Topic: A woman walks into a bar ......
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Wed 05/09/18 04:32 PM

honestly?
is she or isn't she ?
should i or shouldn't i?


social interaction can be complicated . ..,sometimes it is best not to think and just jump in laugh waving

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Wed 05/09/18 04:38 PM

I don't know because I have never been in a bar since 1998...
Billy
hi billy waving . I live in a remote location .. there is a rumour the men at the bar have extra toes .. i seldom venture there laugh

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Wed 05/09/18 04:41 PM



At one time in history bars were only for men but that has changed ....

Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile





I think "Hey I could get lucky!" laugh Seriously, I don't give it a second thought. Sure she could be there to be a pick up but then again she could just want to enjoy a drink.
i am sure you have more success than you let on poetry biggrin waving

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Wed 05/09/18 04:47 PM

A woman walks into a bar ......

...and is never seen again after 2 guys load her unconscious body into a windowless van.
Lesson: don't text and walk.

What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar

I don't know if I qualify as a "modern day" man.
But when I was younger and I actually went to bars and I'd notice women there alone they usually had either a "approach me and I'll cut it off" perpetual look on their face as they avoided eye contact with everyone, or a "ewww, I hope my friend shows up soon, this is sooooo not my scene, I don't belong here, but I'll smile at the monkeys that do come here and may chatter at me or look at me," kinda look on her face.

Before I saw the look on their face, if I just happened to notice there was this general female all alone at the bar, I would think:
- "omg she's fat/nasty/a barfly."
- "she's waiting for someone"
or
- "OMG! I got here early, a show is about to start as all these guys are going to start hitting on her."

I've never seen a woman alone in a bar for very long.
They're always waiting for someone, or a group forms around them pretty quickly.
tom thanks for the laughs drinker

I seldom see women come into a bar alone .. just curious why ..if socially, women are still not so confident in what used to be a male domain.

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Wed 05/09/18 04:50 PM



Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile



I'd go up to her and ask if she's waiting for someone ?
if she said no, I'd ask if she'd like some company...
not that big of a deal really...
it shouldn't be a big deal Argo .. I think it takes a strong confident woman to socialise like a man biggrin waving

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Wed 05/09/18 04:51 PM


At one time in history bars were only for men but that has changed ....Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile

that shes waiting for her girlfriends or her date
I would think that too and likely would be the case waving

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Wed 05/09/18 04:54 PM

I saw a funny thing once, in town about 2.00 am with a couple of nice young mums going bar to bar 'till late.
I followed them both into a below ground long narrow bar full of young 'european' type ethnicity men, as the girls walked in and to the end of the bar and back out without stopping.
I walked about 4 feet behind the girls and watched as down the line the guys awoke from their drunken stupor leaning on the bar, and looked and nudged or spoke to their drinking buddy "look man there's a girl" or similar grunts. It was like linear choreography.
Then when we got to the end and turned around, I let the girls go first and I watched from behind again.
Again as the girls cruised past back along the corridor like bar, all the guys along the way had a double take, leaned out and desperately tried pickup lines or reached out to grab them, or tried to stand-stagger in their way, in a smooth linear synchronous fashion like seaweed being disturbed by a wave as it travels.
It was awesome to watch, and a laugh, with a whole row of drunken sleazebags making their last ditch efforts to snag a girl that night. laugh

So in blunt answer, they think: there's a kitten, I wonder if I can pet it ?pitchfork
hilarious .. I have seen sinilar behaviour .. in women laugh laugh

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Wed 05/09/18 04:56 PM

At one time in history bars were only for men but that has changed ....

Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile

Not really, my mother was a bar slut.
It was a same but different time back then.
Women in bars always know how to get free drinks.
tom that sounds so unattractive .. is a man considered a bar slut !!!

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Wed 05/09/18 04:57 PM




Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile



I'd go up to her and ask if she's waiting for someone ?
if she said no, I'd ask if she'd like some company...
not that big of a deal really...
it shouldn't be a big deal Argo .. I think it takes a strong confident woman to socialise like a man biggrin waving

a push-up bra and F*Me pumps doesn't hurt either...love

Hi Blondey waving

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Wed 05/09/18 05:15 PM


From my experience men seem to think it's an invite for them to chat the woman up.
I don't think they feel the woman is looking for a date/man, but more that seeing a woman on her own triggers a man's instinct of wanting to conquer. Or better said: get her before another man does. They want to win at getting the 'free roaming bird'. Beat the competition. Primal instinct of the masculine. Even sperms display this by doing dare dangdest to get to the egg first. AFter all the winner gets to live, the rests dies after swimming around aimlessly for another few days, haha. Sad but true...

