Hello. Let me ask about something that I have talked about with my mother, and also my best friend. And they didn't agree. But they still support me. Of course they know the reason why I decided to do that.

I hope you guys here can give me some advice?
Which will help me to keep realizing it or not.

I recently came across the term gamophobia. Now that I think about it, I think I experienced that. So I'm thinking about adopting a child, or just doing it with someone. Or let's say I want to have children without having to get married. And of course I have estimated the good and bad for my actions.

But if I think about it. Let's say I get married and have kids and then we get divorced. Then I would end up to being a single parent. Regardless of whether my ex-husband will be responsible for our child or not.

What I think about the most. Do you have the heart to let a child not have a father figure, which I also experienced in my life. And should I just be alone until the end of my life?

To be honest this is something different that I was looking for , it is great sharing I loved it , thanks a lot dear

In Lithuania European, still their are lot of teenage girls, have child's by ex/bf... without marriages...western culture...
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Think of your near an dear once, if you really feel you have emotions than you will understand your mother/parent.
Apart from it, as current trend... You are free to make your decision.
Not all advise will worth. You have to live your own life.

You have family, your mother seems to have given you good advice, I think maybe loneliness is playing a part here. I have the impression you have concern about "being left on the shelf" for the want of a better expression. Never having a partner and family of your own. At your age mid-twenties that is a bit too soon in my opinion for having those kind of thoughts. You have decided to join a dating site, Mingle2, which shows you are interested in finding a partner, I would suggest you join a few more in your own country and near your home town for more local people. Tell people more about you in your profile, what you do and enjoy doing, interests, sports, travel, music, tv programs, films, all general stuff describing you, be positive, and do not mention your past fears and phobias, which we all have from time to time. Try and socialise more in the real world, and accept that offer of a date even if you are not to sure, date in the daytime in town where there are lots of people and remain safe until you know them better, he could just be the one for you. Good luck in your search.

I think you have to find a balance for both of you, for yourself and for your child. The fact is you deserve happiness and your child deserves a father figure.

I would say never say never, and remain hopeful that you meet someone who ticks all your checkboxes.

You may even bump into another single parent who also has children, so it's not all doom and gloom.

I've always thought of dating as being similar to playing the lottery, some times you get small wins, where you could meet someone and settle down, then for whatever reason it doesn't work out and your single again... Always looking for the big win, in relationship terms that would mean finding someone who you could happily spend the rest of your life with them....

But just as it is with the lottery, you have to be in it, to win it... So if you don't date, don't meet people, then you don't keep your options open or give up before trying... You can't be a WINNER if you don't take part...

I would agree with Duttoneer and say remain positive and try to socialise as much as you can, as he says... In order to find that special someone...

I'm sure your parents and close friends all say the same...