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women do they tell the truth
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   ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓  MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM Popcorn can I have some too?  sure 
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WHAT ARE YOU READING NOW
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Upon A Dark Night- Peter Lovesey
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So NOT Crushing... - part 3
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No Crushing
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Nudge
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Meh! Bah! W/ Strangers it is a bit strange and cowardly, agreed! ...  W/ friends ... Ah, Lawwwwwwwddddyyy ...  ...My friends and I nudge each other until we are bruised and cry 'Uncle' ... Marco ...  ... Polo ... Sure do... 
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women do they tell the truth
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 ... I love me some (((((((Caroline))))))) ...  ...  ... I left a message from your message ...  I just saw your kewl Pointer Sisters song for me! I just love them SO, TY!!! ...  I've been waiting 3 years for someone to put "Steam Heat" on youtube, dying to hear it, I tell ya!  ... For you ... Love this one, their lil homage to country: ★ The Pointer Sisters ★ Fairytale ★ [1974] ★ I'll pack up all my things and walk away I don't want to hear another word you have to say I've been waiting for so long, (so long) I just found out there's something wrong, (something is wrong) nothing will get better if I stay There's no need to explain anymore I tried my best to love you, now I'm walkin' out the door (walking out the door) You used me, you've deceived me, (what you trying to do to me?) and you never seem to need me but I'll bet, you won't forget me when I go (Oh no, no, no) Seems I've been lost in a dream, pretending that you care and now I've opened up my eyes, and found it's all been just a great big fairytale I've been lovin' you so long, (my love's so strong) don't think I'll even know how to forget you (I can't forget you) but now the way that things have been, I think I'm better off alone, than to be with you You don't love me it's plain to see You played around, you broke my heart, told me we would never part, but that wasn't true, so what else can I do but move on ? Instrumental (piano and steel guitar) I've been loving you so long, (my love's so strong) don't think I'll even know how to forget you (I can't forget you) but now the ways that things have been, I think I'm better of alone, than to be with you You don't love me it's plain to see There's no need to explain anymore I tried my best to love you, now I'm walkin' out the door (walking out the door) ahh, you used me, you've deceived me, (what you trying to do to me?) and you never seem to need me But I'll bet you won't forget me when I go (Oh no, no, no) Seems I've been lost in a dream, pretending you were mine someday you'll open up your eyes and realize that a good woman's hard to find Yes I've been lost in a dream pretending that you care and now I've opened up my eyes and found it's all been just a great big fairytale (I'll move on) move on...got to move on move on...got to move on move on...got to move on move on Hit it Nellie I've got to move on Love ya to Kate  Love this song. Just about anything they have out I just loooooove it! Sorry I keep missing you. I have a lot going on, I'll fill you in later. It's just so late when my youngest gets settled after track, that I fall asleep and forget to call... I'll try to call you again soon. I can't find Steam Heat on YouTube, but I found the song on Yahoo Here's the link: http://new.music.yahoo.com/pointer-sisters/tracks/steam-heat--1311627 Have a blessed day my friend!  ...  ... YOU ROCK ... ... OMDG ... ... I'm soooooo grateful, and runnin' this gem straight to our Music Jams! Enjoy my friend!
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James Brown Live - Get up offa that thing
Check him out doing the splits .... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ROzGihgCj8 recorded version http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEtAj52scpg
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Real Love Doesn't Hurt
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Well, it seems my abuser may be in the "set up" stage. He placed an ad on a dating site directed solely to me saying how sorry he was, how he aches without me, blah, blah, blah. The minute I saw it though my heart started hurting again. These abusers have such a control over their victims (survivors). And unless you are in it or have had it done to you, you just don't understand what it's like-it is the worst. God bless you H & S, for caring enough to offer guidance and love. And God bless any of you out there who are survivors. It's a tough road, but we can do it. Together.  Yes we can
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Real Love Doesn't Hurt
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Help for abused and battered women: Making the decision to leave
As you face the decision to either end the abusive relationship or try to save it, keep the following things in mind: * If you’re hoping your abusive partner will change... The abuse will probably happen again. Abusers have deep emotional and psychological problems. While change is not impossible, it isn’t quick or easy. And change can only happen once your abuser takes full responsibility for his behavior, seeks professional treatment, and stops blaming you, his unhappy childhood, stress, work, his drinking, or his temper. * If you believe you can help your abuser... It’s only natural that you want to help your partner. You may think you’re the only one who understands him or that it’s your responsibility to fix his problems. But the truth is that by staying and accepting repeated abuse, you’re reinforcing and enabling the abusive behavior. Instead of helping your abuser, you’re perpetuating the problem. * If your partner has promised to stop the abuse... When facing consequences, abusers often plead for another chance, beg for forgiveness, and promise to change. They may even mean what they say in the moment, but their true goal is to stay in control and keep you from leaving. But most of the time, they quickly return to their abusive behavior once they’ve been forgiven and they’re no longer worried that you’ll leave. * If your partner is in counseling or a program for batterers... Even if your partner is in counseling, there is no guarantee that he’ll change. Many abusers who go through counseling continue to be violent, abusive, and controlling. If your partner has stopped minimizing the problem or making excuses, that’s a good sign. But you still need to make your decision based on who he is now, not the man you hope he will become. * If you’re worried about what will happen if you leave... You may be afraid of what your abusive partner will do, where you’ll go, or how you’ll support yourself or your children. But don’t let fear of the unknown keep you in a dangerous, unhealthy situation. |
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Real Love Doesn't Hurt
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If you are being abused, remember:
* You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated. * You are not the cause of your partner’s abusive behavior. * You deserve to be treated with respect. * You deserve a safe and happy life. * Your children deserve a safe and happy life. * You are not alone. There are people waiting to help. |
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Topic:
Real Love Doesn't Hurt
Edited by
heartSoul
on
Fri 03/05/10 08:13 PM
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The cycle of violence in domestic abuse
Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence: * Cycle of Violence/Abuse – Your abusive partner lashes out with aggressive, belittling, or violent behavior. The abuse is a power play designed to show you "who is boss." * Guilt – After abusing you, your partner feels guilt, but not over what he's done. He’s more worried about the possibility of being caught and facing consequences for his abusive behavior. * "Normal" behavior – Your abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep you in the relationship. He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give you hope that your abusive partner has really changed this time. * "Normal" behavior — The abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship. He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time. * Fantasy and planning – Your abuser begins to fantasize about abusing you again. He spends a lot of time thinking about what you’ve done wrong and how he'll make you pay. Then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality. * Set-up – Your abuser sets you up and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing you. Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are very real. The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up. |
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