent," as a way to decline further involvement.

And it is completely legitimate, because the "chemistry" data they have, really ISN'T just based on the short online conversation and the profile, it's based on the person's entire life experiences and personal desires.

So.

The short and simple way of saying ALL that, in answering the opening question, is:

yes, absolutely, I not only believe, but I have actually directly experienced myself, being able to derive enough from a short conversation and a profile and a picture, whether or not it is worth risking both peoples' time, to see whether or not ANOTHER stage might be possible with this person.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 09/21/16 03:13 PM

Humm a picture can catch my Attention as well as what they write..

But the chemistry for me I have no clue till I meet them face to face.. some have gotten my Attention and when I met them the Chemistry was not there....

Exactly!

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Wed 09/21/16 03:18 PM
Of course
just add eye of newt if chemistry isn't quiet right

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Wed 09/21/16 03:55 PM



Depends on the pictures and the words....wink.wink...lol


I agree with you... not everyone can be a scammer! The world will be lost when nobody trusts anybody anymore!


I don't think this has anything to do with trust more about attraction...



ohh.well. trust me then !.the right picture with the right words..
Mmmmm... can get you a lot of trust..lol

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Mon 11/07/16 11:06 PM
chemistry was not my fave subject in highschooltears

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Mon 11/07/16 11:53 PM
hi

ddydyfydh's photo
Mon 11/07/16 11:53 PM
hello

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Tue 11/08/16 01:00 AM


Do you honestly believe you can tell this with nothing but a picture and a few words in a profile? And maybe some messages between you?


What people call "chemistry" isn't a single thing, and in particular, it doesn't come to us in a single set quantity.

Look. No one, even the silliest amongst us, who talk about looking for chemistry, are nearly as simplistic and decisive about it as the opening question presumes. Even the most boastful of us who claim to know at a glance, that things will or wont work with someone, don't really deal with people in our lives that way.

But down to the details of JUST the profiles, and JUST a short conversation: it's a STAGE. We develop all relationships in stages, or by degrees. Only the nuttiest or least self-observant people, think they really "fall in love at first sight."

What people actually do is, they build up a set of expectations and associations. People who think they fall in love at first sight, for example, are actually falling in love with a construct of the perfect mate, that they have (often unconsciously) assembled over time. NOT with the actual person.

And when someone REJECTS someone early on, or just by looking at the profile and having short conversations, they are ALSO doing so by comparing what they experience of the other person, with the collective assemblage of data they have built up by that time, only this time, they find what many call "red flags."

So maybe they say "chemistry is wrong or absent," as a way to decline further involvement.

And it is completely legitimate, because the "chemistry" data they have, really ISN'T just based on the short online conversation and the profile, it's based on the person's entire life experiences and personal desires.

So.

The short and simple way of saying ALL that, in answering the opening question, is:

yes, absolutely, I not only believe, but I have actually directly experienced myself, being able to derive enough from a short conversation and a profile and a picture, whether or not it is worth risking both peoples' time, to see whether or not ANOTHER stage might be possible with this person.


Our past experiences shape our future decisions? That makes sense.
However, Murphy's Law says:" A failure will not appear until the unit has passed final inspection."

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Tue 11/08/16 01:32 AM
the branch of science concerned with the substances of which matter is composed, the investigation of their properties and reactions, and the use of such reactions to form new substances.
the complex emotional or psychological interaction between people.
as everybody knows chemistry is most difficult subject of science , needs more dedication for this subject
like that bonding of a couple needs more dedication for each others