Topic: Married at First Sight.
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Wed 01/16/19 07:46 AM



Anyone watch that show? Would you ever do that?


I've never seen the show Cat. It reminds me of arranged marriages though. The divorce rate is actually lower in arranged marriages than marriages based on love and choice.

I'm not sure if I would do it, but given my history of unsuccessful romantic relationships and marrying for love, if the conditions were favorable, I might consider it. I knew a couple where the arranged marriage actually grew into a very loving strong relationship, they were from a different culture that practiced arranged marriages.

The love and respect that grows between two people working together for a common purpose could very well be stronger than when people join for romantic reasons. There's no pressure to "prove" your love or do romantic things because you're together for different reasons.... If it shows up later, it's more natural and has the potential of being much more intense because of the foundation already formed.

I think it would be difficult, especially for those who are romantics at heart, like me... you might struggle in the beginning because there's no lovey dovey stuff that other couples get to experience. There's also the problem that if you were to develop romantic feelings with the one your with and it doesn't happen for the other, the relationship could begin to suffer.

It's a risk either way!


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It is a risk either way so why not get paid to do it. At least if it doesn’t work out, you got the cash to men your broken heart.laugh


:thumbsup: laugh

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Wed 01/16/19 02:29 PM
JBH, you don't have a say in who you will be married to. You kind of turn your relationship over to these three people who decide the right person for you to marry - I think a relationship counselor, a minister and psychologist or something like that. You never meet before the ceremony and know nothing about each other or their family.

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Wed 01/16/19 02:31 PM

JBH, you don't have a say in who you will be married to. You kind of turn your relationship over to these three people who decide the right person for you to marry - I think a relationship counselor, a minister and psychologist or something like that. You never meet before the ceremony and know nothing about each other or their family.


OH! I’ve never watched it. Guess that make a huge difference. No thanks

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Wed 01/16/19 02:37 PM
That's what makes it weird, JBH, watching them plan the wedding. It's a formal wedding with the whole family there and seeing each other for the first time. It's unusual.

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Wed 01/16/19 02:38 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 01/16/19 02:39 PM
Cat I think I am getting your program confused with the other one I have seen
You do get to meet your intended spouse and you choose the One from about 20 by asking them qestions. Then you choose the one you want and they propose marriage.

This I have seen on TV a few times. I t's called the Proposal. Not sure. If it is still showing thou.


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Wed 01/16/19 02:53 PM
River, I've this show a a lot, not every episode and they are usually people that are tired of dating but want to be married for a lifetime. They rely on these "experts" to find it for them. I would not do it. It's just entertainment. watching them go through the wedding, honeymoon and what happens next.

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Wed 01/16/19 02:56 PM
That would be interesting to watch Cat. I don't have cable so doubt I can watch it.

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Wed 01/16/19 03:04 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 01/16/19 03:07 PM
Women hookup with men Online all the time! They are meeting strangers.

You really don't know a. Man well until you live with him. Some Women may want marriage but that usually don't happen.

Chances you take like Russian Roulette. :smile:



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Wed 01/16/19 03:09 PM
This show started a few years ago. I did not watch it from the start. The experts go through hundreds or thousands of applications to match people who WANT to be married.

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Wed 01/16/19 03:59 PM
I agree Toody. Men and women don't spend enough time together before getting married or living together.

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Wed 01/16/19 04:01 PM

I agree Toody. Men and women don't spend enough time together before getting married or living together.


But living together is when you really get to know someone! They can be a different person

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Wed 01/16/19 04:07 PM
I'd like to know someone for a long time before even living together.

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Wed 01/16/19 04:09 PM

I'd like to know someone for a long time before even living together.


I did when I was younger. Now I wouldn’t wait as long... I’m old laugh

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Wed 01/16/19 04:13 PM
You're not old, JBH. How long do you think you'd wait to move in with a guy? Would you you have to love him, or only like him?

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Wed 01/16/19 04:21 PM

You're not old, JBH. How long do you think you'd wait to move in with a guy? Would you you have to love him, or only like him?


It would have to be Love definitely. It also depends at what speed the relationship is moving. I’m in one that’s moving pretty fast so probably less than a year. But my last one, I waited 5 years to get married and it didn’t work out. So you never know.

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Wed 01/16/19 04:34 PM
JBH, hope you are doing really good.

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Wed 01/16/19 04:44 PM
By the way, if you decide to marry at first sight, what if you are not attracted to each other?

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Wed 01/16/19 04:46 PM
Edited by JOHNN111 on Wed 01/16/19 05:04 PM
I've met quite a few people in the states that have been married 3+ times

In that case, I think it's best to let someone else pick "the one"slaphead laugh

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Wed 01/16/19 04:47 PM
That could be a problem Cat

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Wed 01/16/19 04:48 PM

By the way, if you decide to marry at first sight, what if you are not attracted to each other?



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