Here's my take: If you are a man and talk about sex online,(or when first meeting) you will alienate/put off most women.
Men tend to think about sex a lot, and most are instantly aroused when they see a woman they are attracted to. Men are very visual and are biologically wired to leave little copies of themselves all over the place.
Women though want to know first how they feel about a man (and consider how much most woman need a man, when raising a baby).
Women are generally not PRIMARILY concerned about looks or material wealth,though some of the latter is generally important if a couple decides they want to have children together.
Women want to feel SAFE with you and appreciated for who they are. So recognise and appreciate them as living, breathing, feeling people, not sex objects.
Sure they want to be appreciated for how they look/dress, that's how they initially attract a potential mate.
If you take a genuine interest in a woman and share something of yourself, they will usually warm to you, providing you are sincere/genuine and giving. And if you are meeting, make sure your teeth are in good shape, you smell O.K. and your clothes are clean. Most women are very fussy about these things.
Do not think about what you may get/take from a woman, think about what you can give her. And I am not thinking here about material things. You are good enough as a man. And you can make both your day and the woman's day a little bit better through taking an interest in her.
Most women will know when your words don't match your body language/energy.
So if a man is interested in a woman then he needs to temporarily switch off his sex brain, however hard this may be, and concentrate on being in the moment and connect with the woman on a feeling level.
And don't have expectations. What will be will be.