I'm curious how many will be open and honest about this relationship building subject?

This thread is going to need popcorn.

umm lol why

How would you be able to tell?

I mean if some people have never watched porn with their s/o then they may not respond, or not really answer about themselves, or say they've never really done it.
Are you going to assume they are lying?

And someone may share a story about their experience that is complete BS, pulled out of thin air.

How can you tell if someone is actually being open and honest?

If you can't really tell, then how does that actually sate your curiosity?


It seems that would depend on the perspective of the people.
I mean some relationships may be fizzing out and dying and people don't really want to try all that hard to do something like communicate so they focus on trying to improve their sex life.

Or maybe watch porn together so they don't have to talk to each other.

Or maybe try to force the other person to watch it as a means to try and change them or sabotage the relationship.

Watching porn together isn't an automatic "relationship building" exercise.

Dude.
Most would not see the point of it
if they flourish..once together.

Alone, sure, your business.
Joint venture?
Not feeling it.

It doesn't work...
They tend to blather throughout the entire flick, when mouths should be busy on other things.

I never tried this "relationship building exercise." Never had it recommended by the couples therapist we went to towards the end of the marriage, either. But I can see potential for it, depending.

As a stimulant for a sex life that's gone tepid, I think it would be a complete disaster. Next closest thing to having another person stop by and have sex with your partner to show them how it's done. But as a way to explore possibilities, or to learn more about each others sensibilities, it could work, just as watching non-porn films together can. But I think it would take especially open and self-knowledgeable people to do that with porn.

Is that a subtle ad for a porn CD?

Most of the women that I have come across over the years won't do this with their husbands or boyfriends. They feel it's a form of cheating. A lot of women feel this way. And rightly so. They don't want there man lusting after some slut in a movie. Disrespecting them to their face.

I watch lesbian porn with the hand sisters all the time.

they gotta understand each other more and it's not something bad.

While both would have to into it and it can be a learning tool to vary intimate situations. Most women would say no. Men would say oh yea.

But if she's into scyfi then y'all can watch trueblood together. It's all most like soft core born. Lol.

what if she's into the home shopping channel or the food channel or Little House on the Prarie re-runs?



watch it or don't
up to you
but don't try handing the new girl that line of BS that it will strengthen
your relationship
show me the studies done on it
cause I have read more than one
on the ill effects it has on a relationship
if one is 'hooked' on it


and as far as intimacy issues? a sex therapist can explain different techniques if a couple is having trouble

Relationship building? According to who?

I don't know anyone who has ever been married who would call such a thing "relationship building".

Well OP has a point have to admit .. a good movie might work as well ..

Exactly what I was thinking...

Yeah, it is a problem... men and women have a totally different perception of porn. Even if both were up for it, I think the biggest problem with your average porn movie is that it's catering for men. Women need stories, a buildup, so context is important. Men need pictures, the visual stuff.

I doubt there is a solution to this 'problem'. Men always have and always will want to watch porn, some more than others. Women have different needs.
If porn was made according to what aroused women, men would be bored out of their minds.
The way it is now is that we have to put up with it, whether we like it or not.

Then you end up with the guy saying "Then why don't you just see it the way I do."
Really? How can I change the way I get triggered sexually and become masculine that way? I don't even want to become masculine that way, and doubt a man would want that to happen.
I cannot change the way my hormones and body function!
Left me thinking "If it's so easy, then why don't YOU change when it comes to porn? Would sort it just the same."

Mutual understanding and respect is important in this sense, and that goes out the window as soon as one feels threatened in their safety & sense of security.

Still, I don't like it. But -at least trying to- understand that it works different for a man than it does for me as a woman does help. A bit. But I still don't like it. LOL.

What I hate in particular about it, is that it's as always woman who has to put up with chit and has to try and understand that it works different for a man, is no threat to their relationship or her.
What's missing -and angers me- is there's rarely the same input in this matter from men.
If they'd understand how it feels to a woman and made an effort to reassure her etc., things could be very different.
Now it's all one-sided. Woman must put up with it or man strays. Great. WHere's the togetherness in this issue, I wonder?

Dang, I'm PO now

I'll just say, chances are...those couples that do watch it together...are probably having sex at least.