I am here but I reloacted to St. Louis, MO....

it's tough but keep talking and see if it's something you want to pursue and if it's worth it- I have had a couple and the one I am currently in is working- we made a compromise and met in the middle- I was from Minnesota and he was in Alabama and he just moved here to St. Louis to be with me- it's all about communication and compromise- the first LDR I had cheated on me even after I was traveling every couple of weeks to be with him in AZ- the 2nd one is faithful and loyal and a lot like me-

Good luck

no I get them in my email everyday- I love the messages and wanted to start a thread that I could share them in hopes that someone else would get something from it also-

I do not watch much tv ever- I used to also but it's such a waste of time and you are right, so much violence-

I am reading a book called boundaries currently and trying to learn what I am responsible for vs. what my boyfriend is- I tend to mother and get stressed if he does not take care of what he needs to- this is where my worrying comes into play....

wallflower....

Bartender by DMB weekend live on the rocks.....

I have recently relocated to St. Louis and I worry constantly about things - getting lost is finally the least of my worries- my job that I liked so much is not panning out- my boyfriend relocated and is now looking for places to work in his profession- I worry my kids hate me - it is my FT job- I keep feeling like things won't come together....


I guess I am scared as hell

That the birds of worry and care
fly about your head
This you cannot change
But that they build nests in your hair
This you can prevent.
-- Chinese Proverb

Worry can light on our shoulders or sink its teeth into our flesh. Worry can become such a habit that it may actually take over most of our waking and dreaming hours. Worry can break down our immune system and weaken our natural ability to fight illness.

For some people worry is a full-time job and life companion. How much do each of us worry each day? This is a good question to ask when we are ready to get serious about changing our worry habits.

Once we have identified how and when we worry, we are ready to reverse the pattern. Progress, not perfection, is the key in changing our worry habits. With an open mind and willing heart we have the power to change our habit of worry into one of trust. We know as we make this change that our Higher Power is truly at work in our lives.

Today let me begin to replace my worry with trust and faith in my ability to use my resources to face whatever life brings me.

The Fray look after you

Seeing the good.

The beauty of our souls shines in many ways. The greatest of these is love. In the spirit of loving kindness, every day a little ugliness is removed; our perspective on life grows broader and deeper.

In the spirit of love, our lives become fresher, our souls humbler; evil seems to disappear, and we learn to distinguish sinner from the sin.

Do I see the good in people?

Higher Power, let me walk in your love and see the good in all things.

That was not meant for me right?

hmmmmm except reverse that because I wanna go golf....

Bouncer in a bar

yes and I know several people that stress me out and the drama they bring on- I recently gave up several friends and I won't look back- life is better as I have set my boundaries and continue to live better.....

TGIF.... morning BIGGGGGGGGGG YAWN

This one really helped me today....


Detachment means "freedom from emotion."

Letting someone else's behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible . Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else's "insanity" affect how we behave and how we feel.

At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others' problems or negative behavior. We may fear they'll think we simply don't care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own lives takes time and patience. But with practice, it will begin to feel comfortable. In fact, in time it will feel freeing and wonderful.

I will work on detachment today, knowing that in time the rewards will come.

There is no reality except the one contained within us.
--Herman Hesse

Claude Gellee painted lovely pictures of the English countryside. Europeans loved his landscapes, with their blue hues and mild distortions. But when the people went for the carriage rides in the country, they were disappointed because it didn't look the way Gellee had painted it. Then someone discovered that if you held blue glass up to your eyes and looked through it, the trees and hills and sky looked just like a Gellee painting! Soon everyone was looking through "Claude glasses" when they travelled.

We often let others do our seeing for us. We get lazy and rely on the images of television and movies, instead of really seeing with our own eyes. Our world becomes distorted and we lose sight of the natural beauty that surrounds us.

Each of us carries reality inside ourselves, and as we grow stronger within, we discover that we can see clearest when we trust our own eyes. There is a glorious world, full and rich, just waiting for us to

Will I see the world through my own eyes today?

hey there-
sorry, I was on vacation and did not post for a week so I will add a few more-


Grief may be a pathway to our deepest connections.

People often say, "I don't want to burden you with my troubles, you have enough to worry about." Yet sharing our troubles with our partner or close friends lightens our burden and restores our balance. Telling someone our experiences and how we feel about them helps us find and create the meaning that lurks behind them, even though they at first seem only crazy and random. Sharing with others pulls us out of isolation and brings our friends and mate into the circle of our lives.

We may be surprised to feel the knots in our stomachs loosen when we tell our stories and recount our worries or grief. Grief may make us feel more alone than anything. But it may also be a pathway for our deepest connection with each other. When we reach out and talk with our friends or mate, we break down the wall of isolation and build bridges that connect us.

Tell your partner about any grief you carry today.

I think thats a great thing to be committed to- I too have to think about things other than the money- congrats on the recent retirement... rest now and enjoy it.
Thank you for posting- I was wondering if anyone was getting anything out of this-

. . . love grows by service.
--Charlotte Perkins Gilman

When we shower someone special with much needed attention, or maybe flowers, or run an errand for a friend, or volunteer to do a favor for an unnamed person, we benefit in many ways. We're appreciated; we feel good about our own behavior, and we've tightened the connection to another person that fosters personal human development.

Most of us long for more signs of love from one another. Yet we fail to understand that our own expression of love to that special someone will release the love we long to feel.

Love multiplies with frequency of expression, whether stranger-to-stranger, friend-to-friend, lover-to-lover, parent-to-child; and everyone is the beneficiary.

Love's expression spontaneously generates more of itself, thus promising each of us what we long for.