Topic: messed up
stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:05 PM
a question i have is, should i tell her that i realize that i messed up by telling her my feelings?

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:09 PM

a question i have is, should i tell her that i realize that i messed up by telling her my feelings?


why are you assuming the guilt? you did nothing wrong (that I can see) by expressing your feelings, so did she.

Why accept guilt? if you're doubting the relationship, why would you allow her to be the one to break things off? not being judgemental, truly curious

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:14 PM
I'm doubting the relationship, yet I still want to be with her

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:19 PM

I'm doubting the relationship, yet I still want to be with her



sounds like a catch 22
good luck 2 u flowerforyou

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:20 PM
i left her a message an hour and a half ago to see if she wanted to get together because she said the other day that we would, it's shiiiit like this that i deal with all the time, she won't return my calls...at least call me to tell me we aren't going to get together or are going to.

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:24 PM
Edited by franshade on Wed 04/23/08 12:27 PM
sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou
If she has not returned your feelings, calls, messages, etc., I truly would look elsewhere. but this is only my opinion.


stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:27 PM

sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:30 PM


sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.



Now hold up dude. We were tryin to help you here, and next thing ya know you are railin on US? WTH. grumble devil

And not ALL of us are desperate. Some of us aren't even ON HERE to find anyone. ie, one being me. I'm here for forum and friends.

And even if they are on here to find someone, online dating is just another medium to meet people.

Who are you to come off so degrading to others, who just like you are on JSH? WOW. Check the attitude at the door dude.devil glasses

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:33 PM



sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.



Now hold up dude. We were tryin to help you here, and next thing ya know you are railin on US? WTH. grumble devil

And not ALL of us are desperate. Some of us aren't even ON HERE to find anyone. ie, one being me. I'm here for forum and friends.

And even if they are on here to find someone, online dating is just another medium to meet people.

Who are you to come off so degrading to others, who just like you are on JSH? WOW. Check the attitude at the door dude.devil glasses


that's one of the things i don't like being called is needy, i get defensive when people call me that...i had one girl call me needy when I saw her once a week and called her 3 times a week, i don't call that needy.

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:34 PM
Okay .. I agree. That's NOT needy. Geesh my BF calls me a # of times a day.

But don't get all derogatory to everyone on here for one person's poor use of verbage hon. :wink:

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:35 PM
I actually see couples, unmarried, with each other all the time and they have been together for a few months, I guess I will never have that, I do want that where the girl is so into me that she wants to be with me a lot.

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:35 PM


sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.


no steven, everyone here is not looking for someone. No need for the aggression, she hasnt returned your call and your sounding desperate, if I misread or misunderstood my apologies but dont underestimate my advice, if she's showing you no attention maybe she truly is not as interested as you, or she may be busier than you. unable to respond/reply as you wish.

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:36 PM

Okay .. I agree. That's NOT needy. Geesh my BF calls me a # of times a day.

But don't get all derogatory to everyone on here for one person's poor use of verbage hon. :wink:


I apologize

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:37 PM



sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.


no steven, everyone here is not looking for someone. No need for the aggression, she hasnt returned your call and your sounding desperate, if I misread or misunderstood my apologies but dont underestimate my advice, if she's showing you no attention maybe she truly is not as interested as you, or she may be busier than you. unable to respond/reply as you wish.



She may be busy, but what is a one minute phone call to say not today.

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:38 PM
Edited by franshade on Wed 04/23/08 12:40 PM




sounding mighty needy JMO flowerforyou


yeah, thanks for that, being needy means what? haven't seen her in 3 weeks. I don't even know what JMO is. Needy is everyone on this freaken site, so desperate to find someone we go online to find that someone who doesn't exist.


no steven, everyone here is not looking for someone. No need for the aggression, she hasnt returned your call and your sounding desperate, if I misread or misunderstood my apologies but dont underestimate my advice, if she's showing you no attention maybe she truly is not as interested as you, or she may be busier than you. unable to respond/reply as you wish.



She may be busy, but what is a one minute phone call to say not today.


as you can tell by this post, 2 people dont necessarily need to agree but neither is wrong.


laugh maybe this is why you misunderstood
JMO = just my opinion (not written in stone/only my opinion)flowerforyou

no photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:47 PM

I totally messed things up, I started dating a girl the beginning of january, I told her last month that I fell in love with her. That was a couple days before her birthday, and she said I love you too. Well, we haven't seen each other for 3 weeks, and i couldn't figure out why. Her facebook page under relationship status says "it's complicated". On one of her mini feed stories it says, "Michelle is thinking why do they have to complicate it by saying I love you? Just leave it at the door folks....leave it at the door." I should have kept it to myself.


Sorry this happened to you. I guess it's up to you whether you wait and let her break it off, or you go ahead and be the one to do it. It's possible that she made that post, hoping you would read it, because she didn't have the courage to say "it's over." Some people don't have the guts to be upfront in person, which sucks, but it happens. Again, I'm sorry it didn't work out as you hoped it would. Good luck in the future, though. flowerforyou

stevenpwis's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:52 PM
A week after I told her, that's when she told me she's a virgin, she's 29.

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:54 PM


Okay .. I agree. That's NOT needy. Geesh my BF calls me a # of times a day.

But don't get all derogatory to everyone on here for one person's poor use of verbage hon. :wink:


I apologize


accepted .. and good luck. Just move on though. She's not into you hon. flowerforyou

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:57 PM



Okay .. I agree. That's NOT needy. Geesh my BF calls me a # of times a day.

But don't get all derogatory to everyone on here for one person's poor use of verbage hon. :wink:


I apologize


accepted .. and good luck. Just move on though. She's not into you hon. flowerforyou


thanks Fade flowerforyou

However, there was no poor use of verbage, I expressed my opinion. flowerforyou

franshade's photo
Wed 04/23/08 12:57 PM
Edited by franshade on Wed 04/23/08 12:57 PM
double post grumble grumble grumble