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Sat 05/11/19 07:50 PM
Edited by beenthere on Sat 05/11/19 07:57 PM
I have this same issue. I have no idea how to approach a woman and start a conversation. I'm not a naturally flirtatious guy and often end up as a friend. Trying to figure out how to fix this


Read the above first...

You might also want to prepare a script on how to start a conversation and show it to your friends (or here in the forum) and get an opinion on what it sounds like.

Try becoming a flirt - practice at the supermarket or somewhere like that by just smiling at the cashier and talking to them - not only do they appreciate that (in most cases), but it also heightens your confidence and you learn what works and what doesn't.

Also - your profile doesn't say anything about you, you have to put some effort in (and get rid of the pic with the two women, makes you look like a ladies man IMHO. The picture before that could also be a turn off for most, because they assume it is an ex and not your sister). Instead post a few more pics of yourself, smiling, maybe a full or at least half body shot, and one you doing something you care about (pic of you with an animal in them seem to be the thing atm). Write down some Interests, and fill in the middle bit and the questions at the end, otherwise, it can be seen that you don't really care and that reflects negatively on you. The more effort you put into your profile, the more rewards you will reap.

Go take some time looking at other profiles and see what they write or how they present themselves and then choose the best five and build your own based on them.

I am not saying that you will be flooded with matches, but you will increase the odds of a reply tenfold...

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Sat 05/11/19 07:33 PM
Edited by beenthere on Sat 05/11/19 07:51 PM
From my experience avoid profiles that are pretty much empty an only have one photo. It shows that those are not really serious about the whole dating game and are just here for fun or to see how many hits they get or if their 'ideal superman' will contact them.

Go for a profile that tells you something about them, then pick something you have also an interest in and start with that by saying something about yourself and ask a question about it - has a high percentage of return, surprisingly. And keep it short and to the point, don't write pages about yourself, leave that for later. One topic (Unique greeting, a little compliment, then take the same interest - one confirmation that you do the same with a short example and/or why, and then a quick question to end on with. If you want you can add something like 'looking forward to hearing from you' or something to that end -- that works best in my opinion).

And be original - have an interesting profile (just enough that makes them look twice), some good pics of yourself, and don't just start by saying Hi, Hello, and stuff like that. Tailor it to the person you want to talk to, throw in a little compliment, and be funny and creative - in short, be creative and stand out.

Oh, and check when they were last online - anything over two weeks is usually a waste of time...

hth

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Sat 05/11/19 07:22 PM
Hello Alasan,

welcome to the house of fun and good luck in your search!

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Sat 05/11/19 07:21 PM
Hello and welcome.

All the best to you on your search!

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Sat 05/11/19 07:13 PM
Edited by beenthere on Sat 05/11/19 07:14 PM
The report button used to be monitored and acted upon, but in recent months I have noticed that this has slowed down somewhat, or the button is not always available or seems to work.

The complete absence of the report button also occurs when you have an Adblocker active...

In extreme cases, like nudity, I send a direct report through the contact us link, which is a hit and miss affair. Scammers, on the other hand, are harder to report. I read somewhere that they won't remove them just from one report, but instead 'monitor' that person and see if there are similar reports coming in.

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Sat 05/11/19 07:06 PM
I, too, am from Germany.
And they are still seen as that by those that have no idea and interest what the band is all about. Those people are the same that would like to dictate everything you can and cannot do in life, personal and otherwise, and are usually the religious, the older people, and those that grew up under socialism. I feel sorry for them. Though some of the stuff they do on stage is really very close to the borderline of taste, I have to say - but their videos? Wow, just fantastic. My favourite is that to the song "Stripped", which caused more controversy than any other of theirs, for no other reason that they showed footage from the 1936 Olympics, even though propaganda was exactly the same after the war in the GDR (I am from the West, btw).

If you like Rammstein, have you ever heard of a group called 'The Hu'? If not, give them a listen, you can find them on YouTube easily...

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Sat 05/11/19 06:30 AM
Edited by beenthere on Sat 05/11/19 06:30 AM
Rammstein? Neat. When they released Herzeleid, I got the CD and people were thinking that I was mad. Now the same people call themselves hardcore fans :wink:


Been a fan from the get-go - at the beginning, the band and fans were classed as Neo-Nazis. but that has simmered down for a few years. Now, with the latest release, it is seen as right-wing again because people just don't understand the lyrics and imagery used. Very sad...

Can't wait for the new album release on Friday!

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Sat 05/11/19 06:14 AM
no worries,
but if you can, share your experience with this since this is a recurring question here...

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Sat 05/11/19 01:04 AM
Edited by beenthere on Sat 05/11/19 01:06 AM
erm, there is no monthly subscription. It's either 3,6, or 12 months

and again, you have to contact support with that problem (billing@minglenet.com) - good luck...

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Sat 05/11/19 12:57 AM

I'd appreciate it if people actually READ what I write instead of posting their knee-jerk reaction from ego...I clearly state this because I know you're oh-so sensitive and then I still get this?


good luck with that... ;)

Most of the Eastern World uses mobile apps to communicate - look at the Philippines where everybody (well, 95%) of the population communicates daily that way...

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Sat 05/11/19 12:50 AM
"There's no mountain I can't climb, there's no tower too high, no plane that I can't learn to fly"

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"The water shall be your mirror
Only when it is smooth will you see
How many fairy tales remain for you
And you will plead for salvation"

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Sat 05/11/19 12:43 AM
Yeah, sure - mostly the old metalheads, symphonic metal, and of course Rammstein

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Sat 05/11/19 12:42 AM
Only Johnny Cash really - but I am European and we are not into Country as a whole...

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Sat 05/11/19 12:41 AM
Depeche Mode - Where's the revolution

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Sat 05/11/19 12:32 AM
I will help you secure your IT and can give advice on how to protect yourself from electronic spying if you like - check your inbox for details...

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Fri 05/10/19 11:23 PM
Could this be implemented (or at least suggested to IT), as this is a basic feature most other dating sites use?

And maybe a suggestion forum would be nice, too...

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Fri 05/10/19 11:16 PM
This seems to be another big problem of this site - subscriptions are debited almost immediately from your bank account, but you have to actually chase up support to resolve something that should be automated. And getting a response from support is somewhat slow as well. Really puts me of renewing my MinglePlus membership...

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Fri 05/10/19 11:04 PM
Edited by beenthere on Fri 05/10/19 11:12 PM
So is the feature coming back? I'd hate to lose it as it is part of what made me attracted to this site in the first place? At least keep the existing friendslist showing... Or remove the 'who's online' box - I am really not interested that 'Vicky, 60, from Normandy' is online now. Or rewrite the algorithm that it shows people relevant to my search criteria, it isn't that hard.

Mingle2 has too little communication as to what is going on with the site, I have to say. This is what the blog is for, to keep the users informed about the site, what is planned, and preferably why.

Very disappointed...

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Thu 05/09/19 03:43 PM
I encourage people to use WhatsApp, Viber, Skype, etc - that shows that the other person is who they say they are.. If they refuse something fishy is going on...

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Thu 05/09/19 09:07 AM
Wasn't there an Option to pay with PayPal or money orders? Can't remember...