either way,,,,,,,,,doomed

Foresight... All I can say is that you have to decide if you can stay with her the way she is behaving now. It might change, it might not. You have to be prepared for that.

If you marry her and she does not stop the behavior ~ you can not be angry with her. You knew what you were getting...

Food for thought.

whoa.... in 3 months... that is soooo not a good idea... she's not ready

maybe feelings, but possibly more suppressed anger than feelings of love

Is she really worth picking up another charge for?

People have different reasons to talk about these things. Sometimes it is relative to something current. Sometimes they are just processing. Sometimes it is due to unresolved feelings...
Analyzing her motives is a sign of something out of order in me.. not her.

I don't take it personally, myself.
If I did.. I would think I was not too secure in the relationship.. Regardless of what she is talking or not talking about. That is my issue, not hers.

So.. My significant other can express herself how ever she feels necessary with me.

Is she really worth picking up another charge for?

Well... I have to say that it sounds like she is holding YOU to whatever standards she has for a guy. That you can not live up to what he imagines him to be like, based on what her sister says.

I'd have to say she is seems to be behaving in a way that indicates she is not ready for a relationship... any healthy one that is. You are you, not him. Are you prepared to stay second best to a fantasy?

Not at all, I was with my ex for 23 years and we have 3 kids together, how can you not talk about him. And it is and was a part of your life so...

Are you sure you're not dealing with some confidence or esteem problems? No dys intended.

Oh, and it also depends upon the manner in which they are spoken of! Talk with her or him.

ok say if we were going out and i call you and say my brother n his gf does so much stuff n she treats him so well you'll be like well why are you so worried about them see how the girl shes talking to is my ex that she stole

no...i would dump them in a heartbeat...go ahead, try it...walking away is sooooo theraputic

Nope. If you could explain that'd be great.

Then how does she talk about him?

What are shrinkers for ..... Discuss it with them....perhaps it may lighten the load.....

Well, how does she talk about him? How often do you see him at family functions? Do you go out with them as a group?

tell her it hurts you when she talks about him, too...

You can remind her of the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder.." as it also tends to help us forget how situations suck and only think about what could've been... she needs a wake up call about how the guy is NOT with her, hasn't been with her, and obviously cares about the sis, and it's something that she has to deal with... or just give you up.true!

I think of my ex daily....I think someday I'll let her out of the trunk of my car She just makes too much noise back there

there is probally jealousy issues along with...caring...that would be a confusing situation.....