This is a topic that I think needs to be covered! As we get older some will in my opinion, lose their natural beauty to vanity. I am not so shallow to say I would never care for a person with grey hair. Actually truth be honest, I like grey hair and to me its a symbol of maturity over time like a badge to be worn. I actually posted three pictures on my profile of women(models) with grey hair just to say for me anyway, "its okay to be grey." It's not a fetish its a statement. And honestly also to me hair dye smells, and the ton of perfume to cover it over.

These are simply a personal preference and are best served being respected rather than being criticized as opinions vary.....

Why models? Why not post an ordinary woman with grey hair? It's okay to be grey, but you should put on tons of make-up and look like a beauty queen?

Hmmm, well like sybar said, it's a personal preference. And while I respect your right to your own preference, I disagree with you!

Just because someone has grey hair, it does not mean they have maturity. Your equating it to being like a badge to be worn. Badges are earned through actions and honorable performance, not due to the color of our hair, eyes, etc. What about those who never grey? Does that mean that they never reach maturity?

And as far as hair coloring goes, I have never had a man tell me my hair smells funny, quite the opposite actually.

I for one would not want someone admiring me or thinking highly of me because I have grey hair. I actually do have grey hair, but I color it. Not because I'm ashamed of it, or because I think it makes me look old. I do it because it's my choice to and I like having brown hair.

But this is just my opinion, you have a right to your own.

Good luck in your search.

When I read the title of this topic, I thought it was about ...

How does that go with cats?

Well Motown, if you cat has grey hair, I guess he's/she's earned the right to sit on the chair or her/his choice! And give him/her a nice juicy fish too

Now I'm in the mood for a silver cougar..

I chose models off of Printerest cause they are public pictures, If I used just anyones photo I would have to use a release statement. As far as hair odors with hair dye, I have a picky nose I guess or that it was done at a beauty shop with hot curlers styling or something and it almost took my breath away but that was only on a couple of women that I could smell it and the only experiences I have had with hair coloring. I have a sister that went through chemo she lost it all and it came back Grey and I thought it was stunning. And I felt why color it when it has a natual beauty and of course if you want to color it that is fine for you, but some women panic when the see that first grey hair and they think they need to have it colored because they feel it is unattractive, my point is in saying this is it looks great to me.

I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the nose..for me anyway lol

Okay, well I see there's a little more depth to you reasoning and comment concerning a woman's appearance. However, it might be in your best interest to steer away from physical attributes of a woman and focus on the values and topics of interest to you, especially on this site. The women here are far from shallow and your original post here could come across as condescending, insulting, and shallow in itself, imo. For me personally, and I believe for a lot of women, it's a total turn off.

As far as some women panicking and coloring their hair because they feel unattractive, I agree that some do, but a lot don't.

The media often portrays a double standard when it comes to appearances and aging, men look distinguished, women need to make themselves look better. It's a bunch of crap in my opinion.

Have you considered asking to have your profile rated in the "Rate My Profile" Forum? I think you may find most women and some of the men too will suggest to you, as mzrosie did, that you get rid of the pictures of those models. And it's a good way to see what the women here are looking for and could help you be more successful in your search.

Good luck to you!

Personal Preferences is EXACTLY what its all about, people.

Choosing the one you want to be with is your choice.

Personally I like a woman that has natural hair color, doesn't use hair spray and doesn't wear a lot of make up constantly (A lil eye shadow from time to time). The woman for me will wear dresses that are comfortable for her but also wear jeans or shorts. She wears flip flops when she is at the beach or pool but normally wears comfortable shoes.
She can get dressed to the nines and have a natural but distinguished look for formal social engagements but dresses comfortably at all other times.
She will have a bit of flab in her mid-section, a bum that shows her age and her chest will sag a bit. While perky and full is nice to see, I live in reality.
She will fart, blow her nose and her poop will stink. Sometimes she will drool when she sleeps. She might snort when she laughs, honk when she blows her nose or cough on the back of her hand or arm.
Her eyes will be talking eyes and she will listen and respond to me.
She will get angry but not stay mad all the time. She will cry when she sees injustice or pain in others and she will get sick from time to time and need to be alone or held.
She will let me know what she needs from me and provide what I need from her. She will never feel that she is unworthy or better than she is and will value my interest in her.

