I have already met her twice, the closest she was to me was sitting next to me in my car.

I start to think she is afraid of me big time. I just remembered, that she wouldn't even tell me that she had to pee really bad, just like in the last moment she looked at me almost sweating and told me to "could you pull into that McDonalds really quick?" with a panicked face. And that was like RIGHT next to the McDonalds..I basically had to slam on the brake and do some manouvering to pull in. I thought she was gonna throw up or a much bigger emergency then I asked her "why didn't you tell me earlier..she didn't answer. Same thing with food....and it was like 7pm already and she asked me if I could just pull in to this hot dog place...and I'm looking at her...because we already discussed that we gonna go to this restaurant..but that was like another hour away..she basically just said, that she haven't eaten anything all day (and the day before?) and almost passing out.

I'm like..I gotta pull everything out of her with pliers almost..

...I mean...Jesus........am I that scary?

I was really feeling depressed about this. Since i never had a girlfriend because for the plain simple fact i was just "no one's type" (theyd always say i'm not thier type.) and then for the past few years until last July, i was living in the boonies, couldnt drive, unless drivin, and so it was too far to walk anywhere. and now, trying to leard a 2nd languge, which is hard. But now i'm abit worried because most women my age are married with kids, and even if they're not, they have alot more life experience than i do. I know i can't possably expect a virgin. I can say that once, my dad married a woman who was 20 years younger than him and had a son, so thats at least a glimmer of hope.
And the way i am around social gatherings like that dance on the square every Sunday night, i'm still abit shy...like im back in high school again, ive never really been around people my age since high school, or maybe collage when i last went there 1995, when i took a music class, and even then it just wasnt the same. And the churches were a differant story, they seemed to believe if a man CAN not (not just will not) provide for himself and live independantly outside of his parents home then he can not ever marry...so he doesnt even have any business dating. I never really had a friend who "fixed me up" or took me out to a singles bar or someother social gathering and coached me into talking to women. (or in this case strangers i've never met) Noone ever helped me out of that, theyd just blow it off and say, "Its just God's will you're single". Thats what i've lived with my entire life. I always had a social inn addiquitsy (if i'm using the word right), they say its aspergers. I dont know anymore, all i know is, i feel like i never recieved the kind of help i really needed and now, i'm scared it just might be too late.

playa...really ought to be up-front if you have back-up otherwise you'll be left-up....just be up-right man

roko

Let's say a woman shows a lot of interest by asking how I am, what I'm doing, and sends text messages almost daily about what's happening or what I'm doing etc...

And yet avoids to meet (for an ice cream or to see a movie for example) at all cost? I have met her in person before and she acted very neutral, avoided all topics related to relationships and meeting again, only could talk about everyday topics..if one topic was headed toward dates or love etc..she changed the subject immediately.

I figured she is not interested so I didn't even try to push anything, but soon as I stopped responding to her text messages, she got all worried? And every time I ask when she is free again..she gives a day, but soon as the day approaches, she comes up with an excuse (busy,still working,other things to do etc.)

Even she comes up with a day and tells me, which day would be good, but just when the day comes, she comes up with an excuse again.

She did this 4 times now in a row.

What the hell does she want from me?

Are you women all like that? What am I supposed to do or say..I'm lost.

Hello, I am new here.

Let me start by presenting Nicholas Sparks quote: "If you like her, if she makes you happy, and if you feel like you know her---then don't let her go."

Now, I've dated this lovely woman for a year and a half. She is from another country and has a son from a prior marriage living there with her parents. She was laidoff recently and her father demanded that she comes back and leaves me. So she bought one-way ticket and I did not interfere even though I love her too much and it was very, really hard for me to let her go there.

I always thought that if a person loves another you can let them go and they will come back to you.

I dont mind her son being with us at all but thats not why she went there...

I've stopped talking to her,and asked her not to call me, secretly hoping that she would contact me, she hasn't...

Was I right not to stop her from going? What would you do?

Who needs to ask? Lick your eyebrows, and she will beg you for it.

Ok, so last night I though I would back off and he messaged me first. So I think only time will tell whether or not he is indeed interested. Also, I should have said that I felt like I had to do most of the initiating, not all of it. Either way, I will continue to back down just to give him more chances to contact me to see how that goes. Not trying to play games, just trying to level the playing field. I know I am making all of this more complicated than it really is! Lol

and the saga continues... Lol

WWhat? You already dropped the L-bomb?
Honey, shes been keeping you on the line until she decides whether a ride in that car is worth putting up with...uh....OK

I'm still talking to the lady I was talking about in the post I made Monday night. I have learned that maybe she just wants to be a FWB and that I dropped the L bomb way too soon. When it comes to asking for sex I'm kinda shy because I'm afraid that if I asked too soon in a friendship or relationship she would think that all I wanted was sex and nothing else. There for I usually wait until she asks or starts making sexual moves to me, well unless I'm drunk. I kinda have a wild and crazy side that comes out when I'm drunk. Do women like that when a man waits untill they want sex and lets the woman make the first move?