Topic: Not enjoying loud evenings out when you are young
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Tue 07/17/18 07:43 AM
I don’t enjoy loud evenings out at all.
I prefer a cosy evening in a romantic setting without all the noisy remix music and tons of people dancing around you and yelling loudly.

I enjoy peace and quiet but I don’t like being alone. Rather enjoy some interesting companionship and have a talk on a deeper, emotional level. I love having philosophical discussions with other people.

Thing is : at 22 most people my age would rather go party loudly and do noisy things.
My parents and other people never understand why I don’t like that kind of activities.
It’s almost seen as an “ ilness “ that I prefer quiet evenings in a romantic setting at my age.
Many people tell me : “ you are not a retired person yet “ as a critic on my preferences to spend my free time quietly.
I just don’t enjoy noisy things at all. Can’t help that.

How is it for you?
How old are you and what do you like to do in your free time? Would you classify yourself rather as quiet or active?
Have your preferences about how to spend your free time changed over the years or have you always been a quiet or active person?

What is your opinion about young people spending their free time in peace and quiet?

Larsi666 😽's photo
Tue 07/17/18 07:52 AM
Never mind what others say, you know yourself best, how to enjoy your life :smile:

And I am a quiet person as well, the noisiest thing is being a steward at football matches down the road from where I live

NotPay4Play's photo
Tue 07/17/18 07:57 AM
I agree with lars. Doe what is best for you. For me a small concert of 30 people is best. Personally i do not do well in large crowds. So i miss a lot of the big name bands. Oh well.

peggy122's photo
Tue 07/17/18 11:46 AM
I enjoy both quiet and festive times, but with age, I definitely appreciate quiet time way more than I did in my 20s

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 07/17/18 12:02 PM
Edited by SparklingCrystal 💖💎 on Tue 07/17/18 12:04 PM
I can enjoy both, but I need more quiet time than 'noisy' time.
I am an HSP, and being in a noisy and/or crowded area too often wears me out. But I sure as heck can enjoy going out and for instance enjoy a band playing and the hustle and bustle.
I do not like it when it's so crammed that I can barely move -been there one time with a very popular band. I went home.
I'm not claustrophobic but I tend to get it then, hihi. Nor do I like people pushing me around in a crowd, if nothing else it'll P me O to the point I feel like punching someone's lights out *blush*.

At home I sometimes play really loud music as well. When the neighbours aren't home. SOmething like "Killing in the Name of" can only be listen to at a very high volume!

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Tue 07/17/18 12:03 PM
I was never one for clubbing and the like when I was young. I went occasionally to be with friends but it was almost like I got some kind of anxiety while there. I would be the first to leave almost always.

I spent more than half my younger days away from home anyway so rarely went to loud and lively places.

Horses for courses I think. Do what you’re most comfortable with.

Rock's photo
Tue 07/17/18 12:16 PM
If i'm the drummer, the louder the better.

Otherwise, bear spray comes in handy for quieting
a room.


newsworthy's photo
Tue 07/17/18 01:06 PM

I enjoy a party and some peace also. A good balance can never do any wrong and makes fond memories.

Stu's photo
Tue 07/17/18 01:10 PM
I did, but now I have severe tinnitus. You're smart in your choice to avoid loudness.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Tue 07/17/18 01:21 PM
How is it for you?
How old are you and what do you like to do in your free time? Would you classify yourself rather as quiet or active?
Have your preferences about how to spend your free time changed over the years or have you always been a quiet or active person?

What is your opinion about young people spending their free time in peace and quiet?

It is what it is.

57 - Watch movies, listen to music and people watch.

Quiet

Yes, they have changed as I get older. At 22 I was attracted to the party enthusiasm but not all the time. I worked hard and played hard. I did need downtime every so often to realign, tho. Since I was stationed in the Amphibious Seabees I got that recharge time on the ship. Six months deployed, four months homeport, six moths deployed, two months homeport, three months deployed, five months homeport and so on. Most of my homeport was spent partying.

The only opinion I have about young people is based on my children and their friends which are closer to 35 than 22 year olds. Even when my kids were in the 22 year range they enjoyed hometime and party time.

As for a general observation of today's young adults, I see less river parties, beach parties and bonfires or tailgating parties than I did a few decades ago. The bars on the beach are loud and packed but not daily, mainly on weekends. Generally, I consider the young adult generation to be more conservative now.

Mike6615's photo
Sat 07/21/18 06:26 PM

I did, but now I have severe tinnitus. You're smart in your choice to avoid loudness.


Yeah, those Fender Twins will cause it.

Stu's photo
Sat 07/21/18 06:43 PM


I did, but now I have severe tinnitus. You're smart in your choice to avoid loudness.


Yeah, those Fender Twins will cause it.


Yep, gave mine to a friend... 66 model..

Arthritis also sucks... probably time to thin the herd..

Mike6615's photo
Sun 07/22/18 07:30 AM



I did, but now I have severe tinnitus. You're smart in your choice to avoid loudness.


Yeah, those Fender Twins will cause it.


Yep, gave mine to a friend... 66 model..

Arthritis also sucks... probably time to thin the herd..


I had a '65 Twin and a '65 sunburst Mosrite Ventures Model in '67. Twins still weigh 85 lbs., but did get another Ventures Model.