Traffic....I`m a Man

i guess no one knew that one

lets keep this thread going though so....

beautiful..beautiful..girl from the north
you burn my heart with a flickering torch
i had a dream that noone else could see
you gave me love....for...free

your experience is showing, cyber-boy

i have also marvelled at the astounding number of
genuinely wonderful people who come out of the
woodwork around here. personally i believe that sites
such as jsh may be part of a new period of easier
human interaction - hopefully intelligent and rewarding
communication - for the most part.

sometimes it can be like a coffeehouse except it is
easier to approach someone new through the computer
and there are less distractions and almost no inhibitions
if it is done right.

it will be interesting to see how this form of interaction
evolves. but Asimov may have foretold it all on Aurora.

Lex's experience notwithstanding, i have found my last two
significant relationships with the help of online communication and so i'd say - no, there is nothing wrong here...it's working for us for the most part. if you find half as many fantastic people on here as i have then 1) i'll be surprised that you haven't found more and 2) you will have a great amount of fun here...

excellent post btw, and, welcome to jsh

So true, and you would think this would have been far better in these days of modern communications, cheaper airline tickets, and now you can even be in touch to someone's computer whilst you are on a mobile phone. Or maybe we are being too picky?

I think its because a lot of people arent willing to do the whole long distant relationship thing. I for one am willing. Why not take a chance with someone, even if they live so far away?

A few of the problems I've noticed:

1.) There's often a distance issue. I've noticed that practically all of the people I correspond with here are very far away. The locals won't talk to me at all. And I've had bad experiences with long-distance realtionships in the past, so I was not looking for another predictable LDR train wreck.

2.) Some people have unrealistic expectations, myself included. When I first signed up here (and on the other 9822 dating sites I've tried), I was hoping to meet someone who didn't drink and didn't have kids. As far as I can tell, no such person exists here. I was lucky in that I ended up getting back together with my ex, who did fit all of my required criteria!

3.) Horror stories and bad past relationships have made some people so paranoid that they'll sign up on dating sites but never really let anyone get to know them. They like the idea of the attention, but only so long as it's "safe."

4.) There is a perception that people on dating sites are "desperate" (this is gradually dissipating, but you'll still see the odd question like: "Would you admit to your friends and family that you met your significant other on a dating site?" -- the stigma is lessening, but it still exists) and this draws predatory types who like to prey on the "desperate" (or those they perceive as such)....which feeds into #3 above.

5.) A huge percentage of people on dating sites are rude, immature, and confrontational, thereby making the whole experience less palatable than it could be for many, and driving away a significant number of the more decent people.

6.) A huge percentage of people on dating sites simply don't have the communication and/or writing skills to create an effective profile or meaningful (or even comprehensible) e-mail/IM correspondence.

7.) For many people, on line dating is simply less effective than more traditional methods.

8.) I've seen a lot of people who seem to only use on line dating as a sort of "interim strategy" when they're between real-world entanglements. It fills in the gap, so to speak. Once they find another real-life person, the sites go on the back burner. JSH is a little different because of its "community" aspect, which keeps people coming back; but, on most sites I've been on, it's not uncommon for someone to disappear for several months, then show up again and say, "I'm back, it didn't work out," and pick up right where they left off. So there is still this idea that dating sites are a "lesser form."

I'm sure there are other issues, as well, and everyone's situation is different. These are just some of my thoughts and observations accumulated over several years.

How can religion be more of a factor than the underlying circumstances? Religion is also a major reason for people feeding the poor, respect, and non violent resistance. As I said before religion is never the reason but an excuse, even between Palestine & Isreal.

As for Islam, someone who's never read the Qu'ran pretends to know an awful lot about Islam and what the Qu'ran says, but the truth is Salam;^]

thank you so very much mirror....

i really appreciate your comment here

i try to be kind and practice courtesy and diplomacy ...
but i have never professed perfection in me, ever ...

it seems that many people who do not profess Christianity
are under the impression that Christians are supposed to be perfect....but that is soooo far from the case.....
we are not perfect...
we are forgiven by the shed Blood of Jesus

i certainly did not mean to offend anyone
by that joke....absolutely no one....
it was sent to me via email
i had no idea it would get such a reaction....


some people seem to come out of the woodwork
to attack things i say ...
they don't really know me,
and i don't really know them
and things get blown out of proportion....

i don't feel that i go seeking after others
to find ways to criticize their beliefs...

but i do see many people
who do not profess God to be walking around
with tombstones in their eyes....

i try to enlighten and to love and to bring hope
and purpose to those who are searching endlessly
and don't even know what or who they are looking for

i know many people who don't believe in God,

and i love them anyway ....
i have sent messages to one person on a thread,

and then i get slammed with criticism
because the message was misunderstood
and some people take personally what i say
& it gets completely blown out of proportion

and i felt like everything i was saying
was being misconstrued soooo..
perhaps you could understand
a bit of my dilemma

Pretty funny Lording.

Check this out.

Starship Troopers Propaganda:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtoffvEhNkg

What he's talking about is further up in Romans 14. Christians are taught to not fight over doctrine. The authors point is that someone who is doing false teachings isn't covered by Romans 14. If someone teaches that Jesus wasn't God, a Christian is called upon to challenge that teaching. I agree with that author completely, but it has nothing to do with anything else that has been posted in this thread. Perhaps another example of you feeling the need to get in shots even when they do nothing to further the conversation...just so long as you can feel like you "won".

One cannot be both Jewish and Catholic at the same time.... It is like being a meat eating vegitarian....WTF???

Religions are often used as an excuse for war or bloodshed, but you really have to look at the teachings of a religion to judge if the religion incites violence or if the religion was used as an excuse for violence.

Two things.

1) Lust is a sin. If you can masturbate without feeling lust, then go to point 2.

2) Romans 14:23 "But whoever has doubts is condemned if he eats, because this is not from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin."

If you have questions in your heart if something is a sin or not, then it is a sin. If you think "Maybe God will get mad if I do this" and do it anyways, then that tells God that there are things of this world that are more important to you than God. It doesn't matter if it's something that isn't a sin, if you do something and believe you might be sinning, then you are.

Well I just do not think a person can lay down and masterbate to the glory of the Lord.

How is that even possible??

Lording,

That looks like an excerpt
from 1984 by George Orwell.