That's why I don't go to regular pubs, you get all these men undressing me with their eyes, whether around 25 or 50+ and everything in between, even the ones WITH a partner present spock
I go to a pub with live music. People come there for the music and a good time. I don't really get hassled there at all.
Must say it depends on the setting/what you do:
when in a normal pub and sat at the bar alone, you get hassled more. Clearly that conveys the message "hit on me" or something. Whereas when in the music café I'm on the dance floor in front of stage.
making me laugh crystal .. what is the equivalent of conquering for a woman ... obviously there is an association some men make between women and alcohol .. do men still want to conquer women in cafes :waving biggrin

Sure, likely not to make a commitment, lol. Looking for a serious partner in a pub is not the best of ideas, although it does happen sometimes. But since that's not the reason I'm going there it doesn't bother me.

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Wed 05/09/18 05:25 PM


A woman walks into a bar ......

...and is never seen again after 2 guys load her unconscious body into a windowless van.
Lesson: don't text and walk.

What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar

I don't know if I qualify as a "modern day" man.
But when I was younger and I actually went to bars and I'd notice women there alone they usually had either a "approach me and I'll cut it off" perpetual look on their face as they avoided eye contact with everyone, or a "ewww, I hope my friend shows up soon, this is sooooo not my scene, I don't belong here, but I'll smile at the monkeys that do come here and may chatter at me or look at me," kinda look on her face.

Before I saw the look on their face, if I just happened to notice there was this general female all alone at the bar, I would think:
- "omg she's fat/nasty/a barfly."
- "she's waiting for someone"
or
- "OMG! I got here early, a show is about to start as all these guys are going to start hitting on her."

I've never seen a woman alone in a bar for very long.
They're always waiting for someone, or a group forms around them pretty quickly.
tom thanks for the laughs drinker

I seldom see women come into a bar alone .. just curious why ..if socially, women are still not so confident in what used to be a male domain.


I remember it being a male domain in the UK I believe well into the 80s, but I cannot remember it ever being that way over here. No doubt it was at some point, but longer ago than for instance in the UK.
So I think that's not really the reason to be awkward about it. For me it's more the fact that you get all these sleaze bags harassing you. You know, men that have been drinking (too much), then begin to think they're God's gift to women, you're alone, which seems to make them believe they're going to hit the jackpot.
Then it costs time to get rid of them in a polite way, but since they've been drinking they're tenacious -and thick as two planks-, so it takes quite some time to dump them. Then the next idiot comes along.
It's just bloody annoying to be honest.
That's why I go to this music café as the vibe is totally different there from a regular pub. Like when you go to a concert, people are there to see the band and show. There's still plenty of men who show interest, but come to think of it mostly they're not drunk and far more polite, or not as drunk as the ones in a regular pub.

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Wed 05/09/18 05:36 PM
I don't really go to bars but I see women in cafes and walking outside all the time. They usually look like they do not want to be distracted from their peace. When I see women together it is pretty remarkable, as they seem seriously connected like in a web. I get a strong sense of society when I am with fellow men, but when men and women are mixed things tend to be a bit more cordial and there is not as deep of a connection, unless there is a unifying cause or inspiration. Generally. When I see women alone I assume they are on some solitary quest.

