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Topic: Dating Younger
briancarr's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:14 AM
I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem.

Starhawk's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:18 AM
Proffesional Thearapy might be A option ....

DebbieJT's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:18 AM
your going to have to be tough and ignore her calls hun..if you have talked it threw and been honest and shes still not getting the message its all you can do

boredinaz06's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:19 AM


why didn't you think of this before you started dating her?

harley46's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:20 AM
I like younger women. Wish i could find me one.laugh

shoes4rhon's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:27 AM
you will have to be firm and consistant and maybe change your number that is what they tell us girls at least ..

briancarr's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:37 AM

your going to have to be tough and ignore her calls hun..if you have talked it threw and been honest and shes still not getting the message its all you can do
Being on the road helps.

briancarr's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:38 AM



why didn't you think of this before you started dating her?
Because at my age it was nice to have someone so young, and pretty attracted to me

Shaden's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:41 AM
Edited by Shaden on Wed 03/05/08 06:51 AM
Sometimes a phone call or e-mail doesn't cut it. Send her I thinking of you card and a gentle explanation. Seeing you went to the effort may preserve the friendship, while making your stance clear. Then if she doesn't get it resort the harsher means of ignoring. Hearts are fragile. :smile:

no photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:44 AM
Just don't respond to her calls or messages.

dysFUNctional's photo
Wed 03/05/08 06:47 AM
I've been through this before and now the guy is my best friend. I finally had to sit him down face to face and say hey look nothing against you cause you are a wonderful person but as a couple I'm not interested and if you can't understand that and understand your place with me then we can't be friends either. And I told him what I would do if he couldn't respect my feelings.

Some people just need it to be straight forward and to the point, no being Mr. Nice Guy before they understand. I hate to say this but you almost have to be selfish and rude before they get it.

Good Luckdrinker smokin flowerforyou

beautyfrompain's photo
Wed 03/05/08 05:58 PM
Children are a blessing from the Lord!

scorpio32155's photo
Thu 03/06/08 12:05 AM

Children are a blessing from the Lord!

Amen

armydoc4u's photo
Thu 03/06/08 05:04 AM
yeah yeah yeah, kids are a blessing from god, but yor getting old man and dont want to have anymore, so flipping tell her that.

hey lady your cool and everything, but you want kids and I do not. dont want to deprive you so, Im cutting the ties. hopefully you find some great guy that wants to knock you up and everything will be fine.

if not, then, well, dont know what to tell you, except I can be with you anymore....



now tell the truth, she was killing you wasnt she old man?laugh laugh laugh laugh

lausim's photo
Thu 03/06/08 11:12 AM
I understand age gaps, no problem. I like older guys. But, before starting to date her or get in a serious relationship with her, you might have mentioned that to her?

You may have and she pretended to agree thinking she could get you to change your mind.

Some women thrive on trying to change people.

Texas_Rose's photo
Thu 03/06/08 05:46 PM
I let guys know up front there is not a snowballs chance in hell as I not only no longer have the equipment to be able to bear children, but my baby is seventeen and I am close to being an empty nester. You'd be amazed at how many guys say, but couldn't we adopt? No we cannot adopt, you can find someone else to adopt with but WE are not going to adopt. My next children will be grandchildren, and I hope they are still several years away.

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 03/06/08 05:51 PM
I like younger women too.. Your gonna have to talk to her..

Totage's photo
Thu 03/06/08 05:53 PM

I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem.


She'll get over it, and understand that things just weren't going to work out. It just takes time.

no photo
Wed 03/12/08 05:39 PM
U are really lucky to find a woman so much younger. I think you should have told her from the beginning what are you looking for and what your expectations are. Just put yourself in her place, what would you do?

ShadowLands's photo
Thu 03/13/08 02:55 PM

I broke up with a woman i was dating, She was 27. Im 46. I didnt think down the road i could handle the age gap. She never had children, and never been married. I have done both. I dont mind getting married. I miss that part alot, but children. I would rather jump into a pit of snakes. She was very upset, and doesnt want to end it. She saysjust friend is out of the question, its all, or nothing. I said nothing, but she still calls. How do i get her understand that its me with the problem.
Did you bother to discuss the whole "kid" thing with her or did you just dump her abruptly with no explanation?

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