Oh yea, she will have grey hair.

ya f*k dat sheeet
I ain't growing old gracefully
plan on fighting it tooth and nail all the way


that means ya know deoderant
hair dye, perfume, lip gloss, make up
clothes I want to wear
sorry do not need your approval nor do I ask for it

Good for you!

We should all try to be like this.
Always be who you want to be, after-all, its YOUR life.

Hummm first of all I'm one that will dye her hair till the day I no longer can do it.....And well perfume is something I wear every day no matter where I'm going...

Started getting gray at the ripe age of 16 ~~~should have invested in Hair Dye products...

But honestly I would never date anyone that tells me how to dress or how much makeup perfume ect.. They either take me as I'm or hit the door...

The way I see if if they are not what you want from the beginning then walk away and find someone with all the qualities one desires...

I'm with TMommy on this one I don't need someone to dress me learned that many years ago and it ain't changing now...

Some women, I will admit may look good with gray hair but in reality it still makes them look older..

I have a friend of mine that is 15 years younger then me her hair is gray... I dye mine I really thought she was my age instead at first all due to the gray hair... Even thou it has become a fad for some this ole lady will dye hers till the cows stop mooing

But now men to me are still handsome with the gray... My nephew is in his 40's and salt and pepper now that boy can sport the gray... Kind of helps he looks like George Clooney~~~

Touchy...

All I was sayin is that I want a woman that I can love without any need to be anything more than her natural state.

For me, a woman doesn't need to prove she can be like a man.
A woman doesn't need to hide her aroma
A woman doesn't need to hide her real beauty behind a wall of make up or hairdos and dyes.

I was married for 25 years and MOST of that time was wonderful.
I saw my woman naked fresh out of the shower and loved her, not her clothes or perfume or makeup or outfit.
I saw babies come out of her and still loved her just as much, if not more despite how gross it was.

When I wake up in the morning and see her lying next to me I am not going to want to wait till she gets her 'face' on before I tell her I love her.

If you think you need to put up an illusion then you are not for me anyway.
Be well, citizen.

^^^^ Humm not sure who you are responding too??

I like what you said Tom, and the way you said it.

I guess sometimes I getting a little touchy when a man talks about his preferences in a woman's appearance, but mostly it's how he says it that causes me to be touchy or uncomfortable. I have to be mindful and remind myself that not everyone expresses themselves well, including me. And I need to remind myself that someone voicing their preference has nothing to do with me personally.

I don't wear make-up, I have in the past and sometimes still like to, but only a little. Others, women in my life...and some men, have told me I should wear make-up, use perfume, do this, do that, and it gets annoying at times. I am who I am, and the kind of man I choose to be with will appreciate me in my natural state of beauty. And think I am just as beauty first thing in the morning when my hair is all messed up.

that is the point is it not
I am who I am
when I rise in the morning
I am who I am
hair all messed up
sporting a flannel nightgown and socks
a robe and curlers
or something sheer and sexy
I am who I am
when I put my hair up in a pony tail
and weed the garden
go to the kid's ballgames
or do the grocery shopping
I am who I am
when I am dressed for work
with my no nonsense business suit
or my casual Friday's attire
I am who I am
when I am dressed to the nines
hitting the town
taking in a show
stopping for dinner or perhaps
a walk down by the water
I am who I am

So the next time you are in a beauty parlor (the only place
you can actually smell a dye job) perhaps you could explain to the
ladies how they have sacrificed their natural beauty to 'vanity'.
But hero-to-the-rescue that you are, you will tolerate it!

It's a captive audience, they might just buy it.
If not, throw in the part about using perfume to be less smelly.
Or more smelly..which is it?

I love that TMommy.