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Wed 05/09/18 05:57 PM
In March, 1965, two women chained themselves to a public bar in Brisbane, protesting the fact they couldn't be served there.
Mildura publican Liam Wood says this weekend, he will celebrate the anniversary by "locking out the blokes" as part of a charity event at his pub.
Mildura itself, Mr Wood says, has an interesting history when it comes to women being allowed to drink in bars.
Originally designed to be a dry colony, "gentlemen's clubs" were set up around the town in lieu of pubs, with women strictly forbidden.
The Mildura Club, and the Settlers Club, which was set up in 1893, were one of a handful of places in the town that served alcohol until the early to mid-1900s.
According to its website one of these, the Mildura Club, is still one of the few gentlemen's clubs left in Victoria, "and upholds the guidelines established over a century ago".
The Settlers Club, Mr Wood says, changed in the 1980s from being a men's club to allowing women through the doors, but was met with quite a lot of resistance.
Across the road from where the pub stands today is a service station, which used to be a stable for horses for the club's members and a shed for their wives to wait in.
"They built a stable where the guys could come and park their horse and buggy," Mr Wood says.
"Originally it was a stable, and there was a ladies shelter shed in the middle.
"So essentially the women had to wait outside with the horses."
The Settlers Club charge book, which dates back to 1900, also details the controversy that was caused when one member brought his wife to the club.
"[He was] requested to attend a meeting on the 8th August 1964, to give explanation as to conduct concerning an incident, in which his wife appeared in the lounge," it reads.
"He was sent a registered letter on 15/8/64. He appeared at the meeting as requested and was warned by the president of the committee of the serious nature of his offence, allowing his wife to come into the lounge. [He] apologised to the meeting and assured them there would never be a repetition of such an incident again. The apology and explanation was accepted and no formal charge was laid."
While women are now allowed through the doors of many more Mildura establishments, Mr Wood says that this weekend he's turning the tables for an afternoon in honour of those two women in Brisbane.
"The blokes can wait in the stables as such, for the afternoon."

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Wed 05/09/18 06:01 PM
Submitted by Anne Rajotte on Tue, 09/09/2014 – 16:39
In the 1930s, after the end of prohibition, Connecticut enacted a number of laws regulating the sale and consumption of alcohol. One of these laws, enacted in 1937, made it illegal to serve a woman alcohol at a bar or at a table within three feet of a bar.


Beginning in the 1950s, bills to repeal or amend the laws prohibiting women from drinking at a bar were introduced repeatedly, but never made it very far. Those opposed to the bills argued that bars were not places for women, and that their presence would lead to an increase in prostitution and other similar social problems.

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Wed 05/09/18 06:02 PM
In history crystal women were not always allowed to be served in a bar . Some of that history dates back to Victorian times .

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Wed 05/09/18 07:26 PM





Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar bigsmile



I'd go up to her and ask if she's waiting for someone ?
if she said no, I'd ask if she'd like some company...
not that big of a deal really...
it shouldn't be a big deal Argo .. I think it takes a strong confident woman to socialise like a man biggrin waving

a push-up bra and F*Me pumps doesn't hurt either...love

Hi Blondey waving
pumps?? I prefer long boots :-) hiya Argo bigsmile

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Wed 05/09/18 07:29 PM
Depends on the bar, if its upscale I wouldnt think anything, many people go to upscale places just to unwind.

If its a bar known as a meat market, I would think she is looking to meet someone for whatever.

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Wed 05/09/18 07:31 PM

I don't really go to bars but I see women in cafes and walking outside all the time. They usually look like they do not want to be distracted from their peace. When I see women together it is pretty remarkable, as they seem seriously connected like in a web. I get a strong sense of society when I am with fellow men, but when men and women are mixed things tend to be a bit more cordial and there is not as deep of a connection, unless there is a unifying cause or inspiration. Generally. When I see women alone I assume they are on some solitary quest.
I think body language speaks volumes and it is easy to tell when a woman is on a solitary quest . A woman at a bar who is wanting to socialise her smile and body language should convey that . Group interaction unless amongst friends tends to be more guarded and superficial ., likely why connections do not seem as intense :-) waving

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Wed 05/09/18 07:36 PM

Depends on the bar, if its upscale I wouldnt think anything, many people go to upscale places just to unwind.

If its a bar known as a meat market, I would think she is looking to meet someone for whatever.
havent heard that term "meat market" for a long term .. reminds me of young lust and nightclubs but I can see why some bars get that reputation waving

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Wed 05/09/18 07:43 PM


Depends on the bar, if its upscale I wouldnt think anything, many people go to upscale places just to unwind.

If its a bar known as a meat market, I would think she is looking to meet someone for whatever.
havent heard that term "meat market" for a long term .. reminds me of young lust and nightclubs but I can see why some bars get that reputation waving
exactly..


meat market was the nicest term I could put on here ...