"You really had to be there ..."

...I like this question, I've given it alot of thought recently. My first thought is that baggage is a culmination of history that is still affecting your person in a substantial, or 'out of the norm' way. For example, 'I'm still in love with her', or 'it still hurts when I think of ...", those sorts of things. I hear ALOT of people say "I don't want to be involved with you if you have baggage", but I think that statement is being intellectually dishonest with yourself ~ we all have baggage in one way or another, so perhaps it's not IF you have it, but more to the point HOW you deal with it.

... just ask me.

... completely off topic, but Gypsy41: you have great lips, nice smile

... Someone with the Mingle name 'Kitkatkro' ~ I like everything I read on her profile, she seems genuine, articulate and it doesn't exactly hurt that she happens to be very pretty. Pretty close to an ideal 'pic' for me. Figures ~ she's in a different state ...

... Christo ~ just a nickname, but had to add an extra 'C' because the original spelling was taken.

.. Bull. That's been mine forever. Lots of reasons, from back in the day & seeing red when I got angry, to the whole 'Bull in a China Shop', to my size. It stuck, and my friends still think it's funny.

... We've all had them. What's one of your nicknames (not just your Mingle2 name) and how did it come about ?

gotta ask...

There's a broad at work (yeah.. i called her a broad) that i don't consider a friend .. she's a frenemy. she's dramafied and brings her personal problems to the workplace which sucks. her husband works with us...

he's more of a friend to me. now i'm kinda tomboyish with some guys because i know i can be comfortable enough to talk football and stupid cheesy movies and stuff with them. he's one of those guys. its cool.. the frenemy doesn't usually seem to mind but we don't hang outside of work. i mean out of respect for their marriage.. yaknow? that would just be weird.

so...

last night... at like 1am...

guess who knocks on my door??? frenemy's husband. said he was sick of fighting with frenemy and wanted to know if he could hang a bit just to cool off.

so i let him in. i just couldn't say no. i mean i just felt bad for him because shes' a real winner (please insert sarcasm here).

we played wii and laughed and talked football until about 4:30am. then he went home and i crashed out.

when i told my sister and best friend.. they both looked at me like i was crazy for letting him in and are now afraid that frenemy will be psycho at work with me tomorrow.

should i have turned him away?

and if soo.. how should i handle psycho tomorrow?

i have never ever in my life been in this kind of situation. i mean i'm no threat to her. i don't see him like that and thats that... so what now???


... I don't think you necessarily should have turned him away, and I'm glad that you guys had a good time hangin, but ... the line definitely needs to be drawn now, you need to set the boundry clearly so there is no way that inferrences can be taken from you. Draw the line, leave it as it is, and all will be well.

...My personal favorite is Mothertrucker. Comes in handy, useful in many occasions. Like traffic meatheads that feel it necessary to NOT let you in when you're in a merging lane .... Yup. Mothertrucker. Love it.

...Great question; hmmm ... oh, here's one no one else would notice that I don't like about me: bags under my eyes; they've developed over this past year, because I've turned into a horrible sleeper. Nothing else about me physically, because that's why God made 24-hour fitness, and if I change anything about how I look, it wouldn't really be me ~ it'd be a facade. Bad habits, character flaws I can change, and personality wise I'm still growing. I guess that's it for me.

alrightttt my name is laura lol


.. Well thanks for the rating ~ I'd give you a 4 from your scale. Laura, you have style - keep it up.

~ Chris

... I've had it done to me just once, ironically by the very woman I fell in love with HARD; I can't even begin to describe how much it hurt. It did nothing for closure, it only fostered a wide variety of feelings and thoughts, none of which were healthy, and ended with me turning this person off in my heart, something I never wanted in the first place. I will never do that to someone else ~ it's rude, insensitive, dismissive, childish and painful.

... Do it.

... Yes, I was with a client at work, a sweet elderly nun, and we were just sitting there talking when, from my desk, comes James Brown singing 'I feel like a sex machine'. I wanted to dissolve into thin air right then. Now of course I laugh every time I think about it.

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that once in a lifetime love, the missing piece of the puzzle that is your life, the one who makes you light up inside like a Christmas tree with just a smile, the one who makes you feel like the King of the World holding just her ~ what would you give, or give up, to be with her (him) ?

Oo==00==oO

would draw a clear distinction between being intellectually intimidating (Lex might fall into that category) and just being a bully.


Excellent distinction ~ intimidation always starts with our intellect, sometimes backed up with physical intimidation. But either way, being intimidating IS different than being a bully; bully's pick on the weak, because inside THEY are the weak ones. As a former intimidator, I did it because I had the false idea I was The ****. Wrong. Just glad I grew up.